Why Me? So very sad....?

Question

I was always told never to ask why me. If God intended for me to know everything then I would be up there with Him. Yet I cannot help but ask. Nothing seems to be going good in my life right now. I went from having money and a stable life to pennies just by choosing the wrong partner. One person ruined my life or what was my life. I am struggling all the time... I cannot remember the last time I was happy as an individual. Not a mother or daughter or sister. My family treats me like the plague. My only sister doesn't want to have any type of meaningful relationship with me. SHe has a life of her own, and my parents well my mom and I arent close at all. My father , he isnt around much....

Answer 1

It sounds very much that the answer to your "why me" is that you need to learn to take better care of yourself. You chose the wrong partner and that created financial hardship. If you look back at the beginning of that relationship, what would you have done differently? That's the lesson.

You're identifying yourself as a mother a daughter and a sister. And you recognize the need to see yourself as an individual. There's more evidence of the lesson life is trying to teach you. Why you? Because it's time for you to see and do things differently. Open your eyes and look at things from a different point of view.

What would happen if all these people you're trying to please suddenly vanished and you had the freedom to do whatever you wanted to do? Start doing things for yourself. Start drawing boundaries. Start rebuilding your life the way you want it to be.

Someone answered "because it's all about you". That was meant in a negative way and it sounds like you are thinking in a negative way. Start thinking in a more positive way. It is all about you. It is about how you live your life and how you don't allow people to take advantage of you. It's about how you love yourself enough to learn from the choices you've made in the past and now make choices that will be better for you.

Once you start honoring yourself and taking charge of your life instead of being other people's victim, your family will see that you are a different person. They are probably reacting to your victim mentality and are repelled by it. Once you start being more confident, they'll be attracted back to you. Take care of you and start making some changes that will make you happy. The rest will fall into place.

Answer 2

Am on the same level as you as regards to your situation and family matters and also your current situation. A partner can and will destroy all of you if you let it. And even if you don't it will cost you plenty to do so and to stop it happening ever again. My own situation is on-going because I have been compromised to such a level that even authorities doubt my existance and how it can be that everything is being done to overt any chances of getting any further in life. They all act as dumb as they come - am not being clever nor smart but biding my time - though it all seems futile as the destruction mode continues and gains more momentum in the weirest of places. How this could be is unknown to me - why should anyone want to ruin a persons life at all is a little beoyond my understanding of life itself. It's because they can and they will do so until they do get their way. It's down to you to see where its all leading to..change of name, address, work, ways and means, appearance.
Families come as they are and the older you become the more insight you get into their own background too. Its a good starting point on what not to wear, what not to do and what not to say. That's a lotta nots huh? Do's and don'ts follow suit. Believe in yourself and make a go of what it is you are trying to get across. If the current surroundings are not offering any solice then try changing to another state and being anew..its far better to leave the complainers behind as the level of negativity amounted there is destroying what it is you are. Add me to your contacts list and let me know how you get on. Good luck.

Answer 3

It sounds as if you have to take some time by yourself and heal mentally. Breaking up is hard and when that person takes all you money its even worse.

My advice is that you should just concentrate on getting you finances in order and getting your mind healthy again. For the financial part you can do research on line. One quick tip - live below your means, most of the stuff you want to buy, you don't need.

As far as your family goes why are they treating you this way? did you do something to alienate them? Ask them point blank. If you haven't done anything then move on. They will always be your family, but a relationship takes work by both parties. You should be the best sister and daughter to them as you can but realize they may not return the favor. Learn to accept that blood isn't always thicker than water.

Answer 4

You answered your own question when you said it changed when you picked the wrong partner. You chose. You are not a victim. You can't blame God for your partner.

When you get tired of feeling sorry for yourself, make some changes in your life and things will improve. I truly understand that sometimes life is rough and pain is real. But you will never feel better sitting around playing the Blame Game and the Oh Poor Me game.

I challenge you to spend the next week each day writing at least 10 things you can be grateful for, no matter how small. I will be totally surprised if you don't feel a bit better. It sounds like you need to make changes and get a new playground and new playmates. Find someone else to help and that too will help you.

I will pray for you to find your way out of the depression you are stuck in, most of the rest is up to you!!!

Answer 5

Life is like that and you know the saying ,It never rains but it pours.When you laugh the whole world laughs with you .When you cry you cry alone.Things may be black at the moment but this is where your personality comes through.When the going gets tough the tough get going and every cloud has a silver lining.You will pull through on your own,other people are not worth bothering with,there is no such thing as true love and sometimes you have to make the best of a bad job.So soldier on things will improve and you will look back at these times as a learning curve.I have had enough knocks in life to flatten an elephant but i am still here

Answer 6

You didn't really give enough details of what caused your problems other than the wrong partner.hopefully you have got rid of him which would be the first step in your new life.You have faith in God which is good, pray often for help in deciding what to do with your life. Why does your family treat you like the plague? If you owe them an apology then do it. If not ask them what is wrong. Tell your Mom that you want to change your life around. Most Mothers would help in a situation like that. Your Mom could perhaps help you get along with the rest of the family. If apologies are due do them. or accept them whichever is the case. You can gain control of your life if you really want to. I wish you all the best, God bless.

Answer 7

gimme a break where is the owner ship if they treat you like the plague there is a reason from what i see your a complainer and a whiner god doesn't want us to know everything he wants us to LEARN...... first your mom deserve rs a life she earned it she is done raising you and your sister no its time to get yours .... first are you interesting ( what books have you read lately ,seen good any movies)?second be a friend don't be a friend in need. if someone calls you is it all poor me. thirdly I'm assuming you have a place to stay, a car to drive legs to walk with arms to hold someone a mouth to say i love you not why don't you love me and last but not least thank god your not crazy . i believe soundness of mind is a big deal. there are tooo many people in this world wearing a diaper and don't even know it .. girl you are where alot of women have been including me wake up and smell the mascara you get that wrong person out or life NOW you can do bad alone. i know its scary to be alone but if your with a loser how is Mr right gonna find you . fake the funk for now till it all comes your way . smile and see how many people smile back

Answer 8

I hear you! If you had it once you WILL have it again. Right now take one step at a time not to overwhelm yourself on top of what really is going on. Focus on now and when you're ready - then tomorrow. Dear it is about YOU!!! Only YOU can take care of YOU - no one else. You MUST do for yourself now! There is nothing wrong with that! LIFE happens to the best of ALL of us. There is light at the end of the tunnel. You fell down, now get up and dust yourself off and stand! You may feel like you can't move or walk forward ALWAYS remember it's when we can't stand that we may endanger ourselves. When you stand, you are at your new beginning. Don't look back after today, ONLY to see how far you have come. Bad things happen to good people. Cling to God at your times of grief. Develop faith so it can help you get through life. It won't change the situations it will help you cope with it. YOU have to make the change or start to and God will do what you can not do. (Don't be too hard on yourself...)Blessings to u...;-D

Answer 9

Just dont ever forget- life will ALWAYS get better, no matter how shitty things seem.
I always have doubts in my life when things look bleak, and when everything seems to go wrong, I dont think itll ever end, but theres always some kinda light at the end of the tunnel (even tho I cant see it sometimes). I know it doesnt seem like it now, but dont worry, there will be another person who will come along and make you happy.
Friends are without a doubt the best way to get over times like these. Even if you havent talked to em in a while, I bet they would love to hear from you. If you have a close friend nearby, talk to them, hang out with them, and try to get everything else out of your mind. If there really isnt anyone, even old friends who youve faded away from, go out, introduce yourself to the 1st friendly face.
Life goes on, just hold on till it gets better

Answer 10

You started off by talking about why God chose you...maybe he chose you in a positive way, not a negative way. Is it possible that he wants to use this situation to pull you closer to your family? Maybe he's using this low time when you have no money to show you just how unstable life is. Cherish what you have, but still hope for what you don't have. Use this time to re-build your life. Try and build a strong relationship with your family. Try and build a strong financial situation. The bottom line is, you actually do need to ask why. God had a reason for these things, and you need to find out why if you want to use them for good.

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