so this weekend my mother was telling me that my brother's fiance isn't speaking to her. my brother's fiance is going to be one of my bridesmaids. my mother wouldn't tell me why she wasn't speaking to her, and my mother was very upset over this. in tears, etc. so i finally got it out of my mother why my brother's fiance was not speaking to her......
she was upset because i am having gift baskets to give away as prizes at my bridal shower and she thinks that this was HER idea for HER shower and i was stealing her ideas! like wtf! doesn't everyone give away gift baskets as prizes for a bridal shower?!?
she was also mad that i chose navy blue as my bridesmaid dress color and SHE is having an ice blue color. so she thinks that i am copying her on this factor too! i chose navy because it is my favorite color! not because she is having a different shade of blue.
so my brother's fiance called me and told me that she would not be participating in my wedding because i am copying....
2007-10-22 05:48:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
her nad she would no longer like me to be her maid of honor because of this as well.
do you think that this is absolute nonsense?!?!?!
also, what bridesmaid drama have you had to deal with?
i just think that it is so stupid that she felt the need to try to sabotage my wedding day over some stupid colors and gift baskets.
2007-10-22 05:49:48 · update #1
LOL. thanks for all of the good answers. my fiance and i are glad that she isn't going to be in the wedding anymore. she would have been a drag in the limo anyway he said!
2007-10-22 06:00:14 · update #2
OMG... can you say BRIDEZILLA.... (not you, her)
She needs to grow up and be an adult.. As you can tell it is probally better that she not be in the wedding.. if she cant deal with small issues in an adult manner she needs to walk...
If she had an issue with anything she should of came to you and discussed it with you, not your mom..
Just let it go.. She is the one showing her immaturity.. I dont see anything that you are copying.. You are your own person.. she needs to get a life..
My drama.. Didnt come from the bridesmaid side.. It was from the groomsman side.. One guy we called & emailed for a week and half giving him info and when to be there for things.. No response.. The day of the wedding, a no show.. We had to pull one of our ushers to fill in.. A week later I seen him and asked what happened.. He said his dad came down and he wanted to spend time with him.. About a week after he told the truth.. He didnt like weddings and just didnt want to go... JERK..
2007-10-22 06:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is the saddest story I have ever heard about a bridesmaid. Your brother should talk to his fiance about how immature she is being, but if she wants to be that immature... you don't want her to be in your wedding anyways! I think that your brother needs to have a serious talk with his fiance, because if she wants to cause this much drama now.. just think about what she will do in the future!
Oh.. and yes.. gift baskets are not a unique idea! A lot of people do this idea! Now if you put the exact same items in your basket as she did.. then I can guess of why she would say that, but more than likely I am guessing you didn't.
2007-10-22 12:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am very surprised that she would be so petty when it comes to two occasions that are supposed to be happy and joyous. My younger sister is going to be my maid of honor and when I began looking for bridesmaid dresses she informed me that I could not choose black dresses because that was going to be her color. Well, she's not even engaged! Anyway, we have since solved the problem because even if we both use black dresses, there are going to be different feelings to the weddings, different styles of dresses, different people wearing them. It is selfish of your future sister to try to claim that a different shade of blue is going to make her wedding any less special. And when it comes to the gift baskets, the same idea applies. Your gift baskets might involve baking supplies, while hers are filled with soaps and lotions. There are so many options and so many different personalities out there that no one can ever copy someone else's wedding no matter how hard they try.
2007-10-22 13:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by Reyorra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope your brother knows what he's getting into. Sounds like someone is VERY immature. There are more important things to worry about than gift baskets and bridesmaid dress colors. It is nonsense and I suggest that you talk to your brother if he doesn't already know the drama she's causing for YOUR wedding day.
2007-10-22 12:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by Ruthie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is this girl? She sounds very immature to me. Who cares what the prizes are or what color you are having for your wedding? She needs to grow up. Why is she mad at your mom? She is being very childish and you should tell her so. Copy this response and give it to her to show her she is in the wrong according to the majority. Sounds like she is jealous because your wedding is before hers which will take away from her wedding a little. Get prepared for a lifetime of drama with this one!!!! Good luck on your wedding day, I hope it is everything that you have dreamed of!
2007-10-22 12:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Paula D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had problems too!! One of my bridesmaids showed up almost an hour late to get dressed then said she forgot her necklace that i had bought for them all to wear so she had to go all the way back to her house across town, in the mean while she is on the phone with my maid-of-honor. Telling her that one of the other girls was trash talking her. Oh the drama. If there is a next time im eloping.
2007-10-22 12:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women get so catty about this stuff.. Talk about sensitive territory. YOu two must be getting close to the same time and you started planning after her? Sheesh!
You know what? Even though it sucks and your mom is taking the brunt of it to heart, its not worth it. If she wants to be a catty biatch about it, then let her. She is the one who is making a complete little fool of herself. Don't let her suck you in to her drama. If she gets all pissy with you, just tell her you understand and hang up. Its not worth it.
My sister in law causer MAJOR drama before she married my brother. She was 19, my brother 22. She was all freaked out so her mom suggested she get those anti-anxiety pills from the doc to calm her a week before the wedding..lets just say it made it 100 times worse.
She didn't want my best friend to come because she had supposedly slept with my brother, which wasn't true...she was drinking all the time and taking all these pills and tell my parents "that she couldn't wait to be part of such a wonderful family" it was a BAD BAD scene for the week up to the wedding. We didnt think it was going to happen.
Her parents called my family and told them not to bring my best friend, who is like a sister to my brother. My mom got really pissed, my brother got really pissed. It was terrible.
Thankfully it ended up being okay the day of the wedding, but I have never seen so much ridiculous accusations fly around all because a little girl couldn't handle the stress of such an adult thing as getting married.
2007-10-22 13:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So the world revolves around this lady.. Boy is she going to be a joy to have in the family.
There are very few NEW IDEAS. She is wrong. Best you can do is not get drawn into a squabble. If she doesn't want to be in your wedding, drop it. No begging or pleading for her to change her mind. She'll only do other mean things to make it a mess of it if you include her.
Felicitations
2007-10-22 12:58:06 · answer #8 · answered by Celtic Tejas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best you (and your mother) can do is say "Ok, whatever." and ignore her. She must be one of those people that feeds off of drama. If you don't get sucked in, she will eventually stop.
I was engaged to a guy whose WHOLE family was like that. They used to make me so upset. Imagine having your FIL checking to see if your bed was made... and a SIL commenting that you shelves were dusty... and another one commenting that you needed to clean the left-overs out of your fridge... Oh, and a SIL who accused you of copying off of her living room curtains and decor because you happened to pick a similar (popular) color scheme. So she had to go change hers...
Once I finally stopped letting them upset me, they stopped nit-picking.
But we ended up not getting married... and THANK GOD!
Just diffuse her tyraid but not reacting. She'll stop.
I was lucky. I had no bridesmaid drama at all. My friends are fun, loving, mature people who don't get their joys from other people's pain.
2007-10-22 13:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother's fiance is very immature. Blue is a very popular color (I am using a shade of blue too!). She is definitely not the first to give away gift baskets either.
She needs to grow up. Someone that immature should not be getting married.
2007-10-22 12:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋