My ex and I are still pretty good friends. We keep it strictly platonic. He and I dated two years ago. Well, he has a girlfriend right now. The other day he and I and a few other friends were all hanging out. Me and the ex had a little too much and got a little touchy-feely but we didn't kiss. However, we started talking about our past relationship and why it didn't work and our issues that we had had. We were hanging on each other as if we were together. He kept wanting to kiss me and I had to keep reminding him (and myself) that he had a girlfriend. Now, I feel bad because I was too close to him for him to have a girlfriend but I realize that I still like him and vice versa. I've decided to stay away from him though. Before this night, anytime me and him argue it comes back to our feelings and all that stuff. Should I really eliminate him out of my life? I feel like after the other day, I am not respecting his relationship with his girlfriend and he isn't either. What should I do?
2007-10-22 06:14:06 · 20 answers · asked by ALeoStar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it matters, he initiated the conversation about our past together. When I reminded him of his GF he told me that me and him had a history. It was hard but I made myself get up and leave before I did anything too terrible.
2007-10-22 06:27:31 · update #1
It seems like your stuck in love. you should release the hold on yourself. lingring around in love will only make you sad, mad and disappointed. you hurt yourself and him by not letting go. you have to be an adult and do everybody a favore, by letting him go. A Dog will never leave if you keep feeding him.
2007-10-22 06:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony Wooly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you stay friends with an EX these are the sort of issues that come back and bite your tooshy.
Feelings just do not go away they grow.
Do you think that you have grown as a person and he has done the same ENOUGH for the two of you to work things out now at this point?
IF YES.....then you might want to move in that direction.
Seems the two of you hang out more then he is with this new women... so you are still meaning more then she does to him.
Thing is you need to know your own feelings and understand that this time round things could be different OR things just might be worse then they ever were.
You have to have trust and hope to move backwards and regain more then what was lost in the first place.
Many blessings
Good Luck
2007-10-22 06:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by bigthinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a prime example of why ex’s should not stay friends. If you are not together anymore, then stop hanging out. The only reason why he is still around is because he thinks he’s still going to eventually “score” again, or that you guys may get back together. That night should have proved it to you. Unless you want to get back together with the kind of guy that would cheat on his girlfriend with an ex, then I suggest you keep walking and don’t look back. There are plenty of better guys out
2007-10-22 06:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation a couple of months ago with an ex who was living with his girlfriend. I ended up telling him that we could talk on the phone, text, and things like that but I didn't want to physically hang out because he had a girlfriend and I wanted to respect their relationship. He reluctantly agreed
2007-10-22 06:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should cut him off.
I mean you guys were a little drunk so it's not like he meant to be all touchy-feely and I doubt he would've had he been sober.
Just remind him about the girlfriend that he has and that your relationship with him like that is over and that there is no reason to go back into the old feelings.
2007-10-22 06:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by Travis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I have a question for the question. Who started the conversation about the "past relationship" you two had? If it was him he is disrespecting his girl,Bolt! If it was you maybe things were not ended and it's not him. If it was both of you then you both still have feelings and trouble is a brewing. A question only you can answer my friend...you and Him that is...and you are staying away at least for now or are you?
2007-10-22 06:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by Healing_Rain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on if you still have feelings for him because he could be holding you back from finding your soul mate. Just think if you were in the new girlfriend's shoes. I always look to the future and leave the past as a memory.
2007-10-22 06:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he still effing loves you, and obviously u still love him, DONT cut this guy off you 2 need 2 sit down and figure out what u 2 want because he may be dating thios girl just 2 get u jealous...either way ex's can not and shud not be friends....unless.....their hanging on to eachother...wake up baby, you 2 may be perfect for eachother and you may never know but with any ex if theres any love left you need to ryde it out and figure it out immediatly and definatly be4 you or him enters any new relationship, cuz they say the easiest way to forget about an old relationship is to start a new one, but what happens when you do start a new relationship, but you cant forget about the other one....now your stuck cuz now you got feelings for 2 people and somebody gonna get hurt.......been there
2007-10-22 06:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you all should get back together. Tell him how you feel and he sounds as if he feels the same way. Don't let a girl that he doesn't even have that much history with stand in the way of true love (if, in fact, that's what it is). I'd say talk it over with him.
2007-10-22 06:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by inquiring black beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect the relationship he has with his current girlfriend but don't write him off completely -- he may come around and decide he wants to get back together (and is willing to put more effort into communication this time around).
2007-10-22 06:17:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋