i met a really nice girl 2 weeks ago and were going on our first date tomorrow night to the pictures, but ive not got alot of experience with these things because the last date i went on was 5 years ago, im 21 and shes 19 but i darent kiss her incase i mess it all up because weve only known eachother a few week, were both the shy type and i need some tips off some of you on here of what to do.
2007-10-22 07:45:03 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the movie goes well (she puts her head on your shoulder, hold your hand, whatever) then I would say you should kiss her at the end of the date. If she seems stand offish at all, or shy herself, maybe wait until the next one. Don't worry so much, i'm sure you'll do fine.
2007-10-22 07:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the amount of time you've known her might pose a problem. Two weeks isn't too long for most people, so her reaction to the kiss might vary. She could see it as being "too soon" or she could see it as a cute, romantic gesture to end a
first date (Hard to guess what a shy girl would think of it). If you factor in how well the date goes as well, then you should decide on the spot whether or not you should actually do it.
Sounds like you don't have a problem with only knowing someone for two weeks, so depending on how the date plays out you should know inside whether or not you should kiss her. Even a small kiss on the cheek would probably be seen as sweet, since it's more reserved.
2007-10-22 07:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by Brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I think you need to stop focusing so much on the kiss. If during the date you are continually looking for oppertunities to kiss her and to read her body language to see whether or not she would be receptive to it you will forget to enjoy urslef. Also, It may well be that your anxiety will affect the way you come across and at the end of the day, a good date is judged by the quality of the other persons personalitily and not what happened during it. My advice, Is just ask her! It is the most respectful thing to do and will give the simplest answer, yes or no. yes, Great! no, No Problem! She cannot judge you adversly for asking, the people that are judged are the ones who pounce without any warning. On reflection, whatever happens between you thereafter, she will see you as someone who was confident and considerate and that is no bad thing! Have a great time sweetie and enjoy! x
2007-10-22 08:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by Lovelee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've dated a few shy types. Every single one of them I had kissed on the first date. That has always led me to a very enjoyable evening at their place.
I would say make he first move. Since she is shy she may want to kiss you but won't show it.
If you are still afraid to kiss her on the first date, just kiss her on the cheek after the date is over. If she smiles or something like that after you do that, I would say it would be alright to do "mouth-to-mouth recicitation" (Kissing her on the lips)
Hope this helps.
2007-10-22 07:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by AJMc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's a REALLY NICE GIRL then kiss her on the cheek, tell her what a wonderful time you had together, and ask if she'd like to do it again soon. If you are both shy, she probably is unsure of that first kiss issue too. Be a gentleman. Wait. I never kiss a guy on the first date. Ever! (I am a nice girl too!)
2007-10-22 07:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you get to the end of the date and you're getting on well, then yes, otherwise no.
You don't have to go for a full French kiss if you're both feeling shy, instead you could kiss her on the lips or even kiss her on the cheek and tell her that you'd like to do it again.
Best tip - don't try and headbutt her - move in gently whilst facing her and hopefully she move too.
English teen girls practice kissing on a pillow - I'd reccommend this.
2007-10-22 07:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by Blink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a surefire way you can tell whether or not she wants to be kissed, you need to check out her body language on the date before you do anything. Believe me if she likes you, you will know about it! Look out for things like whether she sits/walks close to you, smiles a lot, looks into your eyes, lets you put your arm over her etc.. if she looks keen then begin to lean towards her a little.. if she pulls back, just stop, dont go any further, pretend to pick a piece of fluff out her hair or something. However if she lets you lean closer and looks ready to receive it... then go in for the kiss!!!
2007-10-22 08:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by KooKoo Moolookoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like this - let whatever happens, happen. The more pressure or rules you put on yourself, the less natural you may act.
Shyness has nothing to do with it. Have confidence that you are the best you can be, and she must think you're great too, or she wouldn't have accepted the date.
Have fun! Think of it as just hanging out. Because that is all a date is. There just aren't other people invited. You're hanging out.
2007-10-22 07:49:55 · answer #8 · answered by sarahsmurfette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, just take it easy. Why not say that you don't want to offend her by kissing her or by not kissing her, then kiss her on the back of her hand. I did that the first time I took my wife out and we have been married for over 32 years. I hope it all goes well for you both.
2007-10-22 08:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by O Him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be focusing on the kiss, that will all happen naturally. Focus more on why you like her and what you like about her. Maybe take some time to think about topics of discussion that are interesting to you both so that after dinner there might be a chance for the kiss, maybe more.
2007-10-22 07:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by gotbeerimez69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋