My fiance is Mexican and wants to do the lasso. It's just like a big Rosary that goes around both the bride and groom to symbolize the joining of the two into one.
I really wanted to have the unity candle, but it really means the same thing. I can sacrifice it if it's going to look redundant, what do you think?
2007-10-22 12:31:04 · 13 answers · asked by BlackDahlia 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, the ceremony is going to be long anyway because there's going to be a full mass. Even without either it will take longer than an hour.
2007-10-22 15:21:51 · update #1
i think you should do both
i am hispanic and i can tell you that we do both
they symbolize different things actually
the lasso is usually given to you by a married couple that is suppose to kinda watch over you and guide you all throughout your marriage...kinda like godparents
the unity candle is more of a commitment to each other that you will never be separate again and that you will not let the candle blow out on your marriage
2007-10-22 12:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be redundant to do both. The unity candle actually symbolizes the joining of two families, usually the brides parents light 1 of the smaller candles and the grooms parents light the other. Then the bride and groom each take a candle and light the Unity candle.
I think you could do the Unity candle, then immediatly after do the lasso. Usually a song is played while the Unity candle is being lit, you can probably do the lasso during the same song.
Sounds like a nice blending of different traditions, good luck!
2007-10-22 19:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding ceremony shouldn't last more than an hour. That means ceremonies, vows, the whole shebang. (you can fudge this and not count the time for people to walk up and down the aisle since it only takes like 10 mins. tops)
After that people get uncomfortable, bored, and start to zone out and really pay no attention.
If you can fit both ceremonies into that hour I say go for it. If not perahaps do the Lasso in the church and a quick version of the unity candle sometime during the reception.
2007-10-22 22:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My professional advice:
Start with the Unity Candle. Let your moms enter light the taper and then take their seat, then when you arrive at the altar you light the unity candle. This will be symbolic of your families blessing and willingness to join as one and it will be foreshadowing the vows you are about to make. The do the lasso at the end as a celebration of the vows you have just made. Like book ends.
2007-10-23 00:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by bountifiles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. My husband (who is the white one) and I did the whole thing, Unity candle,lasso, coins. My priest said it's done many times. By doing both your bringing your cultures together. I think it turned out beautiful.
Edit: With a full mass and all traditions the mass took no more than an hour.
2007-10-22 20:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by mysteryperson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could do both or you could put the lasso around the unity candle... I saw this recently at a wedding and it looked really nice because they look a little piece of the lasso so it was like this Q with the little tail and either melted or glued it to the candle.
2007-10-22 21:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by yungin4lyfe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I wish they'd say "I do" already. I'm an old lady and my dentures are going to float away if I don't get to a ladies room pretty soon.
Seriously, try to keep the smaller "ceremony within the cermony" stuff reasonable. If you're going all out with special entrances for each grandparent, speeches, readings, and all that sort of stuff, then two seperate "joining" ceremonies is too much of a good thing. If the rest of the wedding is quick and to the point, then go ahead and have a "his & hers" display of unity ceremonies. Just plan with a stop watch in hand and granny's bladder in mind.
2007-10-22 20:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i have to say i went for the unity candel although i could have done the lasso as well...
its really up to a compromise from both of you...
i went to an interracial marriage where the women was mexican and the man was african american...
they did the lasso and the jumping of the broom because they thought it was important to the family and to themselves...
its up to the bride and groom
2007-10-22 19:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mia ღ AJ ღ Faithy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every tradition in a wedding means pretty much the same thing (unity/love), so do whichever traditions you want. Its not going to take much extra time anyways.
2007-10-22 19:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can do both I suggest the candle first and then the lazo, wich goes after the coins and rings.
2007-10-23 12:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by Marquel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋