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And don't be mean, or you WILL be REPORTED!!!!

How do I get people to be more into my enthusiasm?

At work- I try to encourage my colleagues to do stuff with me (such as Birthdays, Boss's Day, Charitable contributions etc.) but not everyone seems to want to participate. I know its the workplace and all...and I can't change all of them nor please everyone...but I want to have fun at work and I want for them to participate.
I don't want to nor should I have to go out and buy stuff for them to encourage even more for I have already done that- it just does not seem enough.
How can I get all of my colleagues to participate?
Thanks!

I Hate to say this but sofar most of you are being really mean and I have reported all of you!

Answer 1

Not everyone has as festive a personality as you have. They just may not be the celebratory type. On the other hand, arranging gifts, collections, and parties seems to be your niche. You provide a unique service to your co-workers, so keep it up! They depend upon you to take care of the social observances and recognition for the group. They may be so overwhelmed by the work itself they may seldom find opportunity to participate or to tell you how much they appreciate you taking care of things like this. Many people are overworked, or may be facing deadlines related to their jobs, and so they may not have the time to invest in social aspects of the job.
Some people cannot afford to give. When I was raising my family alone (without child support) and was terribly underpaid, it was extremely burdensome and humiliating to be asked frequently to contribute to this or that in the office, for which I was not budgeted. I was doing well to clothe and feed my child, in addition to paying her medical bills. In such cases, it was really difficult to work up enthusiasm just because someone else wanted me to participate.

Answer 2

"This sounds like to me; "you" are trying to please everyone else because you" have the ability to. Your first impression is gone. It seems you are not as close of a friend as you think. Remember", when the money goes, so do your "so called friends. The work place turns into a "click club", after awhile. Maybe you already know this and you are in denial. Being in charge", or being the boss or supervisor still puts you apart from your colleagues. Participation", has to be voluntary and no pressure. It also has to be planned by one and organized by many. Maybe if you "delegate" ( not demand or order ) a responsible issue", it may catch on. Sometimes it is best to sit back and "listen" and watch; don't take part in any "one" situation. Be neutral. Your colleagues may not like "how" you do things but, "they will respect you. And that's what you really want" yet', have not received fully. And heres something to "think about"; All of your colleagues" will not participate", no matter "what you do. Always be prepared for that. No matter what. Its "you" who" wants this. Not them. You can fool some of the people", some of the time. But you can fool some of the people" "all", of the time. Your answere", is within you. And you alone. "Yes, you must choose. Funnie", how something you don't want to do; "has to be done. And only you", just you have to choose. Good luck.

Answer 3

First of all, do make sure....you get rid of any attitude (if you have any...not sure) and be really good, caring friend and colleague to them. Only when you set the right foundation will there be any co-operation and excitement. In the end, it's the truth that you can't force anyone. We live with different kinds of people in society who have their own thoughts, feelings, moods, interests and circumstances. Be good, and try your best. That is all you can do. Don't expect immediate success. Sometimes, it might pick up slow, but by word of mouth, maybe more people will start participating. Also, get to know employees interests. Maybe have a poll. Then go with what the majority would like or are interested in.

Answer 4

Nope. You're not going to have much success getting everyone enthusiastic and excited about work and workplace activities. For most people work is a place they have to go to earn money, not an interesting part of their lives. Most people don't care about making the best of a situation and most people don't really want to make friends of their work colleagues. Sad, but very, very true.

So, rather than try to get everyone to join you in the fun, do it yourself and those that want to join, will. If no one does, find some people outside your workplace to enjoy lunch and breaks with.

But whatever else happens, don't let them (the dull ones, the ones who can't smell the roses beside the path, the ones who drag themselves through the day so they can go home and watch tv at night, the dreadful, sad, dreary ones) keep you from enjoying your own life.

Answer 5

Depending on how large your office is it just may seem like to much for them. Like every special occasion can be overwhelming to some and if a gift contribution may be too much for them financially every time they turn around.

Enthusiasm in the workplace can also be just by your positive attitude. People don't like to work around dour people... but someone who is happy to be there and happy to help out with a job is a joy to work with.

Answer 6

I recognize that personality of yours, just like mine. I'm the one at work doing all what you just mentioned and it is a chore but I enjoy it!
It has it's ups and downs and sometimes I think "why do I even bother?", even so I will not stop "bothering" as long as I keep working there or any where, because that's who I am.
My answer to your question is: it takes time, everyone will eventually have a birthday and when they see what you did for them (even if not all participated) they will start contributing and get into the fun of things. Don't exclude anyone, even a person that is not participatory but has a birthday coming up, celebrate her/his birthday. She/he will appreciate it and change his mind and partake in the activities the next time.

Answer 7

Why do you feel EVERYONE needs to participate? Some people just can't afford it. Some people feel THEY are worthy of a handout, not others. Some people just don't have the time or energy. If you like doing that, that's great for you but don't get mad when others don't share your enthusiasm. To each his own, right?

Answer 8

You can't and some folks resent being expected to participate in such things at work. If you enjoy doing parties and things like that maybe you should get into that line of work and people will be begging you to help them instead of you begging them to participate.

Answer 9

Sorry, but you can't. Not everyone wants to get involved with these things at work. Some can't afford to keep giving money for other colleagues' birthdays - even though their turn to receive something will eventually come around.

If you keep pushing people, you'll find they'll start avoiding you.

Answer 10

You must be one of those people who spends a lot of the bosses time playing at the computer (question was posted an hour ago, and that's during working hours in all the U.S.) instead of working. Running the "sunshine-club" instead of doing your job. Probably middle 20's, not making it like you thought you could, and about to change jobs.

Better leave your coworkers in peace before the boss starts wondering why you have so much spare time.