I just posted a longer version of my question and i received many VERY helpful answeres. I now have another question, I want to have another baby but i was thinking that we should wait about 6 months or so to start trying, but WHY do i have the urge to start trying right now?? This feeling will not go away. Any ideas??? thanks to all of you who have really helped me with your answeres!!!!
2007-10-22 11:07:47 · 6 answers · asked by Soon to be mommy of 3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I wouldn't ignore an urge like that. Maybe you feel like there's someone missing. My mom really regrets not having that one last baby. I mean, she's 50 and still says there's someone missing. So, I wouldn't overlook a feeling like that.
2007-10-22 11:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel R 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is a hormonal thing the sustains the procreation of mankind.
Your exerience of childbirth & nuturing your baby is such a precious time that you are excited to have that happen again.
It is also the mothering side of you that has been activated.
If human females didin't have the desire from children they population of the planet would be dwindling to almost nothing.
You can either give in to the urge or hang in there for a better time. When it is all said and done-- I believe that babies come when they are suppose to, whether it be deemed by God or brought about by the universe. Or fate. We can plan and plan on our families and our babies come when they are suppose to.
I know the depth of the need to have babies. I struggled between the births of my son's,,,,,six plus years apart.
The urge was so urgent that we adopted a little girl.
She is now 27 years old and the joy of my life.
I had my perfect little family.Two boys & a girl. I knew I had to have a hysterectoomy. I struggled for a few years with that.
I would cry and grieve for that fact that I had to give up on ever having another baby. I actually didn't want another baby....no way did I have energy for another baby. I just wanted to know that IF I wanted another baby I could do so.
My husband had no clue of how I was feeling. He didn't have the hormones that were constantly ragging in me. I even went off birth control for six months before the surgery to see if another baby was in my fate. And when I went in for the surgery I requested the doctor to do a pregnancy test before the hysterectomy.
You are normal. But, you are also wise. Men think more pragmatically than we do. We think more with our hearts.....men more with detail & what they call "logic"
Your body needs a rest from being pregnant. And if you are nursing your body needs to get the best nutrition that it can give your baby.
There is no absolute rules about when or how close to have babies apart. Give your body a rest and then make sure you are in health to start trying again. Sometimes it takes time to get pregnant.
Try to change the voice in your head that keeps saying "I want a baby, I want a baby" Change it to "some day when the day is right, we will have another little one, but I will treasusre the time I have with this baby" Say it out loud if you have to.
If you Pray, pray that God's will be done. And that your next child will come when it is the right time.
2007-10-22 11:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is actually simple. It is your harmones telling you to reproduce. My sister couldn't conceive and she took different treatments including harmones, male and female. She said she felt anyone in fertility treatment should also have
mandatory counseling because her emotions were just out of control. When she began her period, she would just fall apart.
Since you have recently had a baby your harmones are kind of going crazy as well. Try to think logically if children very close together is really what you want, as far you oldest child having enough attention, do you have the energy for a new born and a toddler? Can you afford 2 children a year apart in collage at the same time? Does your husband want another child right away? Will you have any energy felt for your husband? I hope this helps.
2007-10-22 11:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you've recently had a baby, its like having a miracle (it IS a miracle!). You're probably wanting to experience that feeling again. I can understand how wonderful it must feel to know that you have life inside of you and you can't wait to see their tiny hands and feet, crinkled little face and bright big eyes! I would say slow down a little bit. Just enjoy spending time with your children right now. Devote your time and energy to them and their needs. Then, wait another few months. If you still feel you really want a baby, try for one. Good luck=)
2007-10-22 11:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i had that feeling and concived when my son was only 5 months old but unfortunately it ended in miscarrage i was devistated so i held off for a while, in the meanwhile me and my husband divorced..which was fine(he was an abuser) i was then a single mom and i and my boy friend concived when my child was 7 yrs old .. which unforunately also ended in miscarrage.. i held off again...so now my only child is 10 and we ar ttc and i am having problems... so i say if you know u want more.. start when u are ready.... dont wait to long u might end up like me
good luck
2007-10-22 11:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by billie s 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
cause your bodys telling you that its time for another one.. and maybe your familys not complete. Its human nature to want kids but when it comes down to really really wanting more kids then i believe that its god telling you that you arnt finished yet.. Go have enother kid.
Good luck and lots a baby dust.
2007-10-22 11:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by Natasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋