So, i met this girl and setup a date. She said she has to leave town the day after. when I texted her the day before the date she said she already left town and was in the hospital for appendix reasons and was in the hospital. She's probably back now, but the vibe is kinda skewed between us since we haven't talked or texted in 5 days. how is a guy to setup a date in this situation?
2007-10-22 12:07:38 · 9 answers · asked by 33ea 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Slowly talk to her, dont bring to much on her at one time just slowly start saying things. and she will start to get more used to everything and then bring it up!
2007-10-22 12:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about backing off a bit and thinking of her as a human being, not just date fodder? Sorry if this sounds harsh, but if you do, your way is more clear...
You call or text to check up on her. She may not be feeling quite up to her old self yet. "Hi - how are you?" Ask if there's anything she needs (if she's stuck at home, she may be dying for a milkshake, for example).
Keep it light. "Boy, this is the most creative way I've ever seen to get out of a date, but you're not off the hook yet. As soon as you're feeling up to it, I'm taking you out for some fun!"
You listen to what she's saying, get an idea of how she's feeling. If she's fine, then you move on to, "You really had me scared for a minute. Ready to get out and enjoy yourself? How about (insert date activity here)."
See what I'm talking about? You show your concern for her as a human being who's been ill, and confirm your interest. If she's not up to going out, then you offer to drop over with a movie, or ask if there's a magazine or book she'd like to read. Offer to bring over a treat (ask what she likes that she can have).
If she's okay, and interested, she'll let you know that, and you plan a "regular" date. If she's not feeling back to normal yet, and interested, she'll appreciate your thoughtfulness.
2007-10-22 12:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll call you if she really wants that date. It could be possible that she was really in the hospital, but chances are that she didn't want to go on the date and just made up a crazy excuse for not being able to go. I wouldn't go out of my way to get ahold of her, but don't blow her off if she tries to reach you. Best of luck with the situation!
2007-10-22 12:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her nicely ...if you guys were flirtatious with one another be flirtatious and tell her you really missed her and you want to see her gain and when can you guys hang out. youll know what kind of vibe she is feeling with her response. tak it from there. if she doesnt sound interested than you have to move on.
2007-10-22 12:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
juss txt or call her and ask her how she is and then go from there and be like well would u like to meet up some time for a dinner or a movie. an juss go from there
2007-10-22 12:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by Cole.Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on.
2007-10-22 12:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you want to try and set up another date since you havent talked for about a week...send her flowers or something.
2007-10-22 12:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by justinnnnn7 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask for a rain check considering what she went through
don't forget to ask how she is feeling
2007-10-22 12:10:37 · answer #8 · answered by ann s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a get-well card.
2007-10-22 12:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋