I've been with this guy for 3 weeks now.And we would hang out everyday.He said that he wanted to give me the world.He did so much to make me happy.But I am in the middle of a blackmail and I fear the drama isnt helping with our relationship.He said that he was going to be tied up this weekend and it wa nothing personal.I sent him 3 emails 2 were love letter types and one was concerning the blackmail.He only responded to the blackmail email and that was cold and blunt.I called him saturday at least 10 times and sent him 2 or 3 texts.I really regret it.Now i can get a hold of him at all. Did I scare him away?
2007-10-22 05:15:02 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you did, and you'd scare me, too. Blackmail?? What is that all about?
Solve your own dramas before you try to get involved with someone else. No guy is going to want to deal with that.
2007-10-22 05:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
ouch, you should never call that much, not when there is no huge life threatening emergency. I would let it cool down for awhile. Right now, I bet you are coming off as either really possessive or crazy to him. Maybe both. He told you he would be tied up. You should have maybe only sent him a couple of text messages for the weekend, not all those emails and texts and phone calls. Your relationship has only been under a month, this probably scared him into thinking things would only get worse as you two got closer. Just wait a week or so, maybe let him come to you, and if not, when you try to call, do not call ten times. Call once. Do not email. Chill down, if he comes to you, explain, and tell him you were sorry, and that it was silly and you shouldnt have bothered him like that.
2007-10-22 05:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by kelso 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would give him some time and not call him- wait until he calls you. He told you he was busy this weekend yet you still called him 10 times, 3 text messages, and 3 emails in just one day? That is a bit excessive. Wait until he calls you.
As for the blackmail, men don't like getting involved in drama so he most likely has no desire to discuss or get involved in that situation.
Also, a rule of thumb: Only call a man 2 times a day unless it's an emergency.
2007-10-22 05:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Madison 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes. u scared him away. you're obsessed. ur like my 13yr old daughter.
LEAVE him alone. everytime a woman runs after a man, this is what happens. where did all the pride go?
this may be the 21st century but the old rules still apply most of the time.
NEVER call the man FIRST. wait for him to call u.
NEVER show him that you are thinking about him all day, texting him all day, emailing him all day.
these are such basic rules that women should know and do to be able to have a man gravel on your feet. ive done this for a long time and it always works. tested and guaranteed.
2007-10-22 05:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by switbaby9 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you scared him. Next time try like calling once or twice and leave a voicemail. I think thats a better idea. And yeah that was being a buttt since he didnt like respond to the love emails.
2007-10-22 05:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica Ann. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being realistic (sorry!) I have the strangest feeling that he was not ready for any kind of commitment - and wanted to be scared away. You say his response was "cold and blunt": in my view you are better off without him. But cheer up - plenty of fish out there! Good luck and God bless.
2007-10-22 05:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by benje111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you probably did. He probably wants nothing to do with the blackmail problem and you probably really pissed him off by calling him 10 times when he said that he was going to be busy.
2007-10-22 05:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men do not like to feel smothered, trapped, owned, obligated, or used. Needy, clingy, possessive, and whiny are not qualities that either sex finds attractive.
You sound like an emotional vampire. No normal man is going to volunteer to be your food source.
2007-10-22 05:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by helene 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa.....you are in the midst of a totally dramatic existence! No wonder the poor lad has done a disappearing act....who can blame him. Get a grip. Sort your life out then you can be in healthy relationship!!!!
2007-10-22 05:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by dollydagger 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did. He may think you are crazy or a stalker. Never call a man you are dating more than twice in a 24 hour period.
2007-10-22 05:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by SandraD 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋