I have a mental illness, I am bipolar. For years ive had this, ive been on meds and in therapy. I try to fight in but I just get this feeling that I dont fit in. Is society to blame for me not fitting in or is it me. At times im so confused and dont know what to think, can you help unconfuse me.
2007-10-22 07:04:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
For years ive tried to fit in. Ive been on meds and in therapy. Is it my fault or is soceity to blame. Can you help unconfuse me?
2007-10-22 07:05:36 · update #1
No one is "to blame". You are who you are. We are all dealt a different hand to play.
2007-10-22 07:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by robotetoj 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Has you case worker ever suggested that
your need for control and to feel like you deserve respect is part of the manic phase of the disease?
Incidentally, you are on Librium and not just an anti depressant?
Are you in a city where B/P groups meet?
These groups are invaluable for helping
not just the person with the disease, but also family members.
Perhaps by respect you mean family and others don't understand the disease.
It does put a strain on anyone who has it, but can have a huge impact on others as well. These families do tend to be into control. This may be in response to their feelings of helplessness when they see negative changes in their loved one.
When I first became physically disabled,
I thought that people would at least show me some compassion, when they were less than enthusiastic about that notion,
I would get a little huffy.
People have their own lives and problems
to deal with, so I came along and the reaction is so what?
Now, it isn't important. In fact I prefer
that people not try to help me. I need the exercise and usually can do it myself, thank you anyway.
So, try to find that support group. I haven't looked on line but if you can't find one in your community, see if you can find one on line.
Good luck
2007-10-22 14:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by wpepper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it's a bit of both.Bi polar is a word that has been abused,you hear it all the time now,like asthma.People have gotten so sick of terms to describe bad behavior that 90% of society simply will not give others a chance to establish themselves,afraid something will invade thier lives that may take too much of thier time or energy.It's very unfortunate for true bi polars as they need people to discover thier true soul,not the glitch that causes some erratic behavior.I will tell you though that you are as every single other bi polar I have ever known(and it's many)in feeling you don't fit in.That is a part of your illness.Possibly this internet is the best way for you to develop true friendships as you can choose by your mood when to connect with people.I have many dear friends that I have known for 10 years online but have never met in person.Of course for more personal relationships it's best to explain and take someone you care about and want in your future to groups,appointments,give them the info on bi polar and your meds to research and don't hold anything back about yourself.If they truly care they will adjust and if they don't truly care,it hurts like he-- but it's best not to have them around.Bi polars can get training therapy as I'm sure you know but the burden of a relationship with a bi polar is on the "normal"person.
2007-10-22 14:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by sanemarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of stigma attached to mental illness and this is something that need s to change in society and is currently being addressed. However it does take a long time before everyone changes their attitude. I think people fear mental illness so they tend to steer away from it.
As you are bi-polar you may need to look at the way you talk to others. If you dont speak to other people in a respectful way you cant expect them to be pleasant to you.
2007-10-22 14:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by bri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Society, the lack of understanding of mental illnesses is just appalling. It's not your fault. Having a mental illness(like bipolar disorder) is no different than having cancer. It's so sad how people don't understand. People need to be educated.
2007-10-22 14:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by Eepers!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi.. i also have bipolar disorder, and i think that you are on the right track to managing your illness by going to a therapist and following your regimen of medication.
I would like to say that not everyone we cross paths with needs to know we have bipolar disorder -- it's no one's business.
We are all responsible for ourselves and for our own behaviors. Perhaps you could ask your therapist to talk about helping you learn to think differently, and taking care of YOUR OWN issues -- it's not up to others to treat us a certain way, and there are quite a lot of NICE people out there who are respectful. On the other hand, there are others out there who dont' respect themselves, so how can they respect others?
Sometimes we need to learn to accept others at face value. If they are disrespecful, it's because they choose to be that way -- it's nothing you have done.
take care of YOU and do what is best for YOU.
welcome to join our mental health forums listed below, if you like...
2007-10-22 14:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could be you in the way that, its on your mind that you're different and people wont/cant accept you so you could be sending out a negative message if you know what i mean, in which case just be positive and confident that you will fit in and let people see your true personality.
but in my opinion its not you. its because people arent taught respect or to accept different people. which is harder to change really. there are people that are understanding and that will treat you the way they treat everyone, unfortunately there are alot of dickheads. and while there are alot of nice people, most of them will be caught up in there own stuff so finding truly understanding people could be harded, sorry.
and also everything ive just said could be a load of crap because that is only my opinion and im only 17. :]
2007-10-22 14:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you have to accept yourself for who you are and what you are. everyone does. there are teens out there with horrid cases of acne who have to go out and face the day everyday, who feel just like you do. I'm slightly mental myself, I've come to accept myself as if it were normal, like we live in a society of werewolves and vampires acceptably. We don't really, but it helps my attitude improve to where people don't take notice of any vibes from me that maybe all isn't what is considered normal.
2007-10-22 14:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not mad: the world is. Bi-polarity is OK. Self-control can govern it. Move forward, never forget that you are a decent person trying to do what is right and you will be fine.
2007-10-22 14:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
we each of us must take responsibility for who and what we are. until that is accomplised you've no one to blame and then you have only yourself to blame for what your perceptions of society are. but once responsibility is accepted, you can begin to take control over your life and live a very much happier one. society and what they think or do, has nothing to do with your own self image, only your perceptions and how you act on those perceptions affect your life. so take responsibility for own happiness, no one else can give that to you.
2007-10-22 14:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people can get mean and at the same time it depends on how you treat people that is why you may not feel adequate.Society is partially to blame due to so much misinterpretationa and false statements
2007-10-22 14:09:19 · answer #11 · answered by Itz Just me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋