My Daughter is only only 13, but shes soo depressed and hates life?

Question

My Daughter constantly tells me she wants to die, its really upsetting me now i dont know what to do to make her happy again she didnt used to be like this. please help me

Answer 1

A lot of teens go through this kind of a phase, a lot of my friends used to say things like that and now looking back a lot of it was for attention. Most kids, if they are truly suicidal will hide this from people, not tell them. If you are really worried, take her to a Psychologist and they can be better apt at telling you what is wrong with your daughter then anyone on here. Make sure that you guys spend quality time together and that your not too busy to talk to her. It sounds like you guys need to have a heart to heart, let her know that you are there for her and that she can talk to you about anything that is bothering her. You really do need to take her to a Psychologist, just to be on the safe side. Let her know that when you take her, that your not closing the door..she can still talk to you, but that sometimes it's easier to talk to someone that you don't love or know about your problems..and that maybe this doctor can help her feel better.

Answer 2

Please, take this seriously. When our daughter was that age, she said the same thing. As time went on she used to curl up in bed and cry or rock, threatened to kill herself. And it just kept getting worse. The doctor told us it was a stage. The school told us it was a stage. Many others told us it was a stage. Noone would help. We did our best to help her through the 'stage'. She is now 27 and is finally emerging from the 'stage'. But only after several suicide attempts, a few hospital stays, running away a few times, 2 children, a drug addiction and mental health counselling. Some stage that was!
We found out about a teacher being abusive, a few abusive schoolmates she was afraid to tell on and an abusive uncle.
She's a manager at a store now, drug free and working on getting a house so when she's ready, she can have her children with her. We were lucky not to lose her.
Don't do anything and risk losing your child? Or go to the mental health center and ask for help? And if your child is not comfortable with one person, choose another, and another until you find one that is right.
What have you got to loose? Something to think about.
Hope this helps. Think positive. Stay loving. :)

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Answer 3

I know you must be frantic with worry right now and the first bit of advice I can give is calm down. You can't help her if you are freaking out.

Start off by talking to her about school and other things that she is involved in. Schedule meetings with her teachers. Is she doing poorly in class? What kind of pressure is she under? Does she like someone who doesn't like her back?

Put yourself back into the young teen mind-set. Remember how everything seemed that it would never end?

She is going through a lot of physical changes right now but you definitely need to address the issues she is facing emotionally. When she says she wants to die, do you ask her why, or do you tell her not to say that? Do you allow her to express her feelings in a way that shows her that you are listening and want to help?

Consult a family counselor. They will be able to give her an outlet in which to express herself, and give you the support you need while dealing with a teenager. Trust me, dealing with the teenage years gets harder before it gets easier!!

Answer 4

We have a 14 year old son and he said the same thing last week. We sat down and talked for about an hour and found out he was having a really hard time at school with people picking on him. We talked for a long time and layed in bed with the wife on one side and me on the other and we just hugged him, talked and laughed. He is feeling much better this week. Best of luck.

Answer 5

She needs help. I would strongly suggest counseling. I too dealt with depression from the age of 14-17. My reasons where being made fun of at school and treated poorly by peers and certain relatives. This could be her reason for how she feels. Maybe or maybe not either way she needs some help and also see about getting her on some kind of anti-depressants.

Answer 6

Depression is a very serious illness, I would definately take your daughter to your gp as soon as possible. Try taking her to her favourite places and ask her what she would like to do with you, quality time is very important between you both.

Just be there for her when she needs you, give her plenty of hugs and remind her how much you love her each day and try to find out what makes her unhappy and work with her to change the way she thinks about these things.

Answer 7

If she says this when she is in trouble with u then it is just what teenagers do.But if she is saying it all different times and u have notice a difference in her mood then u need to get her to a doctor.She could be going through depression.There are many different types of depressions.You really need to get her to a doctor so the doctor can recommend a phychiatrist.It won't go away if that is the case.Good luck

Answer 8

Maybe she should see a doctor or a councilor about this. I would not take it too lightly. Kids are under so much stress and pressure now a days and anything at anytime could set her off on a emotional breakdown. Seriously get her checked there are things that can help her.

Answer 9

seek a professional counsellor.
if you can't affordd that, call your city/county health or mental health dept, and see if they have or can recommend any services.

Teens can feel suicideal because their bodies are telling them they've grown up but the law/society holds no value for them; they have little or no control over their lives, and the artificial social structures of school can be far more oppressive than adults recall/realize.

You need to get help with this now, while she is still reaching for help.

Answer 10

There is obviously some underlying reason for your daughter feeling this way. You may need to get some professional help for her. It needs to be addressed right away so it doesn't get worse. That's great that you are a loving caring mom and you want to help her. She will get better, just get her some help.