Basically me and my ex bf split up 2 months ago after 2.5 yrs as he said i'd been messing around with him when i hadnt. Anyway he moved on quickly and got a gf and i later found out that i was pregnant and have now found a bf myself who says he'll help me raise the child. My ex now keeps ringing and txting saying he still loves me and wants to get back with me and be a father so i told him to prove he loves me dump his gf but he said he cnt as she's moved in with him bt he'll ask her to go. Do you think he loves me or just wants to get together for the childs sake?
2007-10-22 06:35:45 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a Jerry Springer episode. I feel bad for the baby.
2007-10-22 06:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by kelbean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a child tends to bring people together in unexplainable ways. It is a beautiful and scary thing. I don't know much about your story, but given you had been together for 2.5 yrs. and the fact that he even dumped his current girlfriend to be with you, it sounds like he is being sincere. Also, having a child is no trivial matter, and he could easily just go along his way and leave you with the child. That would be the easy way out for him. He must really love you to take you back after all that has happened. But a word of warning, be ready to grow up quickly.
2007-10-22 06:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by Robbie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not love you or the child. He is a greedy jerk who has seen you have moved on and will not accept it. He wants to hoard women admirers to make sure he has reserves. He 'invests' by confusing you thru sweet words and telling you he still loves you so you will be hanging on to his every word and won't totally forget him. If he is constatntly present he knows you will never have a solid relationship with any guy therefore you will be his beck and call girl.
He knows if you dump this new great guy or if that man gets fed up with you still thinking abt Mr. X you will have a tough time finding someone new and therefore be at his mercy. He refuses to leave other woman because he cannot let go of reserves. he just wants to collect and will always long for who isn't there.
2007-10-22 06:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by lipvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men want what they can't have. They also want to have their cake and eat it too. (A lot of women are the same way). If he truly loved you and wanted to be a GOOD father, he would lose the gf and devote 100% of his time to you and the baby. It sounds like that is too much to ask of him so I would stick with the real man. The bf you found that is willing to help you raise your child as his own. That takes a lot and proves he is more a man than your ex will ever be.
2007-10-22 06:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by piphop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both hooked up with people in two months after 2.5 years. Your new BF is a rebound that you are USING to gain a false sense of security for your child. He could possibly love you but now has a girl living with him in under two months? MOst cheaters accuse the person they are with of the very crime they are commiting. You want him to prove it by dumping her? How about prove you cared about him in the first place and realize what you are doing and what a horrible family this would probably make.
2007-10-22 06:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he may Love you but not like you would have hoped. he probably has been thinking it over and realised that he doesnt want to have a kid and not be involved with it. thats horrible. but part of him probably does love you. just tell him. look you cant be with me, i have a new boyfriend. he didnt leave me for a stupid reason. and if you think he should be a part of your childs life then tell him he can be a part of your childs life he just has to help out. witch i also think is the best way to go. a child really has a lot of problems growing up without a father, unless you think he is a bad role model. Good luck.
2007-10-22 06:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nahhh
I think he is just saying those things because he know that you now have a boyfriend who is willing to take responsiblities for his kid. I think he is just filling your head, so that you will not forget him. He wants to still be in your head and in your heart, so that if they ever throw him out, he will have someone who will accept him with open arms.
Girl..... He is trying to play you. Trying to keep you on your toes, so that you can always want him.
Which is something I think he is already accomplishing, cause by telling him to prove his love, you already pretty much told him, you would take him back.
If he loved you, he wouldn't have a girlfriend at all, specially when he found out you were pregnant.
If you let him play with your head then you are never going to be happy,and he will walk all over you.
2007-10-22 06:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by Life Is Amazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I just think you just had the answer to your question by yourself.Exactly the same thing happened to me. The real man who loves you is that man who accepted to be the foster father of you baby. I told my ex bf theses words. " you are the biological father of this kid but he has gotten a real father, so i'm sorry u can't be my kids father". Just know that if you let this man into your lif he will bring more frustration and stress to you and he will never be faithful to you and that might be harm for the baby in you. So that isn't what you need right now.
take care.
2007-10-22 06:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by val 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't matter, now on to me...
just kidding.
you should think about the child, it's not going to have 2 parents in the same house but thats better. if you both get together you'll never really find the ones you both truly care about. if he thought you cheated on him then he obviously has trust problems with you. think of your feuture and the kids'.
it will hurt the kid more to see you to break up years down the road then doing it now before it is born, it will be used to haveing you to split up and won't suffer any emotional damage or any of that stuff that comes along with your parents breaking up when your young.
for the kids sake and yours, stick with your new boyfriend and forget about the old one, he will alway's have trust issues with you.
2007-10-22 06:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by starcraft961 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds really jealous that you and yr bf want to raise the child.
He is just in it for the childs sake.
The only thing he can do is support the child with child support
2007-10-22 06:40:17 · answer #10 · answered by Elly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋