cant think anymore....need help?

Question

theres SO much drama. from friends...to parents...to the whole guys situation. i cant think of anything to get my mind off all of it. it feels like im over reacting to some of the stuff thats going on, and then others its like im supposed too.
1) i used to really really like this one guy. but then he wouldnt talk to me at all. he used to talk to me whenever we were going to the bus. then he stopped. now, whenever i hear his name i cringe. its like its everywhere (his name isnt common).2) my friends keep totally ignoring me, and if they arent...they listen but dont say anything. its 2 of them. i dont get it. its like one minute theyre my friend and the next im their worst enemy. the one never calls back. she used to be my bff. the other 2. well. idk
sometimes i feel like i want to lock myself in a room and never talk to anyone but the people i know that i can truly trust again. its like i cant trust anybody but certain people. any1 have any advice on how to get it all out of my head??

ive made other friends this year....they are the ones i confide most of my trust in....but i dont need them getting involved

Answer 1

Whenever I feel like exploding, I go for a run or walk. You don't have to run, but doing something physical like exercise can help relieve your stress a bit and calm you down enough so you can at least think more clearly.

It must stink to have so much drama in your life right now- it is tough to deal with sometimes. As for your friends, try telling them that you'd like them to listen for a minute, and that you'd like to hear what they think about whatever you tell them afterwards. Make sure you're being a good friend to them too, and ask them if they prefer you to silently listen or give advice when they do talk to you. Tell them that you don't want to go through cycles of being ignored and then being friends. It's too stressful, and it's not necessary.

It's sometimes difficult to keep in touch with friends, and some people just aren't good at it. So you should try talking to your bff in person and ask if there's something going on. If there is, be there for her. If you two are just drifting apart, you can try to keep in touch and stay bffs, and you can also make new friends who might become your new bffs in the future. You never know.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Do you have a few friends you can trust?
Wow, you need to be extra kind to them and thank your lucky stars. Few people have more than one person they are that close to.
People are a strange lot at times. They can be supportive and suddenly change
for seemingly no reason or a reason that has nothing to do with the original problem.

You will get through the school years.
When you go to college, it becomes impossible to feed into cliques,there just isn't time. So you can have the time of your life and friends are not as fickle. I enjoyed high school. But I was
into sports and clubs and I worked part time, my Friends and I spent a lot of time fooling around with cars. So we didn't get involved in the politics around us. We weren't in any in crowds
so we just ate at the outcast table with the nerds and talked cars and sports.
I would be horrified at the thought of getting serious with one girl. We just wanted to hang out and go out with the girls who weren't looking for serious stuff. These early romances lead to unfulfilled lives in many cases. So count yoursedlf lucky you aren't hooked up with one guy. No one should get serious until way after college. Otherwise it's just friends. Makes sense right? You sound like a nice person.
Remember, you can't control much in this life. Especially when it comers to how people are going to act. Take up Zen Buddahism. Then you can step away and watch all the fun without haveing to get all caught up in the gossip etc; that people think is so much fun. Love yourself. Others will take your lead and follow.


a wee prayer for yee lass!

Answer 3

Yes, i think that you put too much emphasis on what others think, and do.

We have to realize that the only person we can control is ourselves.

If the guy doesn't talk to you anymore, it's probably no great loss. No use cringing when you hear his name, just put your chin up and smile...

If your friends are ignoring you, then are they worth the bother? What do you want them to listen to? Do you need support and someone to listen to a problem?

Perhaps the "friends" you choose are not that good for you. Take a look at the types of people you're attracted to... sometimes we set ourselves up for big let downs when it comes to choices.

take care of YOU and think for yourself. what other people think, do or say isn't important.

gather your dignity and think and do and say what you feel is right and best.

we normally cause our own drama.

Answer 4

You sound slightly like holden caulfeild from catcher interior the rye lol yet in any case i comprehend it somewhat sucks how human beings are at present our international is corrupted and that i dont think of peace is coming alongside each time quickly.What are you able to do be the suitable guy or woman u could be and motivate others to accomplish that i comprehend it sounds corny yet i dont have a lot desire for this international anymore

Answer 5

I suggest that you find a way of valuing yourself and the time that you can be with yourself . Find out what you like doing that is just for you.
then when other people are trying to pull you out of shape this way and that coming on and then blowing you away you can just smile and know that you have and independent life that will not let you down.

To get your thinking head on first relax listen to soem music htat oyu liek and be totally in it and then write down bullet points of what you want and what you want to think.
the only person you really need to trust is yourself. Once you have that and self respect you can let other peopel be as foolish as they have to eb without it affecting you.

Answer 6

i kno that theres alot goin on wit u right now. and that every1 reach to a point where they just cant think anymore or u just feel like ur goin to explode (includin me). all i can say is that time will heal it i been through problems with guys and it took me a while but i took baby steps and it got better. i just think u may need some time from ur friends and go and find other people u think can treat u better. just a little time until u find out wat ur r goin to do. just try to think happy and try to listen to music maybe it will help a little bit. but all around time...time will heal it all may take longer than other but time. and remeber u do have friends that u can trust and that will always b there 4 u

Answer 7

I don't do drama anymore, I have made that pretty clear to everybody that I know. I have learned to say, Sorry, You will have to take that somewhere else. And I have even had to go so far as to tell some of my children's friends to get out, you don't have any respect for yourself or me. When you learn how to act, come and see me. Bye now. .Don't except the drama. It's just that simple. As far as these people who don't want to speak or be your friend, you are better off without them. Smile, speak, and keep on going.

Answer 8

Ok, you need to get some help. Your thought processes are speedy.

Have you ever had a psychological problem? I mean no offense by this, but you sound like you may have a bipolar disorder.

Call your local Crisis Center and ask how to get some psychiatric treatment.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Why don't you just ask your friends/guy friend what happened.If you did something to upset them or hurt their feelings.If not kids can be like that sometimes & the best thing you can do for yourself would be to make new friends;maybe not at school but maybe through volunteering,a youth group,join a club,who knows.The opportunites are endless.These friends of yours don't seem to value your friendship & in the end you're going to get hurt.

Answer 10

This happens to everybody at some point. You have to just let it slide off you and relax about everything. Things will get better, and people like that arent worth worrying over. Focus on you and whats important.