I was dating a man...after 6months with him I had to break up with him due to his temper a week later he told me he was going to seek help for his anger issues, something did not set right with me....long story short....I found out after I broke up with him he moved back in with an exgf.....he was living with her and wanting to get back with me after he got his act together, he would say he loved me and missed..and all along he was living with his exgf...which by the way I found out from her that he was living with her when he first met me...and she also told me that now they are having sex....I just can not believe there are such cruel people in this world to hurt so many.........I am not sure now what love is or how it is suppose to be..he made me dinner and brought it up to my work and we ate together, gave me his tshirts that I loved made me nice gifts..ect so much ....and friends tell me now I was PLAYED!!?? so very sad, exgf said he cheated on her before and she took him back.
2007-10-22 05:28:29 · 14 answers · asked by ggggggg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am just lost and hurt......this women made it sound like I was nothing and she was the one he loved....I do not believe that is so....she is just someone he goes to when others boot him to the curb ..I do not beleive he is capable of loving ..sorta feel sorry for her...he is using her more then me and the last women...sad
2007-10-22 05:32:35 · update #1
Yes, in this world, pain and hurt come freely, but so can happiness.
Do your best to break ALL contact with this man (don't answer is phonecalls, don't let him in the house, don't talk to him, pretend he doesn't exist) and move on. It sounds corny, but after a couple of months it won't hurt as badly.
Find a man who loves YOU and will change himself only for YOU, not his ex or anyone else.
Good luck!
2007-10-22 05:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by Mandy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that kind of stuff happens alot in relationships, its better not to get too attached unless a long time has passed, 6 moths isnt that long and most relationships dont laster more than 1year to 1 1/2 years. So if you make it to 2 years then you might be on the right way, thats how i look at it atleast. People with men and women will be as nice as possible till they get "bored" or think they can do "better". It will take you time to get over it, the more you think about it the more you will learn from it, and as long as you learned from it then you will know better for the next time.
2007-10-22 05:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feel glad you didn't have more time or effort invested in this jerk. He obviously isn't emotionally or mentally stable. Always remember if they will cheat for you they will cheat on you. Sounds as if he is stringing you along as his safety net. I wouldn't feel sorry for her. Pity but not sorrow. She was dumb enough to take him back not to mention the things she told you were obviously in part at least to hurt you and guard her "man" if that's what you want to call him. Scum always rises to the top and then you can scrape it off and get to the good stuff. Move on and learn from it.
As for his anger issues MOST not all can seek all the help in the world one of my ex's did...He was just released from prison for attempted murder...he nearly beat me to death.
2007-10-27 19:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by sonkysst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first u have to understand what u heard was from his exgf, so she could be lieing to u or making it worse then it really was, but sense he was living with her at the time u were dating i would believe it. but don't give up on relationship it just he asshole who stick out the most in this world. don't worrie about what Ur friend said your not the first this has happen to.
2007-10-22 05:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok girl. Once in while in this life we will get hurt and just too hard but just face the pain so it won't stay long. Cry out hard. it will help. Above all, pray. There's nothing we can say much around here that will help. But if you have a God, He will surely comfort you if you ask help from HIm. And just be careful next time.
2007-10-22 05:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by yenyen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
greater beneficial than hurtful, i discover it embarrassing by way of fact that's not the individuals on the exterior who make up such destructive portrayals and stereotypes, that's us! that's the way many black females flow approximately lifestyles residing as much as those destructive stereotypes that reflects poorly at something individuals. I want human beings would comprehend this by way of fact we are arising hardship for our very own selves.
2016-11-09 04:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I broke up with a guy who had a hair-trigger temper. He promised to get help. I didn't hear from him for awhile, then a woman called and asked for him. I was nice and we got to talking. He was living with her, but vanished. Then, I found out he was also living with another woman thirty miles away. I feel bad for you, but believe me, it's best to show him that you can and will carry on. You'll find a nicer guy who will respect you. Rest assured, your ex bf will probably continue to hop from one woman to another.
2007-10-22 05:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, you got the shaft; be glad you figured it out before things got serious - let her have him for as long as he's going to use her instead of someone else and find someone who won't look at women as a natural resource to be exploited.
2007-10-22 05:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by John R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you find someone that does lovbe you for you and is not going to cheat on you becuase a man that cheats is not worth sh** he is a *****. His should not be aloud in this world and if he cheated on his ex and he cheated on you he is going to keep on doing and you are just going to keep on hurting I suggest you leave him and get someone else and let him see that you are happy and don't need an *** like that in your life.
2007-10-22 05:37:08 · answer #9 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey guess what??? he's not your problem THANK GOD!!! if his ex wants him back, that's something she's gonna have to deal with- thank the lord above you don't have to deal with it!
you'l find the right guy- it takes a lot of trial and error to find the one that is best for you....would you really want a mess like that? now you know the warning signs and you know what you are not gonna take!
i understand feeling hurt- but try to turn that feeling into relief!! you're not stuck with some loser like that!!!!! take this time to focus on yourself and what you want....
2007-10-22 05:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by sarah v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋