do you cut a family member out of your childrens lives?
to cut a long story very short, it is my ex mil, i have given her many many chances despite reservations as she is a manipulative and nasty woman, and each time she blows it, not putting my kids first and disregarding everything i have said and insisted on....these are not petty issues, its some fairly heavy traumatic stuff for my kids. this weekend she has absolutely gone behind my back (again) and did what she wanted despite me telling her not to..meaning my kids are now suffering another trauma.....i know she is their grandmother, but i do not want her anywhere near them from now on. This will mean she wont see them as they dont see their dad (her son) am i being fair??
2007-10-22 06:23:04 · 7 answers · asked by slsvenus 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
they are 11 and 8.
2007-10-22 06:31:17 · update #1
Remember this always: you are the parent, you're in charge. A check of state laws will tell you that under most circumstances, grandparents have zero rights. Take charge. Do what you think is best for your children and your sanity.
Do, act, now.
2007-10-22 08:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by TryItOnce 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it benifits your children to not see your ex mil, then you are not being unfair. It's kind of hard to elaborate without the details. But personally, I know how bad mils can be. I had to take mine to court a few times because of some things she was doing to my son that just wasn't right. It made a lot of people hate me (mostly my husband's family), but I knew I was doing what was best for my son. And as long as you are doing what's right for you children, there's absolutely nothing wrong with keeping someone away from them. No matter what relation.
2007-10-22 13:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by christiansmumma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what it is she is doing, but if she is disrespecting you and putting the children in danger I would say yes, but maybe try to do supervised visits. The children do need family in there lived so they know where they come from on both the moms side and the dads side, but I would ask they they visit with you or someone you trust present
2007-10-22 13:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Meesha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same situation with my mother in law. she does completely the opposite to what i ask her to, and my son has been ill many times while in her care. i stopped her seeing him for the last fortnight, and it is like having a different child. he is so happy. i have no doubt that he is better off now she is out of our lives and im certain i made the right decision. i suggest you bite the bullet and go for it. would you rather your child was unhappy, or your ex mil was unhappy? and after all, whats the worst that could happen?
Good Luck
2007-10-23 07:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by Chanters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to do the best interested of your children at this time. But bear in mind your children might not see it from your point of few. it might all back lash on youif you stop them from seeing her and could do it behind your back. how would you feel. you have not said how old the children are.
2007-10-22 13:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by mamsy0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer this question without any details (and interesting that you chose not to include any!) What about supervised visits only - with you there?
2007-10-22 14:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. From what you say. I think you are doing the best you can in a difficult situation.
2007-10-22 13:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by Spiny Norman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋