I have to say my stepsister is the coolest girl I've met in a long time. Our parents got married about six months ago after dating for only about four months. I didn't even meet my new sister until the wedding. We were kind of thrown into this whole new life together. Both of us were unhappy with the present situation and spent most of our time complaining to each other, and through that we really got to know each other. She's gorgous and she just carries herself right. I want to act on every feeling, but don't know what others might say. But I'm going crazy. Is it so wrong to like her?
2007-10-22 05:56:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like you are in quite a pickle. I advise you to just play it cool until you are an adult. By then, if you still have these feelings, you could find out if she feels the same.
However, even if she wasn't your step-sister, I think that given how the two of you have gone through so much trauma your feelings might be the kind that someone who is going through rebound would feel. You have both been rejected in a way, and passed over by people you love, your parents, and put into a situation that you have no control over, and then Wala! here's this cool person that you can confide in and what's better is that she's the only person in the world that knows exactly how you feel. I think that you would naturally have feelings for her but six months isn't enough time in this situation to know if what you are feeling is a crush or true love.
Also, you have to remember that in a girl friend/boy friend relationship you have only the responsibility for that person that you want to have. In the relationship you have with this girl now you are legally bound to her through your parents marriage. You are responsible to her as you would be to any family member, maybe more because you to have developed such a close freindship. This responsibility includes shielding and protecting her from any more pain. How would your community and family react if you two were boyfriend/girlfriend right now? How painful would it be if the two of you broke up but still had to live in the same family? How awkward would it be for her if she had to reject your feelings for whatever reason but still had to live with you?
I advise you very strongly to wait and refrain from calling her your sister too often!
2007-10-22 06:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by dontdoubtit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK she is your stepsister so she is way off limits. You know she is straight thus even if she wasn't your stepsister she would be off limits. Dont tell her because it would be awkward for the both of you for the rest of your lives. Find someone else to become infatuated with.
2016-04-09 21:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know you have not known her long and your parents tossed you into this situaiton... however, now that your parents are married, she is your sister and needs to be treated like a sister. Its kinda rough since knowing her is new to you... but its just not acceptable. Just think of it this way... you can love her like a sister and best friend... but you will still find a woman to complete your life. Good luck hun.
2007-10-22 06:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty normal, but you have to be mature about this. While you are both still kids and living at home you have to ignore these feelings and just look at her as your sister.
If once you are both adults things are still the same, feelings, etc, then go from there. But while you are living with your parents you have to keep this a brother/sister relationship.
2007-10-22 06:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how WRONG it is but it is rather complicated isn't it? I would try to avoid acting on the feelings and just really cherish the friendship. Not because of what others would say - just because it is so complicated and connected to your parents!
2007-10-22 06:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, your parents signed a paper that says they got married and your blood now? Who got married, you or them? Yeah, thats sounds kind of crazy...But then again, your not blood=0
I mean if you guys start dating remember to get ready for the critics, remember that you will have to be strong because people will talk..Can you handle it?
2007-10-22 06:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by Unbreakable Me 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd be overstepping bounds if you dated your step sister.
Perhaps be thankful someone who you can talk with has come into your life. It's not wrong to like her, but i think it would cause major problems if it went any further.
Talk to your dad
2007-10-22 06:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thats horrible she is now a part of you family love her as a sister
2007-10-22 05:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang it up. it will cause major drama when you act on it and further down the road.
2007-10-22 06:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by Matilda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm....she's not really blood related so no its not wrong to like her
2007-10-22 06:00:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋