Me and this guy want to go out, but none of my friends like him. They say he isn't good enough for me and i could do better. I know i shouldn't listen to them, and its my choice. How can i make them understand how i feel?
2007-10-22 03:34:06 · 8 answers · asked by sarahscadoodle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have a free will, and you have human rights, haha.
Well, go for it. But if things didn't go right with you and that guy, real friends will still stick up to you no matter what.. although, neverending sermons will meet you from them, like, "Why didn't you listen to me?" stuff like that, but don't worry.. if they are your friend, they will respect your decision, and they will just be at your back catching you.
2007-10-22 03:38:15 · answer #1 · answered by juliette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - is it possible your friends are right? Does this guy have a bad reputation for mistreating his girlfriends, or is he disrespectful to other people? If so, your friends have valid concerns about your well-being if you date him. You love these people and they know you pretty well. It's worth doing some soul-searching and spending some time thinking about the things they tell you.
But if they simply think he isn't good looking/athletic/smart/whatever, that's pretty shallow. In that case, how can you demonstrate his good qualities to your pals? Maybe they don't know him as well as you do, and will warm up to him if they see how great a person he is. Plan group activities with your friends and your guy so that they can get to know each other. Sit down with your buddies and explain what it is that you like about him - his kindness, sense of humor, etc.
Either way, be careful of compartmentalizing your life into "friend time" and "boy time." It's hard on you and it ends up hurting everyone's feelings.
2007-10-22 03:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by truefirstedition 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure they have a good reason as to why they don't like them, but just let them know you appreciate their concern and you will just have to either prove them wrong, or find out the hard way that he is really not a good guy. Hopefully your friends will support you either way! Best wishes!
2007-10-22 03:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by j c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends' only reason is that he's not good enough for you, ask them what they mean by that. Do they know something about him that you don't? I tend to trust my friends' judgment. Talk to them, tell them you're going to go on a date or two with him to see what he's really like, and go from there. Make sure their reasons are silly, like he's a "nerd" and you're a "prep" or something completely stupid like that.
2007-10-22 03:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can never make ur friends change their minds jus try him out but sometimes friends are right bout guys
2007-10-22 03:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how you feel when your around him and when your not. tell them how youde feel if he wasnt in your life. tell them its you choice and you like him alot and you need to be with him to be happy. i felt that way b4 but it didnt work out btween me and him. but my friends understood. tell them you need to be by his side and you need him to survive.
2007-10-22 03:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it ur choice! if u like him then u go out w/ him!!
2007-10-22 03:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun...if they are really ur friends, they will understand. my bff hated my ex-bf. but she bit her tongue and didnt say anything to me. cuz she knew i loved him
2007-10-22 03:39:12 · answer #8 · answered by fuckin cody 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋