My boyfriend gets mad when we go out and I flirt. It's just how I am. It doesn't mean I am attracted to them. I like the attention I get from them. I have never cheated and never will. Is it wrong that I flirt?
2007-10-22 07:16:44 · 11 answers · asked by Jules 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This can be a touchy subject for many guys. Here's the deal if you go out and spend the whole night flirting with everyone else and hanging on other guys he might think it as a sign of disrespect. This is the way guys think "Look her boyfriend is here with her and she just totally hitting on me. This guy is a punk". Of course you already stated that you would not cheat but the guy your flirting with doesnt know that. Of course if you r boyfriend spends his night doing the same thing then it should not be an issue for you guys.
Something you might want to do is reverse that roles in your mind. My girlfriend (who is a flirter) says that she doesnt see flirting as a problem. Well, one night a very nice looking woman was flirting with me. So obviously, she didnt care right?? "Wrong" she was as mad as all heck. And while this girl was only doing what you probably do (harmless flirting). My girlfriend didnt like it too much on the other foot.
One more item would be if he's the "jealous" type you might want to cut back on this behavior (save you from arguing) or find a new boyfriend.
Obvioulsy, you should be able to talk to guys, hug them hello and goodbye, and laugh and joke with them all night and you should expect about the same from him. If your flirting involves sexual items being discussed between you and strangers then you are definitely giving of the wrong messages.. Just an FYI.
2007-10-22 07:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by da_leeda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not really cheating, but it is disrespectful and probably inappropriate for someone in a relationship. I mean, you make it sound like you go out and do it on purpose, and to a lot of people, flirting does mean something. You may get yourself in a deeper situation than you thought. If nothing else, you are being inconsiderate of his feelings. Do you really think it's out of line to ask your significant other NOT to flirt so much? Work on toning it down, most men will not be comfortable in a relationship with a girl who constantly flirts with others.
2007-10-22 14:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by melissa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how do you define "flirt"? If it's just talking to guys, than that's fine. But if it's more than that, I guess it could be a problem. If you can honestly say that you'll never cheat on him, then it shouldn't be a problem. But does he know that?
So by saying you like the attention, does that mean your boyfriend doesn't give you enough attention? Or is that all you want?
2007-10-22 14:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend has a problem with it and his feelings are important to you... what are you going to do? be selfish or be considerate?? answer your own question honey! AND consider your intentions when you were flirting... what were u thinking? were u intentionally trying to make ur guy jealous or just being fresh??
2007-10-22 14:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he got all the right to be mad, cos u r flirting with another guy, wouldnt u feel bad if he flirted with another girl ??
Flirt with him , play with him, touch him.
talk to others, smile, joke, dont let them cross the limit with u and care for bf feelings. ( lol take care )
good luck
2007-10-22 14:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by michael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. My husband and I are both semi-entertainers and we're always flirting. No harm, no foul. We both enjoy it and it's fun. It's also fun watching the other get attention from the opposite sex. Neither of us are insecure. Good luck. 2D
2007-10-22 14:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by 2D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything that you do that would make you uncomfortable saying to your boyfriend later is considered cheating.
2007-10-22 14:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by nrossi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you be comfortable with him doing the same things with other girls that you do, if that would bother you then you need to stop for sure, you need to respect him, and to say, "its just how I am" is a cop out and crappy excuse to try to justify what you know bothers him.
2007-10-22 14:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it hurts his feelings. You are mentally cheating on him. It's like when you chat online with other guys... you are mentally cheating.
2007-10-22 14:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by jarnoldft 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no not at all , at least ur not kissing flirting is releasing ur energy for other men without actually doing anything
2007-10-22 14:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by jac 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋