Meaning only by thoughts exchanged textually.
2007-10-22 05:32:09 · 29 answers · asked by morning breeze 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I think that's possible......though probably not very wise. I spent a lot of time emailing my husband (before we married or even started dating) and I think I kind of fell in love with him through his emails. However, I had already met him and knew him prior to exchanging all the emails. I felt that I knew him fairly well (on a professional level only)......we worked together. However, he moved away and several years later, we started emailing.......I needed a reference.........one thing led to another and eventually we started emailing.....then had a long distance relationship. Lots of long phone calls and emails.....getting to know each other. I'm not sure if it was the phone calls or the emails that "did it" for me, but I was definitely in love with him before we ever saw each other again and started dating. I think you must just be very careful with this. I don't know how old you are or what your situation is, but people that you don't know (have never met in person) are really NOT SAFE to be emailing and falling in love with. When you are talking to people online or by email, then you don't really know who you are talking to. People online are often not what they seem at all. There are many predators on the internet and it would not be wise to arrange a meeting with someone you met online (or think you are in love with) because you truly have NO IDEA who you are talking to. People lie when they know you don't know who they really are or where they really are. I was very safe with the man I fell in love with because I knew him already. I had worked with him for several months and knew what I was "dealing with" before I started talking to him by email. My advice......if you feel you are falling in love with someone you met online, then maybe it's time to end the relationship. You really could be putting yourself in danger and whatever you do, do not tell this person where you live or give him/her any clues about where you are or you could be putting yourself in danger. Good luck to you!
2007-10-22 05:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Amy27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this situation and can therefore share some first hand experience.
Yes its possible because love is a meeting of minds and hearts. In other words, meeting of emotions which can easily be expressed in words.
However, in reality, wether known or unknown to you, you are also carrying an impression of that person's physical appearance in your mind. This might be your imagination or perhaps based on that person's description about him/her.
In my case, despite having her description in words, I found her actual looks much different from my imagination (when we met)
So...be careful. If possible, try and get the person to atleast exchange some recent pics.
2007-10-22 12:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by cucumber_cool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. I think that love has nothing to do with physical attraction. Love is a committment to caring and compassion. You should probably give it a little time to determine whether or not it's love or infatuation. If you've written on a deeper level for some time, it may be love. If it's just a few flirty text messages here and there, I think that would classify as infatuation.
2007-10-22 12:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, BUT... that is no guarantee that things will work out between you. Until you see one another on a daily basis, you won't know if you are compatible in a practical manner. If you are not compatible, love has a habit of quickly melting away. That said, I'd be a liar if I said you couldn't fall in love this way. I've done it, and I just celebrated my seventh wedding anniversary with the gal! Regardless, tread with caution. For every success story this way, there are a hundred failures.
2007-10-22 12:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is your definition of "fall in love"?
Love means a lot of different things to people.
If by love you mean "two people who really know one another and are willing to commit to a lifetime of supporting one another", it seems like, to me, that while you can move towards this definition of love via writing, there still is a lot to be said about real world interactions, and getting to see the body language, nuances, and more of the truth of the person.
Too often I find that I censor the things I am willing to say in writing, while someone who is experiencing life around me gets to see how I react to life. That's an important part of deciding if you love someone...
2007-10-22 12:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by Larry V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. You might become enfatuated with them, especially since everything you don't see if left to your imagination, which may paint them in a better light than they are. It's like pornography. Porn is great because you are only being presented with one aspect of sex. You aren't getting the arguments, pregnancy, STDs, child care, mortgatges, and all the other stuff that comes with a relationship. In essence, you are developing a fantasy sort of relationship, and will be surprised (either happily or not) when you actually meet this person, in, well, person.
2007-10-22 12:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sort of. I believe it is possible to develop feelings for someone whom you have just written back and forth to, but it is sort of like a fantasy until you meet. If you meet, that will be a true test of your emotions. I met my boyfriend online, and had feelings for him before we met in person. It was awesome because When I saw him for the first time, it was like my feelings for him solidified. It was so cool! Just be careful, sometimes things can be hidden behind writing. Best wishes!
2007-10-22 12:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by j c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's possible, but it's also easy to believe you're in love. Someone you feel close to online may turn out to be just another ordinary person. There is a tendancy not to notice peoples flaws or imperfections, and to put them on a pedestal. Be careful not to do this, and it should all be ok. :)
2007-10-22 12:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by Indeedy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no..you may think it's love or make yourself believe it's love...but love is such a deep word and should be taken seriously...knowing that you haven't met this person yet couldn't possibly pass as love....listen, there are men/women who possess a sweet tongue and can carry you to cloud 9..but words are words...unless it's equalled with sincere actions then don't take it seriously...it's easy to say things, to flatter people, to make them believe something (which can be lies too).....i think this is worth a try...after meeting him or you're in the process of getting to know him/her, try meeting the rest of the family too and see how they relate to each other....strong family ties with good sense of values is a positive sign he's someone worth loving...and getting loved back...(has he expressed how he feels for you?)
2007-10-22 12:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by ms cathy g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, there are a few people I know that end up having relationships before they met the person.
2007-10-22 12:37:35 · answer #10 · answered by Flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋