Girls Opinion is must reqd. . . . . . I am in Love with my gf & she says?

Question

We meet everyday.
For eating or movies or park etc she says no.
But for sex she is eveready.
Her sister left her husband 1.5 yrs after marriage.
I love her & still wana marry her.
She says my house is small & asks me what will i do if her parents said no.
Is she confused? I get pain in my heart when she speaks negative.
I LOVE HER & want her as my life partner but she tells me to wait for marriage even though she satisfies me sexually.
She knows that i love her very deeply.
Is she looking someone else or is waiting that if someone comes in her life then she will dump me.

Girls Opinion is must reqd as i want to understand it from their perspective too. Boys must also answer.

Answer 1

get over her

Answer 2

First of all how old is your g/f that she needs her parents permission? If she's under 18 then for gods sake wait. What is the rush??? If she loves you but wants to wait before getting married then you should respect her wishes and wait. A person is never the same at 18 as they are at 30 or even 40, who you married at 18 will not be the same person at 30 and eventually you'll realize you didn't know them all along.

Give her a break, she's not waiting until something better comes along, but don't be surprised when it does. She needs to live her life and experience it, I know more people that got married right out of HS and had kids and suddenly 15 years later they are divorced because they feel like they missed out on life.

Nothing wrong with just dating and waiting a while before making that commitment, marriage isn't to be taken lightly, and not every woman wants to be tied down.

I''m still trying to figure out what satisfying you sexually has to do with getting married. If that were the case I'd have been married A LOT.

Answer 3

Ask her parents. It's the only way you will know. I'm assuming you are in India (?) and you know, her folks are the ones that will give her permission to marry you or not. Maybe she's afraid that her parents will oppose due to your financial standing.

It seems that she likes you and all, but she maybe hoping for someone better than you. I'm sorry to be this honest, but this is from a woman's perspective what it seems like. I'm sure than when someone else with better finances shows up, you will be out the door in no time.

Be honest with her and tell her that you will speak to her parents to ask for her hand in marriage. Tell her that you are tired of being her secret and that you want to do the right thing by marrying her. See her reaction, if she hesitates, I'm afraid that she's not the one for you. She seems to be waiting for Mr. Money Bags.

Good luck

Answer 4

Just by what you are saying, I would run and run far away. Sex is ok and lots of fun, but you can't really build a good relation on it. Does she work, what kind of house keeper is she. Would she be a good mother. And the big questions is, are you the only one she is having sex with? Will she find someone else. She is already not happy with the size of home you are planning on giving her.

If I was you, I would look around a little bit more. While you are doing this, you may be giving her a little time to grow up. And who knows, you might find someone that likes more things than Just Sex.

Answer 5

The way I am seeing it is that she is just using u if she loves u than why does it really matter how big of a house u have and if she is having sex with u than what's a big deal in going out for movies,dinner or just hanging out with each other...I would suggest try keeping some distance and I would say she is dating someone that's the only reason she doesn't want to get married to u

Answer 6

how old are you two/ Perhaps she doesnt want to get married, why should she? However, she sounds young if she's talking about needing her parents consent, or is it a cultural thing? where are you writing from?
How long have you been seeing her. What other things do you share if you dont go on dates for meals or films etc,,,, do you just have sex and really do nothing else? if that IS the case, then you need to accept that she only wants that from the relationship

Answer 7

Clearly, you want to be with her, but it sounds like she has some issues to resolve and perhaps she's not ready to share them with you yet. That should signal to you that she's also not ready to handle a marriage commitment.

She may be skeptical about marriage, unsure about your ability to provide for her or any of a number of things. The fact that she isn't willing to go out on dates with you is disturbing. Your relationship with her is not well-rounded and complete if you two are only sexual partners.

If you truly love her, don't force her into anything. Be patient but also be realistic. There's a chance that she could be using you, but I certainly hope not. Sounds like you have a kind heart. Unfortunately, I think she's probably going to break it.

Answer 8

That's a little confusing. But is sounds like she is holding out for a rich guy. Sorry, but men care more about looks and women care more about stability. And I think she knows you will just sit there waiting for her. But I hope you will find a girl you can actually go out on a date with. Stand up for having a whole relationship. If you do decide to date others, end the just for sex relationship so you can go into a new relationship honestly.

Answer 9

This is hard to answer because you do not give your ages. If you both are around 20, it makes sense that she might not be ready for marriage. If you both are around 35, if she is not now ready for marriage she probably never will be. If you are around 35 and she is around 20, I'd say it is a problem of you two being at different stages in your life. If she is around 35 and you are around 20, she is probably concerned that you are too young.

Answer 10

You dont' mention ages, but that makes a big difference. You can get married at 14 in Mississippi if your parents say OK, so her being divorced tells me nothing. Plus, if she's still worried what her parents think about who she marries, she's not mature enough to be getting married. (not that their opinions shouldn't be sought, but she sounds fearful)

Quit having sex w/ her and quit dating her. She's on the rebound from a marriage and is hurting. She's not ready to commit to you or anyone else. So you quit taking advantage of her sexually.

Answer 11

Ok, if I understand you, you and your lady enjoy each other's company, in and out of bed, but she doesn't want to move in with you until after you're married..

Cool...most couples that live together before marriage end up divorcing anyway...not that couples that don't live together first don't divorce. But, the rate is about 2-3 times higher.