Ok me and my boyfriend's mom got into a fight from which we made up and everything is fine I guess now.
But yesterday my boyfriend left to go to his friends house and his mom and aunt were over. (Note: His great grandma also lives with us and is in the process of moving out, thats why his mom and aunt were over)
So anyway, I went into our bedroom and closed the door and took a nap. I had the covers over my head and I heard a voice. So I wake up to his mom going through his drawers. Im like, what are you doing? And she tells me she is looking for something she gave to him. So I call him and it ends up what she gave him, he has with him.
He is 28 yrs old and his mom doesnt live with us...What would make her so disrespectful that she comes in the room while im sleeping and starts going through our stuff? What can I do?? Me and his mom's relationship is already fragile seeing we just got over a fight. What should I do? I hate confrontation and will avoid this if at all possible. Help!
2007-10-22 04:10:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yeah I hear you that's not cool of her to do that, but understand she doesn't know anything about having respect. Don't do anything, or say anything, just be patient, and this will all go away, it's going to be tough to not say something to her, but don't, because it's not worth it.
The Holidays are coming, and you don't want to be hating her during those times.
Just ignore it, take the high road, and talk to you BF about it, let him deal with it, and her. You should never have to argue with her...
2007-10-22 04:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sort of comes with the territory of living with a man you're not married to. ... Sorry to have to say it. But there aren't exclusive privacy rights in some of these living situations that are frowned upon by the older generations.
Yes, it's disrespectful. But there are worse things in the world, believe me.
Just move on. If she's a problem continuously, understand that this is likely not a family you want to marry into. Seriously. Unless she croaks soon. Look out for yourself.
2007-10-22 04:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a way to delete these messages after your conversations have ended? Or is she standing there watching him as he types? I'm sure u can delete all the evidence somehow. Now what's the deal on the phone? How come you don't talk on the phone? Is it because his mom won't let him? Or is it because you both don't have cell phones? What's the deal?
2016-05-24 04:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by freeda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a lock on the door. That way, you will not have a problem with privacy. Let the B/F handle his mom. You handle your family.
2007-10-22 04:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by tysdad62271 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to get your own place, and a new boyfriend.
But mostly you need your very own place. That way you can control who comes and goes.
As for BF - well, again, as a 28 year old mama's boy - nuff said here...
What makes you think he even wants to change?
No, if you want privacy - get your very own place.
2007-10-22 04:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's gone way past the point where confrontation is not an option. You and boyfriend both need to sit down with her and tell her what s up
2007-10-22 04:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by cutie420311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf needs to say something coming from you its just going to be a fight he needs to step up to the plate and say hey mom privacy its not like he is a teenager
2007-10-22 04:20:04 · answer #7 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I'd think very hard and deep if I'm gonna marry into that kind of family. or even have an in-law snooping around my private stuff..
2007-10-22 04:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by [275] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right don't confront her instead tell your bf your problems about her mom and pleased him if it is possible to talk her mom about being respecting others privacy.
2007-10-22 04:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not his wife. Perhaps in his mothers eyes, that doesn't make someone worth respecting.
What you can do is take back her key and don't allow her into your home.
2007-10-22 04:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋