Ok, calm down. You and your fiance have to take the control NOW or this entire wedding process will be a nightmare for you both. This wedding is about celebrating your love, and commitment to each other. That means, of course you'd love for people you care about to attend but if they can't, they can't. You can't wait forever and try to accommodate everyone's schedule nonstop! The most important schedules to honor are that of you and your fiance!!! Set a date, try to be considerate of other people (especially out of town guests) and then let the sh*t hit the ceiling - who cares? They'll get over it. I feel so sorry for brides on here who have families that try to control every aspect of the wedding. My experience was incredibly wonderful and I wish all brides could say the same. Unfortunately, there are some horrible families out there who want to make the wedding all about THEM and what they want instead of recognizing that it should be about the couple and what they want. Stay strong and be kind to people but let people know when you feel strongly about something!!
2007-10-22 10:40:39
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answered by Anonymous
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Pick the date YOU want. Family that is important will be there, and those that have something else scheduled that they can't/won't reschedule for your wedding won't be there.
Especially if you have a large family, SOMEONE'S going to have something that conflicts with any date you choose.
I would avoid dates around high school/college graduations, if you have a graduate in the family. Also, if someone is expecting a baby, I would schedule the wedding for at least a month before or after the due date--if you want the mom there. Outside of those issues, I honestly can't think of anything else you'd schedule around. Personally, I can't think of a better way to spend a birthday than at a family member's wedding.
And...fyi, my younger brother got married on the same day my younger sister did--on their 6th wedding anniversary.
2007-10-22 11:04:53
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answered by basketcase88 7
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No matter what date you pick...it WILL conflict with other things. Choose a date you and your fiance want. Take into consideration the most important people you want to have there and make sure they will be free... parents, grandparents, etc. Pick a date that means the most to the two of you. Keep that philosophy in mind for all your planning... you can't please everyone. Trying will only make you crazy! Remember, it's your wedding... it doesn't me be inconsiderate or insensitive about things, but it does mean that you can choose what is best for you and your fiance:) Best wishes!
2007-10-22 10:28:47
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answered by Kim 5
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Of course NOT!!! It's your wedding so it should work out for YOU (and your hubby of course)! It's easier for people to work around YOUR single wedding date -- if they care about you I don't think there's something soooo important that they can't reschedule, but if they can't then it's a pity, they won't be there but that shouldn't make you sad -- than you accomodating to other 20, 50 or 100 people's schedules, not to mention that you also have to check on the church and/or party room availability, etc. Don't stress out on this, you already have too many things to worry about!
2007-10-22 10:23:56
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answered by Lprod 6
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If you try to accommodate everyone else's schedule, you'll just make yourselves crazy. The best thing for you to do is to pick a reasonable date and time (i.e. don't pick a weekday or a holiday), and then *inform* everyone else of your plans. As long as you give people plenty of advanced notice, those who really want to attend your wedding will be able to make plans to do so.
2007-10-22 10:21:40
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answered by SE 5
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Yes you can rearrange the wedding date until everyone is happy and you'll find that the day will never come! Be reasonable about it. As long as your closest family and friends are able to make it that is what matters.
2007-10-22 10:14:11
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answered by Jasmine808 6
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I would pick it about 6-10 months from now and then let things fall where they may. BY picking it 6 months out, that will give everyone due notice that you are doing it on that date. If they make it, they make it, if not then whatever.
2007-10-22 10:19:51
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answered by SisterSue 6
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The thing to remember is this:
IT IS YOUR WEDDING!!!!!
Choose a date that works for you and your fiance, don't worry about anyone else. If you had to work around everyones everything you'd never be able to pick a date.
Congratulations and good luck.
2007-10-22 10:12:00
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answered by Angela O 5
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I agree with the pp's. I tried to move the date around so it worked for everyone, an impossible task. I finally chose the date I wanted, regardless if it was best for others.
2007-10-22 10:13:14
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answered by Earl 4
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NO!! This is about YOU and if THEY can't make arrangements to be there too bad..if you plan it around everyone Else's schedule then you will never set a date!!
2007-10-22 10:22:53
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answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5
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