i'm due in Feburary and he does not return until April. how can i got about to have him come back early and what are the chances?
2007-10-22 07:58:18 · 41 answers · asked by DOINK 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Sorry, most likely not - its very rare, and even then, only if there were other factors. Good luck, and congrats though!!
2007-10-22 08:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by Learning Conformity 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unless there are serious complications with your pregnancy (basically life or death for you of the baby)..and no one would wish for, suggest or choose that route..your husband will have to remain with his unit until they are due to come back. I know this is not what you would like to hear. No one wants to deliver their child without thier husband being by their side, but it is a fact of life for many military families. The good news is your husband is due back only a few months after the birth...many soldiers have deployed shortly before the baby is due and miss the first year of their child's life. Take care of yourself, find someone you trust to be with you, take photos and video and then share it all, along with your beautiful baby when Daddy comes home. Congratulations!
2007-10-22 08:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is in Iraq as well and he WAS able to make it home for the birth of our daughter. She is now 3 1/2 weeks old. I contacted the Red Cross on a tuesday and he was here by saturday and I gave birth to my daughter Jada the next Wednesday. He was allowed 2 weeks leave.
One important thing to know. I had to have an induction date set before the Red Cross would make any contacts overseas. But, my doctor wouldnt schedule it unless I was at 1cm dl at 38 weeks. but, your doctor may be different.So, if you have a really cool doctor see if he/she will schedule you a date to be induced. Also, if you have a high risk pregnancy he should automatically be able to come home as i was told but if not there has to be an induction date set.
Believe me I totally feel ALL your pain right now because I was there not even a month ago. I really hope things work out for you. I will be praying for you so stay strong.
2007-10-22 11:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No.
You must remain independent, this means being able to function in his absence. It is very difficult when you have a loved one in the War. You may suffer from fear called Anticipatory Grief. Don't watch TV. I know my words are difficult. Think about how impossible it would be to bring him home for a short period of time, take him away from his fellow warriors, have a baby and then have to return to battle.
It is better for him to finish his rotation in Iraq. When he comes home to you and your new baby he'll be home, until he redeploys.
There is only one thing stronger than an American Marine or Soldier, and that's his wife. His Mom is right up there too!!
2007-10-22 08:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by Katharine E 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband, most likely, will not be able to come home for the delivery... the needs of the army outweigh childbirth. If I were you, I'd start figuring out who I want with me when I give birth though :) I was lucky to have a group of very close friends, with husbands who were also deployed, so every time I've given birth, its been like a party in my labor and delivery room.
2007-10-22 09:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by Denise S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are slim to none. You could try and do what my cousin did while he was in Iraq. He is in the Marines, and just happened to have a slow day when his wife went into labor. They somehow got in touch with him and he was able to link up with the room she was in via a satellite phone and listen to his son being born.
Good luck to both of you, and here's hoping for a safe return home.
2007-10-22 08:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many women have had children while their husbands were deployed in Iraq. In none of those cases was the man allowed to come home early solely for the reason of his wife having a child. An exception will not likely be made for you, unfortunately.
2007-10-22 08:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by Joy M 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends on your husbands command. I was pregnant when my husband deployed and he was suppose to be back a mo before I was due....then they extended 6 weeks..when the news came the rear-d command said they would talk to the command in IRaq to get the guys with babies due in that 6 weeks home. They said no. And didn't budge...by baby had a heart condition I was high risk and needed and c-section and on top of that was giving birth in a german hospital....I made friends with my POC who's husband was my husbands sgt, and she put a bug in the FRG leaders ear that I really needed my husband home..the FRG leader talked to her husband who was the MAjor in Iraw and got my husband on the first flight home. he made it there 1 day before I went into labor. Now I know thats alot of HE said she said, but the point is get friendly with your frg leader and she can move mountians. The fRG and the unit doesn't want to have to deal with makaing sure that your ok in the hospital while he's deployed if they can get home home quick. )in germany the FRG sgt had to come check in with you at the hospital everyday)...and by the way...the guys start coming home about a month before the date they give for the projected return. Good luck to you and hang in there. I know its really tuff being pregnant while your husband is in Iraq.
2007-10-22 14:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by Heather D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only way he will be able to make it for the birth, is if there are serious complications during the pregnancy... If everything is going normal, which hopefully they are, then he will just have to wait to come home to a 2 month old baby.
Oh, and change your avatar.. Having a guy image and you saying you're pregnant, its really disturbing.
2007-10-22 08:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by Dan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may not be able to come home, emergency leave is usually only granted if there is a death in the immediate family or if it is an emergency. Trying working witht he red cross they may be able to help but I really hate to say this don't get your hopes up to high incase he can not.
2007-10-22 10:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by jcc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it. My husband fortunately made it home for our sons birth, but he wasn't allowed to come home early, things just worked out that he was on leave when our boy was born.
I'm having trouble believing this. I read your other questions and a year ago you were planning on getting married, but two months later you were having girlfriend issues. A week ago you were a male, now you are a female. Confusing.
2007-10-22 08:15:38 · answer #11 · answered by .. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋