And he left me. And it really, really hurts. I've been around people, got involved in new things, been out with my friends, put my mind on other people, tried to meet new men, but I just feel nmb. I've given it time, it doesn't help. Its like a physical pain in my heart. I've seen other men, kissed, had sex, and I feel nothing. I just imagine its him.
Therapy doesn't help. My doctor offered to drug me with anti-depressents and I don't want them.
I just don't want to be around anymore, I don't want to carry on living or breathing without him. It hurts so much and I don't know what to do.
2007-10-22 01:19:45 · 8 answers · asked by elenasmith27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know, I know exactly what that feels like. I was in a relationship with someone I cared very much for, and I was convinced she was the one for me, and then she turned round and said that she didn't see us being together.
It does hurt. But the fact that it hurts shows you are normal and healthy and you have feelings. Would you want to be the sort of person who just didn't care? I don't think so. And time will heal. Trust me. Just keep yourself busy. Try to take your mind off him.
I know you've done all that and you don't think it's going to work, but just hang in there.
Good luck, and take care of yourself.
2007-10-22 01:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what to tell you.
I think you've gone off the chain mentally in some regards, I mean to let someone consume your emotions and have that kind of control over you...is just ridiculous.
The only that is going to cure you is if you learn to accept things for the way they are and move forward in your life.
Until then you will continue to be miserable no matter who you talk to and what drugs you take to try and cure your pain.
Life goes on....things happen for a reason, if you let yourself get caught up in all of they hype and dramatics...you'll only find yourself in a world of hurt and drowning in your own tears.
& the only reason you haven't moved on is because you think you can't and you've led yourself to believe that's true. There are more fish in the sea, so why you're calling it a day after casting your line for only a minute with no bites...I don't know?
......Do some self help. You have to want to get better before you'll feel better....plus retrospecting on the past isn't going to bring him back or change what's already been done and said between the two of you. So tough love, but you might as well snap out of it.
*Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon.
2007-10-22 01:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. All the other answers are very good and I hope you consider all of them. It sounds like you've been trying to ignore the elephant in the room. The more you try not to think about this guy, the more you think about him. I'm going to suggest something a little bit different. Embrace the pain. It sounds like you've been trying to avoid it but why not look it square in the eye and say you will not defeat me. You loved someone and you got hurt. Okay. That happens but that does not mean the end.
The question is what do you need to learn from this experience? Pain has a purpose and running away from it doesn't help. I'm not suggesting you should love the pain but learn from it. If you learn from it, you gain lessons that are invaluable and will help you as you move through life. Don't cheat yourself by trying to avoid it. Love yourself. Live. Learn. You will love again. I wish you the very best.
2007-10-22 01:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by CGordo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are truly understood and appreciated by those of us that have been a couple of miles in your shoes. It is very difficult to accept loss and rejection. However, you were not built to break. You have resiliency, if you allow it to assist you. The process may be long and arduous, but if you commit to good and the not so good of a healing process, I am certain you will find comfort and peace. The memories will no longer be tormenting, but enjoyable. One day you will see each other again and when you do cross each other paths, show the best of you. Help him to understand his loss as much as you have sought to understand yours. Many blessings and the heavy hurt gets lighter as you heal.
2015-11-16 23:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by Gracy Mack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel! I'm going Thur it myself.... It feel like he's the only one for you and no one Else! But you have to be strong, For now! I got in to a fight with my man, And now he wont talk to me! But, I cant make him want me! So, I have to wait and see whats going to hap pend..... But give yourself time and if it meant to be it will hap pend! I promise you that. I believe in that.... And you have to! Your doing the right thing by hang out with people! And try keeping yourself busy at all time, Then when time go by, Your start being your old self again! I hope this help you,
2007-10-22 01:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't loose ur heart. It happens. If u can contact him directly or indirectly, do so. Tell him the feelings u have for him. Remain in his contact and remind him that u love him very deeply. Had he really loved u, Cares 4 u, he will reply u, sooner or later. But if he doesnot, he was not really with u.
2007-10-22 01:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship with someone who's older than me , he played the father role in my life .. i was totally considering him as everything in my life .. he was the father ,the mother and the lover... he cared at the beginning .. but then all what he cared about was sex .. he was more than great in the bed .. that's why i thought that i love him more and more , till that day i discovered he had sex with my bestfriend .. he had no problem at all to be with me and with anyone else .. then i realized i'm only a sex tool in his life .. he was married btw and had three children .. but i never gave up on him ... someday he came to me telling me that he's not ready to go on our relationship and i have a future bla bla bla ... i totally collapsed in his arms .. i cried like i never cried in my life .. i was totally broken .. begging him not to leave me .. i can't live without you .. but he never listened .. i stayed home for months and months .. then i took my decision to forget him .. at first i could , but couldn't have sex or feel turned on anybody .. but then i lived normally and realized that i didn't love him .. i was just in lust ...not love ... this all took more than 8 years so i think my comment won't be useful to u anymore .. i just want anyone who's passing through this **** learn from what i have experienced
2017-02-08 00:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Soska 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care. it will pass. if there are any opportunity's to get back with your man do so.
2007-10-22 01:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by TwisyRloker66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋