Why i always get hurt by someone.All their words got easily affected me.?

Question

I am become unhappy.. if people are inconsederate.I got hurt easily when people saying a bad words towards me.bad comment even i know is not true.when i ask advice of my friend how to correct that types of behavior.They are always says ignore it.Its still hurting me.I cant take negative people and unpolite.people I got hurt so bad I wonder why they can easily those unkindly words to other people.I feel you have no right to say something to someone.or become snappy. and rude.I am wondering if this is really the real world people are so mean.I grow up in the farm i never feel people saying bad to me even when i was in high school and colleges.My teacher respect me all classmates my family.when i come over here in america.everything is changes.Its like i have culture shock!.I keep thinking about them over and over.what im going to do?

I am sorry I'm not clear my words about america.I know not all people are the same.there are so many nice people in US.
I was shock even i am inside the church people do not smile at you.There are so mush distance.No smile.specially inside the catholic church.I am a roman catholic i got hurt the way people behave.Its like people here are full of anger.stress.loneliness.I cant go home to my country.I have contract to finish
I know this is all my mistakes.we have all choice how to react life.we choose if we can be happy or not.
I am so sensitive person.and turning to be mad person.I feel mentally sick of people.I feel i have social phobia.
Its so hard.I was raised so different.No bad words.i attained chuch 5 days a week.say rosary and say prayer.before eating and after eathing.
people here specially around me.They just grab the food.When i start praying the will say amen right away.and they will laugh.This is not really happen everyday.I avoid them now.

Answer 1

From what I understand after talking with people who have come from other countries, culture shock is indeed common. Just keep in mind that what is rude in one culture may not be rude in another. Of course, some things are universally rude, like a person directing bad words at another.

There's really nothing you can do when someone is rude to you. I think that's why it hurts so much. If a person hits me, I can have that person arrested and my body will heal. But if someone calls me bad things, people tell me to "ignore" it and say that I should just develop a thicker skin. And worst of all, the bad things stay in my mind for weeks. There is no fast healing. Words hurt.

I can't tell you what to do about this--everyone is different and what works for me may not work for you. But here's what I do. I don't have anything to do with people who go out of their way to offend me. If it's someone online, I block them. To get my anger out of my system, I write out how I feel about them or vent to someone I trust. After a while, I just start concentrating on people who matter. I am convinced that rude people thrive on upsetting people. The longer you or I stay upset, the longer they win. Personally, I really don't want them to win.

You will have to discover your own coping mechanism. You have one, you just don't know it yet. Keep trying different things and stick with what works. Just know that you're not alone. Many people are offended by rude behavior and harsh words every day, even people that were born and raised here. You will also find that there are many polite people here. Please don't think we're all this way! I wish you all the best!

Answer 2

There are all kinds of jerks out there. And they are cowards. They depend on and enjoy the negative reaction they cause in you. This won't change, but what can is, you. Learn to understand yourself. You will find that you are a special person. That you care about what is happening signifies that you are several steps up the ladder from the jerks that love hurting people to boost there own ego. When they claim the ladder they pull others down. See what good people see in you. Your self esteem will raise to the point you will only care what good people think. When jerks see they don't get the response they expect they will move on to someone else they can bully.

Take care and good luck.

Answer 3

Welcome to the party pal!
Most of the people that you meet here in the United States are going to be mean and inconsiderate. Keep in mind that most of the time someone here is going to try to get under your skin, and if you let them know that they can hurt you they will do it again, and again, and again because they are getting a charge out of it.

You seem like you are sensitive to other people. I say this in a good way. There needs to be more sensitive people on this world but right now, people like you are out-numbered by all the mean, evil, selfish people.

My advice to you is to not react when you are around some assholes. Just pretend like they don't exist, or just ignore them. You have to DO something because they are not going to stop behaving like idiots. The only control you have in life is your own reaction to people and things.

Answer 4

You need to realize that only the opinions of those people that matter to you are important. What you are doing wrong is giving the people who do not matter far too much power to affect you. Not every opinion is valid. Not every opinion is offered with good intentions. You need to sort out those that matter from those that do not and stop empowering unimportant people with the ability to cause you doubt or pain.

Imagine this scenario. If a close friend or relative told you they thought you were crazy that would be bad. However, if you were walking down the corridor of an insane asylum and one of the patients called you crazy, it would be meaningless.

When you treat Every opinion as equally important you demean the opinions of those who matter. Besides, your own opinion is the most important, anyway.

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Answer 5

I'm not sure if i give you the right advice but i think that if you relax and give a better look around you you will realize that good people are as many as bad ones so keep your eyes wide open and try to think positive!!!

Answer 6

One of the things we learn as we grow up is how to shake off the hurtful words and looks from people, you cant control what other people say or do, nor do you let it affect you, especially if they are strangers, they are rude, but that is THEIR problem, be strong and dont let it bother you, you have the love and care of family and friends.