2007-10-22 12:46:18 · 52 answers · asked by Bayou Baby 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Most definitely -- I had a best friend who was bipolar and it was very confusing to me for a long time and then I found out. Because I CARED about this person, I make myself knowledgeable about it which made it a LOT EASIER to communicate.
2007-10-22 12:49:50 · answer #1 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get too personal until you are serious with him. If sex is involved, then you definately should because he should be aware of all of the possibilities should you get pregnant. Bipolar disorder is highly hereditary and he should be aware of that. If your not at that level with him yet I wouldn't make a big deal about it because if things don't workout between you and him than he could use this against you. If he's not that type of person and you feel uncomfortable keeping "secrets" then I'd tell him. Either way, I'm sure there's plenty of things about himself that he hasn't told you yet. When you do tell him though, I wouldn't make such a big deal about it. Just tell him that your the same girl and the only difference is that he knows your diagnosis and the only reason you didn't tell him before is because you didn't want to make a big deal about it.
2007-10-22 13:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by Pequeña Traviesa ™ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Truthfully being bi-polar is just a saying because there is no way to really see if somebody is bi-polar. there is a test but its just a list of questions. 70 percent could take the online bi-polar test and show to be bi-polar. The same goes with adhd you cant prove its there. If you look at the brain of a supposed normal person and a bi-polar person it looks the same.
Although a true crazy person a differance in brain waves can be seen.
Yes i am sure that there is such thing as some bi polar or adhd people but doctors give this out to anybody with a pocketbook. Money is in the treatment not the cure.
Even if you really are bi-polar i think your bf wont mind. He seems to get along with you so far.
2007-10-22 12:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by phillip 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ummmm...duh....you should be honest with him upfront. b/c what if he wasn't cool with that? and you waited until you were really serious? if he was a good guy, then he wouldn't have a problem with it, but what if he was one of the guys that would drop you cold? you don't want to have any secrets if you want to have a true honest relationship that is going to last.
here is another example: if you were divorced and you didn't tell him about it until you got really serious about each other. he might not believe in divorce-and therefore cannot continue to date you-(im not saying that he won't continue to date you if you tell him..this is hypothetically speaking) if you want a good relationship, it should be first built on honesty, because if you aren't honest with each other, then the relationship is basically a lie.
and if he can't handle you having bipolar disorder, then he has issues and you should drop hiim.
2007-10-22 12:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by ihaveaquestion 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do need to tell him, but I'm not sure I would drop that on him right now. Get to know each other a little better... then tell him.
Bipolar Disorder is usually manageable with medications, so it shouldn't really present a problem. (My older sister does not take her meds, and all kinds of $.hit hits the fan with her relationships!)
2007-10-22 12:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by ☺ . CIEL . ☺ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Gently, yes! If he's actually your boyfriend, and if he's the kind of boyfriend you really want, you need to be upfront. Any guy who freaks out right away probably can't handle a relationship, and if he knows what's going on, he'll feel more respected AND be more understanding if you have some rough moments.
2007-10-22 12:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by Zazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. I think any true relationship ment to last has to be built on the fundaments of trust and truth.
There is nothing wrong with you having the illness, besides it can be treated and controlled.
Imagine how dissapointed your boyfriend would be to find out from somebody else and he would think you lied to him.
Invite him to some neutral and quiet place and tell him all about it. I am sure he will understand, and if not he is not the right person, not your Prince Charming
Good luck
2007-10-22 12:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by GreenEyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. If he loves you, which I'm sure he does, he will understand. Being bipolar you should tell all those who care about you so they can support you. There's nothing to be ashamed of. I hope it all works out well!
2007-10-22 12:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by Professor Bradley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, what kind of relationship could it be without complete honesty with each other. That is one of the basis for a good relationship. Unless you really don't care about him.
2007-10-22 12:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by pramon0119 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not something you can hide. If this is someone who is going to be a major part of your life, its a must. This person is going to have to learn how to deal with the cycles. Keeping this person in the dark only complicates a complicated situtation.
2007-10-22 12:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by Peanut Gallery 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋