I divorced my husband. He couldn't keep a job, he would pawn my things and ran up bills that he refused to pay. He was hot tempered and destructive when he got mad. He would punch holes in the walls, break doors and windows and hit me. He'd damage my car, he would smash the hood and rip off the mirrors and I got tired of it. I tried talking to him and he would promise to change but he never did so I divorced him.
My mother makes negative comments to me all the time. She told me she knew a woman who's husband left her and the woman died because she was so sad that her husband left her. I got my hair styled and lost weight and go to a chiropracter because of back problems and my mom told me well just look at you now, you really think you're someone special don't you? I had told her I was thinking of selling my house and maybe buying a condo and she told me, "What are you trying to do, be like Rose? Rose is a woman we both know that bought a condo over 25 years ago. What is going on?
2007-10-22 05:45:34 · 5 answers · asked by Vicki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
WOW...that's different, most mothers support their children especially in a situation like yours. I agree with the ones here that say it sounds like she is jealous. My mother does the same thing. My husband is very successful and my mother calls him the money man but in a sarcastic way. You think that our mothers could be the same person? We could be sisters...lol....just kidding and I don't mean to make light of your situation either. You do what makes you happy and don't worry about your mother. If she is negative towards you whenever you talk to her then don't talk to her. I call my mother twice a month, that is about all I can stand. Good luck to you.
2007-10-22 06:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by tn2vegas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st: Does your mother understand the kind conditions your were living under with your husband. If not. Sit her down and explain in Detail what went on in your marriage.
I have a friend whose husband was abusive because he was mentally ill it got to where she was afraid to sleep.... So every move he made she would wake up ready to run because he had attacked her in sleep at times... He tried to throw her down a stone staircase. Her family did not know because did not tell them. Finally after the divorce and a more she told her family it was hard for them to take it in... but they finally understood the magnitude of the situation she had been in.
2. Perhaps your mom is jealous that you had the strength to do something she could not do for herself... Pure speculation.
3She's jealous of the positive steps you have made in your life.
2007-10-22 05:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like maybe your mom isn't so happy in her own marriage and deep down she's jealous that you had the nerve to walk away and she didn't.
There's no way to change her attitude so all you can do is try not to let it get to you. You did a brave thing to try and better your life, if she can't be happy for you then it's unfortunate but not the end of the world. Don't let her unhappiness drag you down.
2007-10-22 05:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Nic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is a wacko. Call her once a month to make sure that she's not living in a cardboard box but other than that cut her loose.
2007-10-22 06:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by dontdoubtit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother seems to be jealous of you for getting up, dusting off and standing up for yourself, taking care of YOU and making a new life.
Perhaps she was miserable all her life and wants everyone else to join her.
2007-10-22 05:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋