How soon after dating someone do you become intimate?

Question

Ist date, 2nd date or later? Whats your rationale?

Early forties here, haven't dated since my late twenties (when I got married) so now that I'm divorced the dating scene is much different. Got married in the early 90's. I'm not seeing anyone seriously yet but just wanted to get some feedback.

Answer 1

By intimate, I'm assuming you mean physically intimate. It depends on what you want from the person. If you are looking for a long term relationship, then later, several months later. For a long term relationship, never have sex with someone who hasn't introduced you to his circle of friends and integrated you into other aspects of his life. The reason being, if he hasn't bothered to do this, then you are just someone he's with until "someone better" comes along.

If you're looking for something short term, then whenever feels right to you.

Answer 2

Wait at least a month after you have been exclusively dating. And when you absolutely want to after that, wait some more. If you really don't know the person well enough to deal with an unwanted pregnancy or discuss STD's, you shouldn't have sex. There is no set amount of dates, but it should be at least a month AFTER you become exclusive, and you're dating 2-3x a week regularly.

Answer 3

I think it's whenever you feel comfortable. It takes two to tango, and both parties must feel it is the right time. I think sex is one of those taboo things that we have been raised to believe is something to feel guilty about for even wanting in the first place.
I've met females and had intimacies with them on the first, second, or third date. Some I lost interest in, others I really liked and we stayed in touch, and still others I really liked and I guess they didn't like me as much.
There is no standard, at least for me. You should do whatever makes you feel comfortable in the relationship.

Answer 4

I'd say at least 6-8 dates (and not included in the first week!), so about 6-8 weeks, and then depending how you feel about the other person. You have to get to know them as people, their interests, their goals in life, hear about their family, their career, hobbies, hear about their friends (maybe meet 1-2), what you have in common, or not have in common (this is good too so you've interesting things to talk about) etc.
Moving to intimacy (e.g. sleeping with someone) is a whole different level to share with someone you trust and value.

Answer 5

There are several levels of intimacy. The longest I've ever dated somebody without having full body intercourse was 1 month.

Answer 6

My bf and I tried to wait for a month. Then it went in one day, after like 6 days, for about 2 seconds and we were like "NO!!! NO NOT YET!!!! I hate to say no, but no, we must save it!" lol. Then 2 weeks after that, we had sex for the first time in a Mormon church parking lot, and it was snowing SO HARD!!! It was so ******* sweet to remember.

Answer 7

2nd date for kissing is fine. but wait at least 2 months before you let him park the car in the garage

Answer 8

If you are a teen, hopefully not for a long time. If you are an adult, then whatever is comfortable. I tend to go with the flow when I was dating.

Answer 9

Dependssss... How old are you? Teenagers, waittil MUCH later. Any older than that, its really your choice. Just make sure that he's worth it. And don't do anything that you're not 100% positive about.

Answer 10

That depends on your feelings for the other person, the choice has to be yours and you have to be comfortable with it. When you do, use birth control so you have no unwanted surprises.