my mom is cheating on my dad?

Question

I overheard a conversation with my mom and another man on the phone my dad suspects that she is she cheating but she says she isnt i heard my mom talking to someone on the phone and she was calling him baby and says how she thinks about him everynight i also heard her talking about how she was just planning on them having a one night stand but now she cant live without him the man lives out of town in our hometown and all of a sudden she tries to find every little reason to go out of town now i look at her different i cant trust her anymore do you think i should tell my dad or let him find by for himself

Answer 1

speak to her.

Answer 2

1'st: You have to confront your mom. Tell her exactly what you said here about the conversation you overheard and how you view her differently now. Let her know that her actions are hurting you. Then tell her that if she does not tell your father you will, and follow through. Believe me, it will hut him at first, but he will be much better off in the long run. How would you feel if you discovered your spouse was cheating? Would you rather find out early on, or that the infidelity had been going on for years? Finding out sooner will also increase the chances of your parents maybe being able to work it out. Telling you mom how you feel should also go a very long way if she is any kind of a decent human being.

Answer 3

First of all, the one thing you have to realize is that your mom is trying to protect you. So is your dad.

Next, I don't think you should worry about trusting your mom. She loves you. Whatever she's doing its got nothing to do with you as her son.

I think if you are that worried you could talk to her. But I suspect the reasons why she might be interested in another man is because she's unhappy. That is something that your mom and dad have to work on together and between themselves.

However, none of that has anything to do with you. Its not your fault.

A lot of times people will stay in a marriage to raise children. Somewhere inbetween the marriage holds together indefinitely or it will fall apart no matter what.

Your job is to love your parents no matter what their problems are between them, to get an education, grow up and be the kind of person you think you should be despite what the adults in your life may be up to or what you suspect them of.

As for long distance affairs, assuming there is one, it would not last very long. They usually don't.

Telling your dad is going to create problems both for you and both of your parents. The fact that you know what you know is disturbing enough to a parent.

Parents try to protect their children. Likely your mom didn't want you to know even what you know now.

Try and keep a level head and remember that your parents aren't perfect. No one is.

Answer 4

I am so sorry to hear this is happening in your home. My prayers go out to you and your family. I don't think anyone can really say what is the best thing for you to do right now. I'm not even sure what I would do in your situation. But if it were me, I think I would confront your mother with the information you overheard. Is it possible that you might have heard wrong or maybe misinterpreted what was said? Sometimes this can happen. But I would first talk to your mom and find out for sure.
I hope and pray everything will work out for all of you.

Answer 5

I know this is a tough call. There will be consequences unfortunately. My mom cheated on my dad too. Dad worked out of town and we were sworn to secrecy not to tell about the other man. We feared our mom as she ruled with an upper hand. When I got in high school, I told my dad, but I really truely wished that I had alot sooner. Perhaps he already knew, They fought for years and I wished that they would have just divorced as it was so hard on us kids to listen to them day after day. They supposedly stayed together because of me and my two sisters, but it would have been a lot happier had they not.

Answer 6

Remember, even tho it hurts what you have heard, the truth is, "you over heard the conversation". Don't share this information with your dad. If he is to know, he will find out some other way then you telling him a conversation that you weren't suppose to hear. Adults tend to go thru funkie stages, hang in there, it will all work out for the best. Continue to love your mom and dad. Some kids don't have parents. Be happy you have both in your life. Be happy the way either of them treat you, and don't worry about their personal drama. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Oh man! What a terrible place to be in. Well, do you have a good relationship with your mother? Then I would tell her you overheard her conversation. This may make her realize her 'secret' is not so secret after all and make her come to her sences.
Or it may make her mad at you. Either way if you feel so upset by it you need to tell someone. Maybe an Aunt? (mom's sister)

Answer 8

Hmmn, this is tricky. For a start, your mother should never have put you in this position and I should think you're pretty angry with her right now - and so you should be.

Try to keep your emotions in check and talk to her calmly. Tell her what you heard, tell her that you know she's having an affair and tell her that you are going to tell your dad.

She might deny everything - in which case you probably should then tell your dad or put in him in a position to find out for himself. If she's going to continue this behind his back then he has the right to know. If she's really not having an affair, let her explain her behaviour to your dad herself.

She may try to explain - in which case you should listen to her. If she's serious about ending the affair then let her work it out for herself. If she's not then you should convince her to tell your father.

She may hold her hands up - in which case you should get her to tell your dad and apologise to you for putting you in such a difficult position. What she is doing is selfish and she's obviously not doing a very good job of hiding it.

This could be a difficult time for you and your family. Whatever the outcome, remember they might be your parents but they are still only human and both of them deserve your love and compassion.

Good luck. xx

Answer 9

Wow. That really sucks. If you think that she won't freak out on you, you could try talking to her. You could also tell your dad, but he might end up resenting you because sometimes people get mixed up when their emotions are so strong. That's a really yucky situation. I'm sorry that you are in this bad position. Maybe if you talk to her, she will realize how horrible and selfish she is being. Also, you never know... they might have an "understanding" if neither one is happy in the marriage. Good luck. I don't really know what to say...

Answer 10

tough one, sorry about your problems, nobodies kid should be put through this kind of stress.
i first would suggest talking to a counselor either from school or out this is a big responsibility you do not want to take on by your self and if you do...
i would try talking with your mother first calmly and tell he how this makes you feel that you can't trust her and you are disappointed in her and she is suppose to be a roll model for you what kind of example is she setting and tell her that your are there for her to support her and help her and then talk to her about telling your dad together if you still feel it is necessary and if the want to work it out they should seek some kind of professional help. hope and pray for the best
good luck

Answer 11

Sometimes it depends. Maybe you should confront your mom, even if it isnt any of your business. If she is cheating, its wrong, and she should be honest, seeing as how cheating usually always screws up a relationship. But its totally up to you. And if she isnt and you tell your father something totally wrong then uh-oh, but seeing as how you heard her say something about them having a one night stand and now she cant live without him, well, then I hope you luck. And I'm sorry for whats happening.