I was playing a game on my boyf's mobile. He new this as he showed me how to play. I was bored so i lokked at the photo's on his phone, not messages or anything like that.
And he had rude pictures of ex girlfreinds on there. Boob pictures, below the waist pictures and videos of them masturbating.
I beleive this was all befor we got together three months ago, i wouldn't mind if they were normal pics of a day out. But these intimate pictures bother me.. What should i do???
2007-10-22 03:15:34 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S he hasn't got photo's of me!!!!! Thank god i'm a prude!!
2007-10-22 03:21:45 · update #1
Forward them to me.
2007-10-22 03:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right, you need to get this guy out of your life and FOR GOOD! How can he possibly keep such things on his phone of his exs when he is with you. If your that important to him hunni, then he won't want any old pictures. I am sorry, but I really think you need to break up with him. Some may think I am over reacting, but honestly, you do not want to be with a guy who A. takes such photos and B. keeps them when he is in a relationship goodness knoews how far down the line. Such intimate images he should have concealed in his head at the time and then forgotten when he met you. He sounds like a sad little loser and I really would not put up with it. Best of luck, and I hope you find a guy worthy of you.
PS if you stay with him, please DO NOT allow him to take such photos of you. Chances are his mates have also seen whats on his phone, and I wouldnt want you ending up embarresed and hurt due to his decent into proving his 'manhood'. Have some respect and tell him where to go.
2007-10-22 05:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see why some people have told her not to look through her boyfriends phone... why cant she? If he has nothing to hide then theres no problem is there?
You only have a problem with your other half looking at your phone when you've got something to hide... and this situation that this girl is asking for advice on is a clear indication of that.
If I found such photos or videos on my girlfriends phone I would be very angry. There is no need to keep such material on your phone of an ex-relationship if you are in a new relationship.
2007-10-22 03:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by Androma 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A real gentleman would have deleted them so they would never come before another person's eyes.
keeping this stuff says something about his character that isn't very promising. The honourable thing to do of course after splitting with this girl would be to get rid of this material and to inform her that he had done so. She trusted him to take those pictures...unwisely. Now he has the ability to do as he likes with them...that isn't a good situation to be in. Anybody with any integrity would not keep them.
It's up to you whether you confront him over this, but personally...I wouldn't really want to be around somebody who was childish enough to do something like that. Isn't that the kind of thing that little boys do? How sad!
I'd tell him what I'd stumbled across and end it. Not because of the pictures...but because he was too infantile to do the right thing and get rid of them when he split with this girl.
If he shows no integrity toward her..what makes you think he will be any different with you? It's your choice of course but in my opinion he needs to GROW UP!
2007-10-22 03:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel about it...for two reasons:
1.) You HAVE to be able to COMMUNICATE in order for the relationship to grow & be successful.
2.) Out of respect to you, he'd get the pictures off his phone. Even if he wanted to keep them, he could send them as a 'picture message' to his e-mail & delete them off his phone. Or, he can completely let go of the memories he had with these other females and delete them all together.
Either way, you should not be uncomfortable approaching him with your feelings. And he should not disrespect you in any way. Keep that in mind.
2007-10-22 03:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I would break up with that guy the instant I saw those... that's not right, maybe he wanted you to find them? But once you break up with someone I think that everything that they gave to you, pictures you took with them and anything like that should be thrown away/deleted in your case. He probably still wants her sexually... maybe not emotionally or mentally but if he only has dirty pics on there, that's a bad sign. Even if they were just pics of them I wouldn't like it cause it's like, uh are you over her or not?
2007-10-22 03:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by Tano A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I would confront him on it to see why they haven't been deleted yet. Don't do it in a defensive way though if you can. Just mention you noticed them and thought it was a little weird that now that he's with you that he'd have photos of an ex on his phone.
2007-10-22 03:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is going out with you, he shouldn't have his ex pictures on his mobile.. You should ask him why does he still have them, he should have pictures of you, ask yourself why doesn't he have pictures of you.. I think it is wrong what he is doing.. You should speak to him, so you don't have to worry and clear the air, and yes you did do right, to check through his phone, nothing wrong with that, sometimes that is how you find out whether he is cheating on you or not. My advice is speak to him.. Good luck
2007-10-22 03:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to delete them. I personally don't have a problem with my husband looking at porn, but I would definitely have a problem with porn of an ex.
In my mind, porn is supposed to be a fantasy not a reminder of what happened. And I would explain that to him.
2007-10-22 03:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Tara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay off his PHONE! Oh and don't send him any photo's of you because you know now he saves them.If you have sent him any photo's check yahoo site ex-girlfriends photo's at yahoo groups.Also Newbie-Nudes and see if he is posting your photo's on there.He may be making a nice living selling photo's and video's.There is alot of money in that now.Good luck
2007-10-22 03:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
simple and no need to ask the world of your BF's intent...he is alluring you to see it, not accidentally but with selfish motive intent...and its come on...testing you how you would react...
You should be next to victimize or you make a moral decision in life....but mind you...since you said you're in with him for 3 months...so if you know your weight of importance to him that very moment whom HE REALLY ALLOWS YOU to peep in to his very private property...and in truth must he keep it away from you for sure he knows there are very personal files in it but he surely let you let to exploit it to sell his agenda of what ever and you take it easily in.
Now I was saying earlier, you are supposed to have taken a very moral ACTION with strong determination, but you've made yourself too weak of doing it because you are sure touched by it also. Now We all know you're in the bate?
If not YOU SHOULD HAVE ERASED OR DELETED it all, why didn't you NOT MADE IT? Please ask yourself. Be honest my lady, I am your solicited counsel, RIGHT? yOU ASK US...rIGHT?
Deleting it MATTERS most to you and to him. It made your relationship more stronger, and maybe more trusting...If he accused you and blame you...good point...you have a good way out...YOU DON'T LIKE.
So, we return to you your Q...what are you going to do next....BE PART OF THE NEXT PAGE OF THE CIRCULATING SCAM...PHORNO AROUND....might even boomerang to you when you've found MR RIGHT. WOW, or sell it around for good cash/////????? a good job of a pimp...not a BF, good bye!
ooppsss you must have helped your same feather, have erased it to protect the ladies in there....what ever the results....you must have courage to protect other people while you have a good weight, understood....
2007-10-22 03:51:37 · answer #11 · answered by johnny N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋