watching your self do number 2 unheard of ?

Question

Okay so I catch my 6 year old squatting with his feet on the toliet **** pushing forward his nuts to see himself take a poop. I really freaked out screamed at him and walked out. I smoked a ciggarette to calm down. and then I told him what he did was discusting and told him to get away from me. Then i felt bad and told him I was sorry i yelled at him but he did was un heard of and would not be tolerated. I told him that way the nastiest thing you could do. When he came home today I reminded him what we talked about and told him it was gross agian. Did I over react.?????????what would you have done

Answer 1

He is SIX for crying out loud!!!! It is his body and he just wants to see how it works! What will you do the day you catch him masturbating? You need to apologize to this poor boy who did nothing wrong. You were in the wrong by yelling at him, but it was a good excuse to smoke that disgusting cigarette though. So I suppose he is the reason that you smoke. Grow up, he will do so many things that you can not even wrap your feeble little mind around. IF this is the worst thing you son does then you pretty much have an angel on your hands!!

Answer 2

Well first of all you should be teaching your 6 year old to go to the bathroom with the door closed. If he had then you never would have caught him in an act that unlike how you termed it, was something very natural for his age. Did you over react? You bet! The only way that I can think you may be able to salvage his battered self esteem, would be to talk with him. Tell him that what he does in the privacy of the bathroom, (with the door closed) is his business. If he's not touching his fecal matter and playing in the toilet, then everything else is private and personal. I suspect that there are boundary issues in your household and what happened is symptomatic of that fact. Six is too old to be going with the door open. It's also too old to be sharing his parents bed, just in case that is going on as well. Give the child some privacy and let him grow up. He's not a baby!

Answer 3

Well, I don't have kids. But I know for a fact I wouldn't have done what you did.

You made your son feel like he's a total freak. Now he will always hate himself just a little bit whenever he goes to the toilet. That's no healthier than watching yourself poop.

All kids go through an anal phase when they are about 5 or 6 - it's a Freudian thing - they have all this equipment and they are just trying to find out what it's for.

Explain to your son that going to the toilet is a natural thing, but that there's no delight to be found in watching yourself go potty. Reiterate the importance of wiping properly and washing his hands afterwards. Just let him know there's no real mystery in bodily functions and getting too up close and personal with your turds is unhygienic and unpleasant.

And remember, kids are disgusting - that's what they are for. When I was four I took a **** behind the sofa and when my brother was about six he got sick in his room and pushed his bed over it. Being a dirty little bastard is all part of the magical process of growing up.

Answer 4

What your son did was normal curiosity what you did was disgusting telling a six year old to get away...... Grow up and get a life, Your poor child has no idea why it was wrong and you should know talking to your child this way was demeaning and nothing you ever do will take those words out of his mind.... you should feel ashamed of yourself. I can think of a lot nastier things he could have done..... Try talking calmly next time and explain that is your bottom where you poop out of.... I know it feels weird and you want to see but poop has germs and you need to stay seated while pooping..... If he doesn't listen just tell him not to do it again or he'll be punished... But never talk to your child the way you did again.... It is verbal abuse plain and simple......

Answer 5

For you to even ASK this question, you already know the answer.

It is perfectly NORMAL to be curious about ones body and how it works. There could be a lot worse things that your son could be doing. As long as he washes his hands and not playing in the poop, he is not hurting anyone and is just curious about how his body works.

I would have KNOCKED on the door before going into the bathroom. He is 6 and as long as he doesn't have an accident, he should have his own privacy to himself.

What YOU should do now is apologize to your son for freaking out on him and maybe get him an appropriate age book to let him know about how his body works.

Answer 6

He's only a kid and doesn't know any better.
He probably just wanted to see where the poop came from and it's really no big deal.
Kids do the darnest things and we have to be careful what we make a big deal out of or else what wasn't so serious to them will become serious and you don't want something like that to become serious to your son.
I found if I make light of something my son is doing that I find disgusting or strange he'll forget about it and move onto something else.
But if I overreact and make a huge issue out of it whatever he was doing it will become a habit and I'll have a hard time breaking him of it.
So next time you see him doing something like that just ask him what he's doing then ask why then tell him that's not a very smart thing to do and you'll see he'll forget about it and move onto something else.
Believe it or not but catching him doing that is far better than catching him with his pee pee in a knot hole in a fence.
That would really get you wondering....

Answer 7

Don't freak out he's just a kid and I have had 9 of them there all grown up now (thank god) but the kid is just checking out basically the size of his crap hell I did it to when I was a boy but it's a normal thing of wonder for a small boy don't worry about it and give him a little more privacy so you don't embarass him for doing what every kid does there is a lot of things that boys do that girls think is gross but so what boys will be boys and girls will be girls. It's just a guy thing he'll be over it in a month or two trust me.

Answer 8

I actually had this discussion with a friend yesterday. ( I work at an elementary school.) At such a young age kids are very curious. They think having a BM is like losing a part of themselves so they want to see how it happens. I'm sure walking in on something like that was a bit confusing! I would tell him that its okay to look with your eyes and not your hands! You're lucky it wasn't a bigger issue like touching himself... just a little something to look forward to ;0)

Answer 9

When my younger brother was 6 he pooped in his hand and smeared it on the wall, when he was 4 he pooped in the backyard. He still sends me picture messages of his bowel movements, with a description of size and weight, and a comparison to something he thinks it looks like. He is no longer 6, he is 15 and I am in college. Your son may just be a young man. Haha.

Next thing you know he'll be yelling for his friends to come look at it.

Answer 10

It is his age group. he is just courious. Share with him tho, his poop will come from his butt, and that is why you sit on the toliet and just let it fall in the toliet, because it is everything you have ate and we have to get rid of it. I am sure it freaked you out. You didn't over react, you just were caught off guard. Start talking now tho, because before you know it.....someone else will be teaching him the bird and the bee's and you want to be able to openly communicate with him.