Mmy boyfriend makes me go on to diets and tells me to wear heaps of make-up because he says i'm too ugly for him. I tried to brake up with him but then he gets on his knees and begs for forgiveness!
I even caught him cheating!
I'm not miss perfect and i'm afraid if I lose him I will not find another one!
HELP!
2007-10-22 05:13:57 · 27 answers · asked by Laganasita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen if you've caught him cheating you need to let him go because of that. He has no respect for you. He doesn't want to be with you and if he's calling you fat and ugly why would you want to be with him? He's calling you that and then begging for forgiveness because he's not sure if once he moves on his next relationship will work so he needs to hold on to you until he's sure. Besides that when he's with the other girls and they ask about you he can make it seem as though you're chasing and stalking him. I'm sure you know he's telling others lies about you to make himself look good. Do yourself a big favor tell him in front of a bunch of people, that you've decided that since you're too ugly and fat for him you've decided that you're going to do him the favor and let him go. Then say besides that I wasn't to happy with you either because (then starting naming degrading things about him) and say I wish you well. I have no ill feelings towards you and hope you have a relationship with someone that will make you happy. Step close to him, kiss him on the cheek and walk off. After taking about 2 steps turn around and say well now that I'm available would anyone like to go out this Friday. If any guy speaks up and says yes go and trust me he will freak out but too damn bad this is what he wanted.
2007-10-22 05:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm- sounds like an eating disorder and/or emo./psychological disorder. Maybe he's anorexic? Some people (in particular, girls- but it's becoming more common in dudes) believe that they are fat when, in fact, they are emaciated. It's just a distortion of thought. I am not skinny by any means- I am 5'10", and weigh about 280. So, I fall into that category of fatness. But, I am also handsome and intelligent- so, it's not that important (to me) about my weight (from a cosmetic point of view). He may need therapy, or some sort of counseling.
2016-04-09 21:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really wanted u then he would accpet u just the way u are! you can do so much better than a guy wo wants u to lose weight and wear loads of makeup, and u caught him cheating and still took him back?! sounds to me like u have some insecurity issues of ur own that need resolved...try and figure out why it is u feel the need to be with some1 who treats u this badly...iz it because u dont think u can find some1 better?? if it iz ur wrong and u cant find ne1 better untill ur selfconfidence iz raised. so instead of going w/ a loser try being single, do the things u enjoy and just be confident and happy! chances are if u like doing something (a sport maybe) you'll find a guy who likes it too and then the 2 of u will already have something in common.and remember u dont need a guy to fulfill ur life and make u happy, u came into this world without one and you'll do just fine now. Best of Luck!
Sunshine
2007-10-22 05:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need help alright, getting some sense into your head.....this guy should be put in his place, shame on him for belittling you, SHAME ON YOU FOR LETTING HIM!! You really need to ask yourself if his belittling, degrading & cheating are worth your pain and suffering. Stand up to him, kick his sorry mother-f&*$% *** out to the curb! Don't fall for his lies and cries for forgiveness. That makes you look weak, the more you forgive him, the more he'll do it, cause he knows he can. I'll tell you something, if you don't put an end to this now, you never will. For your own sanity, make that stand and say ENOUGH! GET OUT OF MY LIFE I'VE HAD ABOUT ALL I CAN TAKE FROM YOU, I WANT YOU GONE! But you must make sure that you're ready to be on your own for awhile, build that self confidence you so need. If you stand up and stand by what you say, no backing down...you WILL have won. Do not let anybody talk down to you.
Best of Luck!
2007-10-22 05:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by sunfire1165 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you with this loser?! Dump him, you won't find the better boyfriend as long as you're with this creep and putting up with his drama.
FWIW, any guy who tells you that you need to wear any make up "because you are too ugly for him" should be out of your life. And let the little baby cry and beg, you are the best he can get and you deserve so much better than him.
2007-10-22 05:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
KICK HIM TO THE CURB...
This is an Abusive Relationship. You are an abused girlfriend.
I can give you a 98% probability of him isolating you, running your life, and beating you should you stay with him (especially if you marry him!)...
Break-up with him and tell him to take his puppy-dog eyes and abusive, cheatin' self to the dump, because you're a sexy, good looking woman who is too good for him!
This boy...you chose the right word in this case...has a strong possibility of ending up in a situation where he could literally beat some poor woman to death for not having his supper on the table when he comes home. (Yes, that is extreme...)
Note, make sure you stress the fact that he is abusive, and needs psychological treatment when you toss him out like the trash he (currently) is.
As to whether or not you are ugly...since I don't know you, I don't know, but consider that make-up can conceal a beautiful face as easily as it can make an ugly face not ugly. (A friend's cousin is good looking with her make-up, and believes she is ugly without it...she is one of the most stunningly beautiful women he's ever seen without it!) Ask you friends...your REAL friends if you're ugly...ask your family...and accept their answers.
To help you figure-out if you are fat...look-up "Body Mass Index" on-line. Alternatively, if you have a bathroom scale that tell your your body fat percentage...an Adult woman should have a percentage about 22%.
In any case...Love yourself FIRST...
2007-10-22 05:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen lady, no boyfriend can call you fat because once the words slip out they are no longer your boyfriend. He has deep seated issues. Really. You need to put away the heavy makeup. Possibly go on a body mind detox. Listen while you're grieving because you flushed said hampster down the toilet, you can go on a nice detox, spend a few days at home, and feel better about yourself afterward. Try eating just steamed veggies, drinking lots of water. If you feel better about yourself you will find a man who thinks the same of you. All women are beautiful. We do not need anyone to tell us otherwise. You are on here looking for justification to dump this guy because you feel you are not strong enough to take a stand for yourself. If you don't take a stand for yourself in times like this you never will. Please remember this. Now I would suggest doing this face to face, because you need something like this in your mental history so next time a conflict comes up you'll just be like, oh this is nothing compared to that one time, I can do this no sweat. Best of luck to you! Be honest please tell him why you are leaving so he will learn not to behave like an animal. You can do it.
2007-10-22 05:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by hmm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's critical of you because he feels he needs to be in control, and his putting you down lifts him up. If he's cheated on you, chances are he's looking to dump you, and cannot deal with the fact that you've got enough self-confidence to do the same to him. Dump this loser faster than this morning's constitutional after three cups of coffee, and don't let him talk you out of it. Then, find a guy who will love and appreciate you for the beautiful girl that you are.
2007-10-22 05:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by rhino 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relax, you'll find another guy. Your boyfriend is a lowly piece of crap who takes out his own insecurities on you. There's no talking to people like him. He'll just turn it around to where it's your fault. Besides, you've already tried to talk to him & he's only given you more reason to doubt yourself.
Tell him that you want to break it off & when he gets down on his knees to beg, kick him in the face & walk away. Guys like him make me incredibly angry. You can & will find a better guy, trust me. I know tons of great single guys who would love a girl like you & I know that there are some in your area. Stick to your guns, honey.
2007-10-22 05:21:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
on e that must make u feel like **** and to there is always another guy waiting to be wanted by a girl. parently the guy ur dating dosent take ur feelings seriously. Brake up with him and go find ur night in shining armor.
2007-10-22 05:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by LeLe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋