my gf wants me to buy her a ring that she likes,?

Question

i thaught it was up to the guy to buy the ring for the engagement ring, and not the lady,

am i right or wrong here,

Answer 1

Anything goes with today's society. A lot of couples go ring shopping together.

However, I'm an advocate for the guy buying the ring without his bride-to-be with him. In my opinion, she should worry more about the fact she's getting married, not what's on her finger.

Answer 2

That is the way it once was, yes you are right. But in this day and age, more and more couples are shopping together.
If you really want to suprise her, maybe tell her adamantly that you are choosing the ring yourself. Then leave it for a while and get the one she likes, that way she will be shocked when she actually gets the one she likes.(only if it is within your budget tho, dont go into debt over it)
I would love to go ring shopping with my boyfriend. I know the time is coming (we already have a date and all for the wedding) and I think there is nothing more romantic that heading out to the shops with your man and choosing the ring of your dreams.
However my man is old school like you. So he is making me wait and wanting to choose the ring himself. I am okay with that. Obviously I would love to shop with him, but also I dont want to be in that awkward situation of liking something he may not be able to afford.
Anyways, although I would prefer a ring that I love on my finger, It is him that I love and him that I am marrying. So I will love whatever he choses as long as he chose it for me with love.
I have given him some ideas by downloading pics of rings that I love, in all different price ranges. Now it is up to him.
Good luck. You can only do what feels right to you. And she should be happy with anything you give her, hell you are asking her to marry you.
Good luck.

Answer 3

It's a tricky situation for all guys looking to buy a ring for there gal. Look at it this way: get an idea of what she likes. Does she prefer solitaires or more than one stone? Does she like the princess cut or round or even diamond (shape) cut? One good way to do that is to take her to a store. Explain you aren't shopping with her for one, but instead just trying to get an idea of what she likes.
Then once you have that idea, go shopping! Look at more than one store too. See what each store has to offer and what there prices are. Also, another thing to keep in mind is warranty. My husband bought my ring from Kay jewelers. Very small but pretty ring, but he also got a warranty. That way if one of the stones fall out or it is damaged or needs cleaning or anything, the warranty will cover it (versus shelling out at least 30.00 a time to do any of those). Now these warranties can be expensive, but like insurance, it is most defiantly worth it in the end.
Happy shopping!

Answer 4

Trying to guess what the dream ring is can be stressful. If you aren't stressed, you're probably not thinking hard enough. If your girlfriend is planning to wear her engagement ring forever, it will become a symbol of your love, a symbol of your interpretation of her style, etc. If people look at her ring and recognize that it isn't her style, they'll think you don't know her well enough to pick out something she'd actually like. Not to mention putting your girlfriend through that same thought process and doubt that you truly know her.......

My boyfriend is buying me an inexpensive engagement ring that he finds meaningful, but which he isn't sure whether I'd want to wear forever. It doesn't have to be my style -- it just has to be symbolic of our relationship in some way. That way, he won't waste a lot of money on a ring I won't want to wear forever and he can focus on finding a design that holds symbolism rather than "style." We're investing our dollars in our wedding bands with the idea that we will be wearing them for longer.

Answer 5

Ok she will be whering this ring till death do you part! Dont ya want her to like it? Now days it is very customary for the couple to go together to pick out the ring. If ya dont wanna buy her the ring or there is a finacial problem ( she wants a ring with a price tag like a small mansion and you can only afford one with the price tag of a new car ) let her know sit down and talk budget, after all it'll be the first step in the right direction, your gonna marry her ya gotta be able to talk money with her.

Answer 6

My boyfriend thought the same thing, he should pick out the ring. But when it came down to it, he wasn't sure. So he asked me for pictures. I gave him a couple of pictures and he had the ring made. And I love it. It was exactly what I wanted. Just ask her what her ideas are, she might have a type she likes. Then the rest is up to you.

Answer 7

Well, you're technically right, but let me answer your question with a question of my own.

Don't you want her to like the ring you pick out for her?? Get an idea of the styles she likes, some girls like more modern styles, others are going for something more vintage looking (which is really big right now) Some girls want a simple solitaire, and others want a ring with side stones--they may be diamonds or not. You need to get that idea before you go shopping.

Answer 8

We women want it both ways: we want to be surprised with a romantic proposal and a ring AND we want the ring to be the one of our dreams. Sorry, it's not really fair.

My friend's husband looked at rings and bought a wedding set that was just like his mom's. She absolutely HATED it (and it was awful), but sucked it up and wore it for 5 years until she had it redesigned. Surely, you want your GF to love her ring?

Since this may well be the single most expensive piece of jewelry you ever purchase, pay attention to her "hints" as to what she likes. Some couples do shop together nowadays.

Answer 9

You are right! It's MUCH nicer and more special to have the guy choose the ring. You can have an idea of her style preference, but I think it's best you do the choosing, for then you can ensure you stay within your budget.
If she's demanding, it may be a red flag for you....

Answer 10

Many couples pick their rings out together. Why not go shopping with her so that she gets something that the both of you can agree on? After all, she'll be wearing this ring for the rest of her life. Don't you want to get her something she'll love?