my husband is in the army yes is now in Iraq but his sister told him i was cheatin on him now he stopped the BAH.she is in a different state now how would she know that and i haven't been cheatin, anyway i haven't had it since may (BAH)and everybody i talk to is actin like they dont care, because of him i was living off the BAH alone this is what he wanted me to do so fine i did it.then when he stopped it i became homeless cause i couldn't pay my rent now i'm livin with a friend sleepin on their floor and barely eating cause i dont have any food of my own.can any body help me at all really.any tips anyone i can talk to anything please.THANKS
2007-10-22 12:43:22 · 15 answers · asked by latinostraberi 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Okay, here's the deal.
Army personnel are required to adequately support their dependents. That doesn't mean that they can say "Sergeant, I hereby order you to write a check for $XXX to your wife." What it means is that they can do nasty things (like Article 15 punishment) if the member fails to adequately support his dependent.
Army Regulation 608-99 "FAMILY SUPPORT, CHILD CUSTODY, AND PATERNITY" requires a soldier to provide an amount equal to BAH Type II (at the "With Dependent" rate) for the soldier's grade.
http://www.usapa.army.mil/pdffiles/r608_99.pdf here's the regulation.
Contact his commander or first sergeant and ask for an appointment to meet. Bring in your military ID card. Explain that your sponsor is completely failing to support you, and ask for assistance.
I would also suggest that you obtain a bank account number prior to the meeting, in just your name and for just this purpose. You can then give the direct deposit information to the commander or first sergeant to pass on to your (not so loving) sponsor.
If the commander or first sergeant refuses to meet with you, contact the post commander's office. I'm sure you'll get an appointment with either the commander or the command sergeant major...and they'll be very interested in the lower level commander/first sergeant's failure to meet with you or assist you.
You should also talk to Army Emergency Relief (see http://www.aerhq.org ) and see if they can give you some short term assistance. You're sleeping on someone's freaking floor, and that's not acceptable.
Last bit of advice...be calm and polite when dealing with these folks (commanders, AER, etc.). They are trying to help you, but if you cop an attitude it can make things turn out badly.
Master Sergeant
United States Air Force (Retired)
2007-10-22 13:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Without getting into the rather you did or didn't I can tell you he owes you a portion of the BAH until you have a divorce finalized. I can tell you that my info is fact because I've been in for almost 11 years and seen this happen more than once. If you are not divorced then you would start by going to the rear-d and explaining the situation. If they are blowing you off then go get some legal advise from JAG...just for the piece of mind that you hear from them that you are entitled to a portion of that money. Next, send a red cross message stating the problem...which should catch his chain of command's eye. If you still can't get anywhere I'm not exactly sure what you do, but I would think it would be some kind of legal action. In most cases the army doesn't like to hear of soldiers leaving their wives with nothing and correct the issue.
2007-10-22 12:56:51 · answer #2 · answered by The Government Mule 1 · 2⤊ 4⤋
The nursery rhyme not only is not racist, it has nothing to do with racism at all. I loved the nursery rhyme as a child. The black sheep in other forms: Black sleep of the family, meaning the one who didn't always obey the rules. That is disgusting to think your brother got into trouble over that. You did not mention who got him in trouble for it. It is plain silly anyway to get in trouble over this. Somebody is just trying to stir something up. Best advice: Let it be.
2016-04-09 22:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im not sure what game you are playing... but i read your previous questions, from last week..one states you want to be pregnant by your hubby and the other question you asked if you may have an STD from a guy you have been sleeping with for the past month ....here is a quote from one of your questions "I have been haven sex with the same guy for the past mounth" ....geeeez and you wonder why people THINK you are cheating on your husband...maybe because you ARE!!! Get a life , get a divorce and let your husband find a real woman
2007-10-22 16:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by Army♥Wife 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
He has to take care of his family. Not sure exactly how the BAH was "stopped" because he doesnt really have a choice in that....if the amount of the BAH was set up on an allotment, and he stopped it, then change it back. If you dont have his password for mypay, then first, talk to the chaplain and he can help get you a food voucher, so can ACS. Second, talk to rear D and let them "work the issue" to resolution. Third....get a job? If he isnt going to take care of you, then you have to take care of yourself. You cant starve to death and just blame it on someone else. You be responsible for YOU, and let the army worry with your husband not doing what he is supposed to do. Now, get off of Yahoo Answers and fix the problem.
2007-10-22 12:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
While I hate to see a soldier get screwed.......
If you know the military unit your husband is in, or someone who can tell you, you need to track down the "First Sergent" who is left in garrison. All you will need to do is explain the situation and mutter the words "abandonment" a few times and the First Sergeant will get right on the phone to his leadership downrange. I've been in this situation with troops before. While he is not obligated to "give" you the BAH, he is obligated to ensure you are taken care of as long you are his dependent.
2007-10-22 13:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mullet-Man 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
He can't stop BAH it is something you automatically get unless you live on post. If you have a power of attorney go to fincance and see if he has rerouted the money and you can route it to your account.If he is flat out with holding funds you need to get in contact with the rear-d commander of his unit and if he doesn't help you go to IG...I have a friend in that same situation and thats what she had to do to get money agian..good luck.
2007-10-22 13:44:24 · answer #7 · answered by Heather D 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
If you have Power of Attorney, you can start it back up again (although I'm not sure if he can actually stop it because he has dependants). But if he switched which account it was going to and you know his mypay information, just go online and change it back...or you can go to finance to fix it. If you don't have P.O.A....no idea how to help you. You could always ask someone in your FRG group (if you have one) or the Rear D Commander what to do.
2007-10-22 12:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
How about not cheating on your husband?Unless his family is absolutely evil, I don't think they would put that on a man's plate when it seem he has enough on it(i.e.not losing his life in Iraq!) ,without being certain. Maybe you haven't cheated but maybe some of your actions could have been interpreted as cheating.I have a headache now. I don't know you, and I don't like to pass judgment on other people.Maybe this is what you need to get YOUR life straightened out.
2007-10-22 13:13:47 · answer #9 · answered by Vic Venom 1 · 2⤊ 5⤋
I'm not sure how he stopped BAH, considering thats hundreds of free dollars. If you have separate bank accounts and he changed it from going to your bank account to his then there is little you can do. You can always contact his first shirt (first sergeant), tell him that your husband is not taking care of you and see what he can do for you. By law you have to take care of your spouse when deployed...and your unit has to take care of you while hes gone as well.
2007-10-22 12:51:09 · answer #10 · answered by whylekyotee2003 3 · 3⤊ 4⤋