The guy I've got a 'crush' on is amazing; I don't know anyone with as genuine a character. I want so badly to tell him I like him, but I don't want it to put a strain on our friendship, and I don't want to be rejected either. When is a risk worth taking, and should I take this one?
2007-10-22 09:59:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anita 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, nobody ever wants to be rejected in anything they do. But hey, that's part of life and you have to come to terms with it.
In fact, that's what makes life so awesome. The sweet would never be as sweet, without the sour.
What you should ask yourself is this...am I strong enough to recover from the hurt if I take a chance and get rejected, or do I want to go through the rest of my life wondering to myself, "What would have happened if I'd only..."?
How are you going to feel when you wait and wait and wait and slip into the friend zone with this guy, and then some other girl comes along and swoops down on him and snags him? And then you look at her and you think, dammit, I'm the better match for him?
I read this in a book somewhere...
"When confronted with a choice of risking a new relationship, most people ask themselves, 'But what if it doesn't work out?'
To which I reply, 'Ahh, but what if it DOES?'"
2007-10-22 10:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not getting burned that's the problem, but you may lose the friendship if you get into a relationship that goes bad. I've learned that it's harder to have good friends than get boyfriends. On the otherhand, my better relationships have been those that started with friends. At least you know there is a basis for a relationship. I'd open the door and see if he steps in. I don't know if I would tell him straight out in the beginning but I would ask him to do something that implies date, not friends hanging out. See how he reacts. That way you can back up if he isn't interested and still have a friend. I'm the type of person that looks like I act impulsively with very little thought of the future but I always have a plan A and a plan B for anything that is important to me. A-get that date B be able to back up and keep friendship. Can work on maybe later. . . Good luck. . .
2007-10-22 10:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt take the risk unless he is showing you that he likes you too. There isnt any way to make someone like you, so I wouldnt take the chance until he wants to talk to you, looks at you in a certain way--he seems interested. Unless a guy is interested and will meet you half way, you are probably wasting your time and will face rejection.
Dont get depressed if he rejects your interest, all of us have faced that at some time---just move on and give your emotions to someone who wants you the same.
2007-10-22 10:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by skyward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't need to tell him as yet ,just give a few hints and see if he responds. praise him like you would as a friend and to hug a friend is great. If he's tense ,back of ,if he responds carry ona little. If there is no response keep him as a friend, he might warm more to you as time go by.
2007-10-22 10:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must remember this
A kiss is still a kiss,
A sigh is just a sigh...
The fundamental things apply,
As time goes by.
And when two lovers woo,
They still say I love you
On that you can rely...
No matter what the future brings,
As time goes by.
2007-10-22 10:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by slickric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah follow your heart if you like him go for it if you get rejected you can just look back on it and say yeah that happened to me one time but I found someone better...
Who relly cares if you get rejected we have all been there.
Good Luck
2007-10-22 10:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by maybeeoneday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋