I apologize for posting a similar question earlier, but it wasn't worded properly and I got a lot of unwanted responses. Here's one slightly rephrased. I deleted the other question.
The following people are all invited to the wedding, but I am thinking of inviting them to my bachelor party:
1. my father
2. the minister--I don't plan on having strippers at all, but I do plan on drinking at a bar/club. He's of a denomination that doesn't condemn drinking.
3. future-father-in-law
4. uncles of the bride (whom I hardly know)
5. cousins of the bride (whom I hardly know)
6. male significant other of female friend for 12 years (well acquainted with but not in the wedding party)
7. Husbands of my bride's friends (whom I hardly know)
8. Significant other of my bride's friend (met only once but we clicked, certain he's coming to the wedding as my bride's friend's date)
2007-10-22 07:07:31 · 23 answers · asked by Andre 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't know that there's a specific etiquette rule that prohibits you from inviting those individuals (except maybe the father-in-law) but inviting people who might feel obligated to come along, but who would feel distinctly uncomfortable at your bachelor party is in poor form. And don't invite anyone you "hardly know." I wouldn't recomend your future father-in-law, relatives or friends of the bride or the minister unless you're very close. Bachelor parties are supposed to be for just the groom and his friends. You should invite this female friend of yours 12 years and she can bring her date, but anyone associated with the bride isn't typically at the bachelor party unless the bride is there too and you're doing a joint party together. It sounds like you're defining your party as "a bunch of guys" when it should be "a bunch of friends -- male or not."
2007-10-23 03:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by weirdiscomplimentary 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It would not worry me. it relatively is advisable to point interior the invitation which you're having a smaller wedding ceremony with a smaller customer record yet are waiting to ask greater men to the bachelor social gathering. this form they're going to comprehend if no wedding ceremony invitation comes.
2016-10-07 09:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by kottwitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a PG party, and not an X-rated stripper-thon, then I think it would be charming to invite all these gentlemen. I suggest that you mimic hen parties, and have each guest stand up offer the guest of honor advice on how to be a good husband.
2007-10-22 09:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are allowed to invite whomever you want. Peronslly, I would invite those who you feel comfortable with.
If you must have some sort of gathering that involves people that you aren't very well aquainted with, possibly entertain the idea of going out for dinner with everyone then to a bar with your closest guy friends?
2007-10-22 07:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can invite anyone you want. Just make sure you invite people who are not going to look down on your if you do get intoxicated or do anything out of character. You do not have to invite everyone that is coming to the wedding. This party is for you, so invite whomever you are comfortable with.
2007-10-22 07:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by vaya 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you're inclined to invite: "THE ELDERS"..for lack of better words.. then you should include them by planning activities in which they can participate without them or you being embarrased. So.. we're going to "Gino's" for the most amazing Pizza in the world...then we're going to Tavern City for some great beer, mixed drinks...
If you're thinking of going to "THE BALLET" (i.e. Strip show), then I would reserve this activity to include ONLY very close friends. Definitely, no FAMILY, the only exception being your Brothers (if you have any and they're cool with it) and definitely NO PRIESTS/RABBIS/etc..
You have to play this right. Seriously, do you really want your future father-in-law watching you slip the stripper a $1.00.. Is this the kind of man you want him to think you are?
Dude..and this is coming from a man.. trust me..bad idea.
Keep it clean with the family and if you must..decide to go to after-hours activities..then take only your buds.
2007-10-22 07:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by RUNINTLKT 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Tradionally, only the wedding party should be included.Your groomsmen, the best man, ushers and your brothers (if you have any)
Depending on how roudy the party is, you may invite your father and your father in law.
Forget about uncles, acquaintences and cousins. You will have time for them at the reception and also, you should be considerate of your best man finances.
Forget about the minister, are you kidding me?
2007-10-22 07:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, normally it's the best man who plans the bachelor party....not the groom. And it's not normal at all to invite the fathers, ministers, etc. Usually the guy's bachelor party is the groomsmen and any other really close friends he wants there who are also invited to the wedding. You'd obviously never invite a guy to the party who wasn't also invited to the wedding.
But it's YOUR bachelor party so if you want your minister, the fathers, uncles, etc there, then hey - that's cool. I'm sure they'll appreciate being invited!
2007-10-22 07:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
It's very kind of you to invite them. I actually had to read your question twice to make sure I interpreted it right.
No there is no etiquette re who you should invite. But if your friends on a budget are throwing this for you maybe you should ask them if you can invite so many. I tell you, if your bride to be finds out your minister and her Dad are invited she will love you for it. It means there really won't be any hanky panky. She is one lucky girl!
2007-10-22 07:16:24 · answer #9 · answered by lipvixen 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you can invite anyone you want to a bachelor party, whether they are in the wedding party or not. It is your party, i just wouldnt invite anyone that your not inviting to the wedding for obvious reasons.
2007-10-22 07:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by louie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋