I'm a freelance writer/editor. I had an interview tonight. I left all of the ingredients necessary for my husband to make dinner and have it ready. It's 6:00 PM CST. Dinner won't be ready for another hour and I am starving.
2007-10-22 12:07:18 · 14 answers · asked by socmum16 ♪ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Dont pet the sweaty things, & dont sweat the petty things.
2007-10-23 05:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assume you have kids, since you wrote this in this section? Maybe you've noticed that things come up when you've got kids around that can prevent you from getting things done on schedule? I try to have dinner ready when my husband gets home, but if one kid is having trouble figuring out her piano piece, two other kids are getting into an escalating argument about who had the toy first, and the baby has found an uncapped marker and is trying out a mural on the wall then dinner will be ready later.
(And it's only 6 pm? You could still make dinner together and be eating at a time when many people are just sitting down to dinner.... Put out some cheese and crackers, open a bottle of wine, put on some music, and enjoy the hour of cooking as a family! Way more fun than nursing a grudge....)
2007-10-22 21:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by ... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether it's your right to be upset or not really isn't going to change the facts. Dinner is cooking, it'll be ready soon, you won't starve. If you are hungry now have a snack to tide you over until it is ready. Nothing good or productive will come from you being upset over something so trivial as dinner not being ready when you think it should be. Think about it in reverse, what would you feel and think if your husband came home and didn't find dinner ready when he felt it should be so he got upset about it. I doubt you'd take it very well. Truthfully, being upset doesn't change anything and isn't helpful to the situation. Be understanding, help out with finishing dinner, and get past it.
2007-10-22 19:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Without more details, I just can't know for sure. I will say that most guys look up at dinner time and go "oh sh*t!". I have lived with my husband for 4 years and he still blows it and sometimes it's already dinner time and he was supposed to defrost something or grocery shop and forgot!
In the grand scheme of things, it isn't a big deal. Doesn't stop me from getting upset, though :-)
I will add a little bit of advice: Men are seen as "helping" when they pitch in, and we women tend to leave them specific instructions to follow. Your husband is not "helping" when he needs to make dinner, it's his responsibility too. You may have better luck just telling him to figure out dinner. It may not be exactly what you want, but he may respond better than getting a "honey do" list.
2007-10-22 19:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by eli_star 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Being upset will not get the dinner finished early. He may have been lacking in the pace department, and let you down...but just drink a couple glasses of water and shrug it off. This isn't the evening for conflict or bad feelings between you two.
2007-10-22 19:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did he not make it after you left him specific instructions?
If so, yes, you should be angry! You've been working hard and your husband didn't even make you dinner? Do you have small children? If you did and he was taking care of them, that's another story. He may have been working hard at getting string beans out of your toddler's hair or getting your son to stop eating the dog food. Otherwise, there's no excuse. Get some crackers and cheese and munch on them while you wait for your dinner. You deserve it=)
2007-10-22 19:11:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Does he have the right to be mad any time you don't have dinner ready for him?
Have some veg, a salad or a piece of fruit.
2007-10-22 19:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does this happen all the time?
Was there a reason why dinner was not cooked?
Not enough info...but as I see it no matter what!
Life is too short to get upset over small things...you won't die of starvation...take a deep breath!
pick you battles in life
2007-10-22 21:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you were being a good wife you would have been making dinner yourself. Have a piece of fruit and be grateful that your husband is willing to step up and do your work for you.
2007-10-22 22:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Call Dominoes. Men make dinner on their time, not yours.
2007-10-22 22:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋