There's a rumor floating around my family, that I'm bisexual-which is not true. & for our birthday, I gave my twin sister a card & money, & the card was a kitten giving another kitten a birthday present, & she didn't speak t me for a long time, & she thought I sexually wanted her. What is wrong with her? & then she said my brother brainwashed her into thinking that. I have a friend who's BI, but I'm heterosexual. They think I'm BI, too but I'm not. My brother tried to convince her to think I wanted her to do a 3-some with me & my friend. Why is my family so sick-minded like that? I'd never think of doing something like that. & after she told me that, she kept calling me all day, trying to waste my cell phone minutes on purpose, just to waste my time. Why does my family keep trying to hurt me by lies & rumors? & my twin sister falsely accused me of trying to murder & molest her kids & my brother also thinks I sexually want him, but he also kept ringing my phone off the hook.
2007-10-22 03:10:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
***Sorry to be so explicit & graphic but I really need advice on this issue.
2007-10-22 03:11:10 · update #1
There's nothing wrong with giving someone a card for their birthday. But that's not the issue here. Your brother has some definite problems and it sounds like your sister is buying into it. What happened with you and your brother that he wants to hurt you? Why would your sister accuse you of trying to murder and molest her kids?
My first impression was that because you're more open minded and have a friend who's Bi, they're reacting to their own prejudice. But that wouldn't explain the murder theory. My guess is that there's some sexual abuse going on somewhere in the family either past or present.
They all could use some counseling but you would do well to stay away from them and don't buy into their drama. You may want to change your cell phone number and not give it to them.
2007-10-22 03:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't answer why your family treats you like this, but it is obvious to me that even if the things they say about you are not true they find things that you do very unacceptable and so it is easy for them to believe these things about you. If that was my family I would call them all up and tell them to shut it. Then break off contact with them until they come to their senses. But make them talk to you face to face don't try to resolve anything over the phone unless distance is a problem for you. And there is nothing wrong with giving someone a birthday card and any adult should be happy with it. BDay presents are for kids and spouses.
2007-10-22 03:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Fat Fred Fontaine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a pretty dysfunctional family. You've already sat your sister down and told her that you werent Bi, or interested in any kind of sexual contact with her. From here I would let them know (both your gulible sister and your horrible brother) that you dont appreciate their ridiculous and childish behavior and cut them off for a while if they dont stop. Either they will come around or not, but you shouldnt have to put up with your brothers manipulation or a sister that wont stand up for you.
2007-10-22 03:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by melissa 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a new phone number. Stop talking to them. They aren't being the family you need. If my family made up lies about me like this, I wouldn't talk to them if they didn't back off. I'd warn them to stop and if they didn't then it'd be over. And there's nothing wrong with giving cards to someone. I just gave my bro a card for his birthday on Saturday. Forget these "family" members.
2007-10-22 03:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by scoobydoo316316 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your family has treated you badly many times. I believe they have some issues that they need help with.
What you gave your twin for her birthday was very sweet. How dare they try to make something unseemly out of it!!
Try not answering their calls for at least a month. You may get a little lonely but try it and when (and IF) you do speak with them, let them know you cannot put up with all their negativity and that they need to speak civily to you or not to call you at all.
Best of luck - (my family is not quite as bad, but are not supportive at all).
2007-10-22 05:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with giving a card it sounds to me like your family is the one with the problem just talk to your family they should love you even if you were but like you said you are not I think the real person that you need to talk to is you brother because it Sundas like he is the one that started the whole thing that is the best way to handle that one.
2007-10-22 03:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok, first of all...I'd like to point out that your sexuality should be the LEAST of any ones worries. Sounds to me that your family needs some counseling or something. Personally, I'd distance myself from the entire sick and twisted thing.
ps. Wanting to have sex with your twin sister has nothing to do with being bisexual, that's incest.
2007-10-22 03:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by Blossom 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If what you are saying is true, you need to remove yourself indefinitely from your family. This is not a healthy environment. Your better off without them in your life. The best way to prove you are not bi is to get a life of your own and live it well.
2007-10-22 03:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't answer your phone for a while - put them on ignore and may be they will realize what a wonderful person they have lost.
There is nothing with the card you sent either. Just hang in there.
Do not berate yourself and let them bring you down.
2007-10-22 03:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not sure what country you are in, so not sure what time it is where you are, but he may be waiting to give you something nice later on. So if that does not happen still, then yes you have every right to be annoyed with him! lol.
2016-05-24 03:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋