Arghh!! Help!!?

Question

(I had to delete my last question because of a stupid immature answerer).
I hate to admit it but I think I have a crush on someone. I am trying to ignore this feeling hoping it will go away but ARGHH it wont! What shall I do? How can I stop this feeling?!
May Allah forgive me.

Queen of beauty - thanks for answering, I love reading your answers in Urdu!

Answer 1

Ask another suitable question, and select a knowledgable answer is the best !.

Answer 2

I agree with Meg. Just keep in mind that this life on earth is temporary. Strive for the after life, and don’t fall into the devils plan. Allah tests us everyday, pass his test not the devils plan. I think the best way to get passed this is to either keep busy or tell someone you trust and that truly loves you so that they can keep checking up on you. Nothing is wrong with having feelings, the wrong part comes when you don’t know how to control those feelings. Think about how enjoyable heaven is and how atrocious the night in the grave will be, or worse hell. I saw this music video from a different category and I think that this may help you, because think of tomorrow and the consequences of our actions. What if God forbid you commit Zina expecting Allah forgiveness and then right after you God forbid die before asking for forgiveness, how can you be forgiven then? No one knows when there time will come and what will you say to Allah on judgment day? Pray, fast, read the Quran and ask for Allah guidance through this hard time. Zina is very serious, do what you can to avoid it. Peace, and the mercy and guidance of Allah be upon you.

Answer 3

Lavender,

yes it is normal human nature to get feelings like this,
BUT You must not submit to this feeling, Submit to Allah,

try and resist this temptation,

get involved in an activity, like sports, reading, arts, dancing,
keep your mind occupied,

Remember, that

Your husband will want you to be pure,
these impure thoughts are how it all starts,
first this thought, then One note, then 2 notes, then you meet in secret, then , a kiss, and before you know it ZINA

Please sweet girl, keep yourself busy, and active, STAY on the oposite side of school, and avoid him,

When you find yourself thinking of him, pick up a book,
turn on the computer, plan a service project for your community, get involved, and volunteer at a hospital,
anything to keep this out of you head,

Allah knows your heart and intentions are pure, and will give you the strenght to get throught this, but you must do your part aswell,

Blessings to you dear girl.

Meg
mother of 3 sons

Answer 4

Sister time to time we will fall into error... One may ask why...?? As we are not perfect. Don't get bogged down by it and assume you will not get forgiven. I can tell your intentions are very clear you want to do right.

Crushes may feel natural and something beyond ones control, to have a strong crush on someone one must have nurtured the thoughts of that person in their mind to an extreme extent. To get over someone (for such feelings are not approved in Islam, as there is a danger of one pursuing the matter forward- after all we were created weak ) one must occupy themselves in useful, productive activities. If the self is not occupied with anything worthwhile it will occupy itself with falsehood, it never rests idle, which is why in most cases a crush is a result of an idle mind.

Allah (swt) has said in a beautiful Hadith Qudsi “…if he (man) draws near to Me a hand’s span, I draw near to him a arm’s length. And if he comes to me walking, I go to him running….”

This shows that if one does their bit, even if it’s something as small as making the intention to avoid the object of ones desire, or by keeping the self busy. Allah (swt) will know that they are making an effort and will make it easy for them to get over their crush.

I hope insha'Allah it get's better for you Sister xoxoxo

Answer 5

i dont know what to tell you i have crush too i dont think it'll go away if you ignore it but for the immature answerer just ignore them theyre jerks

Answer 6

having a crush is normal and human. we cant help if we thing someone is attractive, but we can do something about it...make sure we know our limits and remember Allah is always watching.

Answer 7

TRUST ME,this is just shaitan!!!Love comes after marriage,never before!
what will you do if u give your heart to him and he breaks it?Dont just trust anyone like that.people lie so much
They say things like"i will never leave you","i m stuck with you for the rest of my life"
Liessssssssssssss
All liessssssssssssssssss.
At the end of the day, you wont find anyone around you,EXCEPT Allah!
Everyone leaves, but not HIM.
So, dont waste your time on him.If you really wanna waste your time, waste it on Alllah.coz when you are wasting your time on Him, you are not really wasting anything!
So, plz dont do this mistake, u will regret!

Answer 8

I agree with Laura. It's only human nature. I don't think there's anything wrong having a crush on anyone as long as you don't act on it in a negative and/or haram way.

Answer 9

i dont understant whats so bad about having a crush......just dont act on it

my defintion of a crush is- someone you "like" have feelings for.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ArJTCGfLCXveWFeoBaOSisLsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071026180942AAHYAPk&show=7#profile-info-q6KWJ4Rfaa

Edit @ wht is diz:

how can you get married when your not in love??? (not make love) but you have strong feelings for them??? i could never get married if i didnt love whole heartedly my husband....(again i say not make love--zina)

Answer 10

Just think more about Allah then him, and restrain yourself from tryin anything...idk what 2 tell u...sry