First, please do not ask me why I want to be back with this guy....but, there was this guy I was involved with and in love with lied to me about everything. Basically he had a gf. I had prayed 2 God for something like this to never happen to me again but it did.
I am so depressed and miserable...I hate my life and really don't serve a purpose on earth. I ask God to help me get over him and to get him back but instead God let's him get away with everything and continues to let me hurt.
Why?? The more I pray the more I see this guy is happier and walks away scott free.
2007-10-22 06:33:00 · 52 answers · asked by anonymous 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
whether there is a god or not isn't the issue. If there is, he probably has better things to do than punish you.
The issue lies with your self-esteem. That's probably what made you attractive to the guy, who's basically a predator, and that's what led you to repeat your mistake.
Why you have low self-esteem is impossible to completely answer from what limited info you have posted, but my guess is it stems from issues between you and your father and/or possible abuse/neglect.
Quit blaming god and others and accept responsibility for your actions. Work with a qualified psychotherapist to get to the root of your self-esteem issues so you don't continue to make the same mistakes.
We all make mistakes. The trick is to not make the same ones over and over again.
You do have purpose in life, and like everyone else on this planet, you have a great capacity for good and for creativity. Once you begin to love yourself, you'll be able to truly find someone to love you, and this guy will be just a distant unpleasant memory.
2007-10-22 06:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're prayers are focused around the guy not being happy, then that's not a particularly nice prayer.
Pray that God will grant you a happy life, and pray that God will grant that guy a happy life.
Join the club with depression and misery. Trust me, there are a lot of us out here that suffer that. You serve as much purpose on Earth as anyone else.
Remember - we only live once, and it's only for a few decades, so make the most of it.
About this guy - if he was willing to date you, and make you think you had a relationship, all the while maintaining a girlfriend, then is he really someone you want to pray to be with. Maturity will finally come when you are able to love someone who wants to be with you, and not someone who seems aloof and in demand by others.
Find a guy who wants YOU, and will walk through fire for YOU. Right now, those are the guys you see as not worthwhile. Give them another look. Change your mindset. What is it that you want? Probably to be loved by someone with all their heart. Why not let someone do that who really wants to do that?
2007-10-22 06:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God does not punish people. You have made poor choices which have resulted in a great deal of emotional pain. This guy has lied to you, yet you say you want him back. Why? So he can hurt you over and over again??? Garth Brooks recorded a song called "Unanswered Prayers" where he thanks God for not allowing him to have a relationship with someone due to the fact that he eventually found a much happier relationship with someone else which may not have happened if he had gotten involved with the other person. I have experienced this myself. I 've been hurt by men over and over again, but I eventually found & married a man who is more wonderful that I had ever dreamt of. Walk away from this guy, let your heart heal, & eventually God will bring you the right man when you are both ready.
2007-10-22 06:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by Emily & her mommy love Da Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that this is an issue involved in your prayers called "free will". God has decided to give people the right to make their own moral choices (but then be responsible for the consequences). If God did not bring that man back into your life, then it is probably because the guy is unwilling to follow him and do the right thing by you. So in his wisdom God knows that you are better off without him.
I know it may not seem like that to you, but that is where you have to trust God. He knows more than you.
If you are feeling useless, then you need to find a new purpose in your life instead of "that man". Find a good church in your area and get involved. Join an age appropriate group with which you can have fellowship and fun. Volunteer to help somewhere in the church (nursery, etc). Start filling your life with good things besides "him".
Who knows, may be the reason that God has not brought the right man along yet is because he is waiting for you to find some meaning and joy in your life that you can share with the man when he comes. He may just be waiting for you to get your life togther better so you are ready for his perfect guy....
You will be in my prayers today....
2007-10-22 06:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right. Stop thinking that god is punishing you.
Bad things happen to us all and most often there is no reason why. Maybe there is a lesson you need to learn here? Or that you made a bad choice and you should get up, dust yourself down and move on to the next challenge. Your god loves you regardless of your scapes and bruises and if you look inside the warmth of his love is in your heart and will always be there to support you. Push away from this looser and walk onwards with god's love, knowing that this guy will get his just deserts whilst you are walking into a happier, much warmer life.
Bright blessings. :)
2007-10-22 06:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by bellydancer-8- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you prayed to God for this to not happen to you again, Yet you go back your self then God is not punishing you, YOU ARE. And I know this is a cliche but time heals all wounds. No reason to despair, life goes on even though it does`nt feel so good at times { by our own unwitting account}. Love hurts. And sometimes we pray for things that are`nt in our best interest, although we think they may be. Therefor the answer may be No. Were just children, he is the Father. I hope this may help you .... I care what happens with you and I dont even know you. How then must your heavenly Father care for you ? God bless and dont despair.
2007-10-22 06:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by george b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the account of Job questioning why evil is allowed to persist and even be successful. It is in Job, chapter 21. I have felt the pains of lost love and know your hurt. Breaking up with someone you feel your in love will make you feel like there is no hope. Then gradually, that pain will subside and then you'll start getting on with your life. I met this most wonderful woman after my breakup. The hurt lasted for a good six months, though it felt like years. Then I resided to go on with my life and when I finally decided to call this young lady for a date, to my surprise she said yes. We have now been married for six years and been together all in all eight. We also have a 2 year old daughter and what a blessing. Evil people feel they are getting over on the innocent, but this is just a moment that they will regret in the hereafter.
2007-10-22 07:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by LDS of Three and Loving It 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you say that God is punishing you? God is trying to tell you that this guy is not right for you- if he continually hurts you, it is not God faults- you can pray, and He will help you, but you must be the one that takes the step to stay away from a person who continually lies to you. God is not someone that you can "wave a magic wand at" and then expect Him to change the other person. If your ex wants to change- He will- you are depressed and miserable because of your BF not because of God not answering your prayer- your prayer would be answered if you left the guy for good. You are asking God to help you get over him, but you also pray to get back with him- you are praying 2 opposite prayers. God is not punishing you, you are doing that to yourself.
2007-10-22 06:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first god does not punish if u have a bible read this it tells the one who does this 1 perter 5;8-10 and you do serve a purpose i know sometimes life gets hard and u don't need the get over it speech but theres always a lesson to be learned i myself have been burned 3 times it showed me what to look out for the next time what to look 4 in the person i married how to tell if there telling me a lie or not so just think of it this way its not a punishment its a life lesson hope this helped and god bless
2007-10-22 06:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by dragondaze65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you prayed that God protect you from making a mistake like this, to the exclusion of being careful yourself.
God gave us all minds to think with, and God wants you to use your mind and use wisdom in dating and relationships. So God let you learn an important lesson, and you are now upset.
Try now doing things the way God wants them done, and see that things will improve for you when you submit to His will, and subject your will to Him.
Most guys out there are pure scum, and you need to understand this, and they know how to take advantage of other people.
In this world, the wicked prosper, but it will not last or be so for ever.
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2007-10-22 06:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by Hogie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋