if you had 6 months till you got married do u think you could find someone better than the person you were about to marry? would you try and get to know other people? see the thing is that im about to get married but i am afraid that my fiancee might meet someone better than me and that we wont get married.
2007-10-22 03:01:33 · 35 answers · asked by jessyka_g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tell her you need to get married right away before she gets cold feet. She doesn't need someone else to not marry you, she just needs to not want you. She wants you so you are a lucky man.
2007-10-22 03:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
she's not going to find someone better, if she had that kind of mentallity she would't have accepted your proposal.. she is going to be very busy over the next 6 mos with planning the wedding of her dreams, what you could do is be extraordinary and help her, hey i know that most guys aren't into that stuff but this is a way for you to get closer to your bride to be, so take an invested interest in the planning your wedding, she will see that you really want this and that your happy with her and she won't have to worry about if you like what is chosen. most women stray during this time because of the presure of trying to please everyone having to do with the wedding, the mothers and fathers and friends and other families, the cake and flowers and what eveyone is wearing etc... that's alot for one person to take in, but if the two of you do it as a team, then you both will be building reassurance so when life comes at you, you will know that you have someone who will help and see you through it all, now think of how she'll feel if she had to do all that alone. Some women take it as a perview of what life with their potential spouse will be like, if it feels hopeless or too much presure or if she's doing it all alone then she may feel like you don't care, then she may rethink her trip down the isle. It's your wedding to so take part in the planning..Help for mother's doesnt count. They've been there since birth and this is part of the job. This is a precious time in your life so enjoy this time, you know it's only suppose to happen once. So relax and enjoy it. Don't worry about what may or may not happen, look at your soon to be wife and tell her she is the one and that you love her. Be true to her and be happy. Congratulations on your muptuals and I hope it lasts a lifetime... God Bless...
2007-10-22 03:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the purposes of the engagement is to have time to be sure that you are making the right decision before the ceremony. If your "intended" is that uncertain about the marriage, I would have my concerns. IF either of you are actually LOOKING for another person, I would end the engagement yesterday.
To have fears about a marriage is normal. When we live in a scoety were nearly half of them end in divorce - and most because they find someone else, it is only natural to think about the possibility.
If the fear is becoming as overwhelming as this question makes it appear, you probably need to sit down with your fiancee and let him know how you are feeling. Give him the chance to reassure you about his love and committment. Or a chance to walk away before you get to the altar.
It is during these next 6 months that you two will need to learn how to talk about such important issue, to deal with fears and insecurities, and to find how best to support and encourage each other. If you can not deal with those issues now, they will only get worst once you have the ring and you are probably not ready yet for marriage.
2007-10-22 03:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doubt is a terrible thing. I know that it won't sound comforting but if your ex is going to find someone they think is better then you really don't want to be married to them. I was married once when I was young and I always had fears and insacurities that they would find someone else. We rushed the wedding and my fears still didn't go away. Then it happened he did find someone and our marriage broke up. I am not sure if it was inevatable, or possibly my insecurities were almost a sef fulfuilling professy.
I would say don't rush the wedding just out of fear, but if he has not given signs he is still looking, and he has never cheated then have some faith and trust in the man you love. You might be the better person for him.
2007-10-22 03:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your asking a question like this,your not ready to get married! You obviously have trust issues or insecurities in your relationship that need some attention first. Marriage isnt just a piece of paper or a change of last name,it's a commitment to each other to spend your lives together till death do you part and believe me,there are times where the till death part has you thinking what the heck was I thinking! Besides raising children,marriage is the hardest step in life! It can be tiring,it can be frustrating,depressing,lonely,boring and passionless. It can also be fun,exciting and wonderful! Like I said before,it a commitment,not to be taken lightly,and you are not ready!
2007-10-22 03:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by Al 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity will ruin your marriage. Who's to say that after you're married he might meet someone he likes better and then divorce you to be with the "better" person? This line of thinking can happen for the rest of your life, so make it stop now! People who are engaged already believe they have found the person they want to be with for the rest of their lives. In your case, that person is YOU. If you continue to be insecure it will eventually manifest some arguments in your relationship and larger problems will occur. Get some self esteem and don't think that way anymore.He loves YOU.
2007-10-22 03:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lori E 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You honestly have issues then. You MUST trust each other. If you walk down that aisle your THEN gonna be worried if he is going to divorce you. Has he ever shown a clue that he wanted someone else? If so, I'd bail on the marriage thing. Marriage is based on 3 things in my opinion.
1. What you believe religiously (I'm a Christian and married and atheist, that is a bit difficult at times now that we have children.)
2. TRUST
3. Utmost Love NO MATTER WHAT.
Please elaborate. What makes you think he is LOOKING for someone better?
2007-10-22 03:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Laura S 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Seriously you shouldn't marry someone you think is looking for someone better. And if you don't think your the best your fiancee can get you need to work on your self esteem before going any further.
2007-10-22 03:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by Fat Fred Fontaine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is worse than the usual case of "cold feet"... If you're not ready to marry, why do it? If you worried about finding a replacement, doesn't this tell you, there's a problem?
I would suggest while you have time, get some pre-marital counselling with your minister, priest, or rabbi... or a licensed professional. this could improve your chances of staying together, or help you both decide it's a poor idea.
What's the rush? You've got your whole life ahead of you.
2007-10-22 03:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by JerZey 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why the questions? If you are going to get married to the person you should already have trust that she won't find anyone else and she obviously wants you!
Still having doubts? Then forget it- issues like this only get worse over time..
2007-10-22 09:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by MissB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance proposed to you to become his wife, then I don't think he is looking around. If there are reasons that you are not mentioning that you believe he is looking around... such as cheating or finding something. Then call him on it, or at least bring the topic up.
Be happy, you are engaged, and everyone gets nervous. If this is the guy you love, then it will be ok. Every woman thinks a guy can do better then her, just something that comes with the territory.
But don't worry and plan your wedding!
2007-10-22 03:06:08 · answer #11 · answered by mke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋