I'm sad. I never saw my father :(?

Question

Hello, I'm a 17 years old Canadian young.
I'm sad beacuse I never saw my father and he dont accept me... I do not know why.
Advice?
Kisses from Clinton,ON,Canada.

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Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear that - it must be very difficult for you.

I guess my advice would be, try to put your energy into living your life in the best way possible for you. Try to turn this difficult experience into something positive if you can. For example, if one day you become a father, be the best father you can possibly be.

Although its not the same, you can meet good father figures in your life, and that will help.

Have you thought of having some counselling to help you work through this?

Good luck, I hope these answers help.

Answer 2

That is a good reason to be sad, for sure.

My advice is to not let this occurrance in your life DEFINE you. In case you don't know what that means, it means:
Just 'cause your dad doesn't accept you that doesn't necessarily make you an unacceptable person.

In fact there are few acceptable reasons why a father would not accept one of his own children. It says a lot more about HIS character, than it does about yours.
Late last week, I answered a question from a young woman who had sought out her disconnected father, & when she finally re-connected with him, he turned out to be a real jerk.

Try to look on the bright side. He may have done you a big, big favour by staying out of your life. You just don't know for sure, but it's more likely because of HIS failings as a man, than it is due to anything that is wrong with you.

I hope you can cheer up, real soon! :-D

Answer 3

Be sure that it's nothing about you that makes him not accept you.He doesn't even know you. You are undoubtedly a fine, intelligent, sensitive person with a lot to give in this world. Parents are not gifted with natural parenting skills, they're just people who muddle through the best they can. He doesn't sound very capable, perhaps even inadequate. Try and find out about him from other relatives, piece things together, see what sort of man he is, it may help build a bigger picture and stop you feeling it's anything to do with you. Beethoven's Dad was the same, by the way... x

Answer 4

I'm sorry for you. The way you deal with this is to talk it out. Talk to your mom about why they aren't together and what she may know about him or to other family members about what they know of him, so that you have even a little clarification on why he is the way he is. Talk to an impartial third party about your feelings over the matter. Mourn the loss of the relationship that you wanted but couldn't have, mourn the loss of the man you wish he was and then accept the reality of what you have. Look for other positive male role models in your life--grandfather, uncles, step father, teachers, etc. and be grateful for what you do have in your life.

Answer 5

dont be because u might find out him being in ur life is not worth it ive been there b4 and trust me u just go back 2 square 1.

Answer 6

i never saw your father too

Answer 7

i am sorry to hear this.