I know he wont be happy with the idea at all, as he is in the Navy and will think we will never see each other. He also has a very low opinion of women in the forces thinking that they sleep around, how do i convince him i wouldn't do this???
Thanks in advance.
P.s. I've been to the Careers office, discussed with them, and know that i want to do this as a career so no answers saying 'have i thought this through' please.
2007-10-22 00:56:34 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Any boyfriend worth having will recognise that you are making a sound choice and trying to forge a decent career for yourself, and will be proud to have a girlfriend who is smart and ambitious. I'm ex army, and would have loved my girlfriend to join up as I know what an amazing opportunity serving in any of the forces is.
2007-10-22 01:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just inform him that you have been looking into joining the Armed Forces and after careful consideration, you've decided the Army is a career move that you have decided on.
If he says that all women sleep around,then ask him does he KNOW ALL women in the Armed Forces, or maybe its just the one he knows in the Navy and that's why you've decided to join the Army.
There are exception to every rule, and you will be that exception...
Let him know, you have no desire to use this enlistment as a way to "hook-up with anyone" , you are just trying to work towards your goals.
If he has an issue with it, and joining the military is something you really want to do, then you will need to do some soul searching and decide what you are willing to let go...
The boyfriend or your dreams of joining the military.
2007-10-22 01:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by cameranhand 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit him down and tell him what you want to do and why.
Tell him that he may have a low opinion of women in the forces (which is rotten of him anyway), but he knows you and should know that you aren't that kind of girl. If he gives you grief about this, then maybe he shouldn't be your boyfriend. After all, relationships of any/all kind are based on trust. If he doesn't trust you, it won't matter if you swear on a stack of Bibles. I wonder if he has this opinion because he sleeps around. Hope not.
Whatever the case, he cannot live your life or make decisions for you. The best you can do is communicate openly and honestly. Either he will be supportive or he can take a walk.
2007-10-22 01:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by swimeveryday 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the simple answer is the strain you will put on your relationship by being apart for sustained periods and being intergrated with many other men means you probably almost certainly will split up.
i have experience in this matter and can tell you now as much as you want to wait for him its impossible what happens when you set off on deployment for six months then return to find out hes left a week before you got home to deploy himself thats a year apart.
my own ex fiancee was in the army as well as a nurse yet when i deployed to bosnia after two months i found out she was sleeping around with someone else from my regiment back at camp yes she isnt you but thats exactly what will be going through your boyfriends mind each time he hangs up the phone to you or has a quiet moment to think.
my advice in reality call it a day now and end it amacably have a complete fresh start that way no one ever gets hurt.
2007-10-22 21:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by francis f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking to join the Army, honestly, your boyfriend's opinion on the matter should be one of a supportive nature; not the other way around.
If he loves you, he'll support whatever you choose to do.
And if I'm reading your question correctly, it sounds like he's the kind of guy that would expect the same thing from you if the roles were reversed, would he not?
2007-10-22 01:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by The Love Duck 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him, that you are joining the Army. I know you won't sleep around. Later on in life, every fall you two can enjoy the Army Navy game together.
2007-10-22 12:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"He also has a very low opinion of women in the forces thinking that they sleep around"
what a prick
it's what you want and if he doesnt like that idea then it's his loss, obviously its your dream and anyone who tries to hold you back isnt worth it
good luck, ive wanted to join the army or the raf since i was 11 but i'm taking a few years to decide if i still want to do it
2007-10-22 01:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by Secret Lemonade Drinker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless you need to do what is best for YOU boyfriends come and go but your future is yours , it would be nice to have him be apart in you deciding to join the Army but its clear that isnt what he wants for you, If he cant support you now do you really think later he will?
Being in a realtionship where you dont have support from each other is a relationship that wont last...
Do what is best for you and your future, I wish you the best of luck in what ever you decide to do.
Armywife 10 plus yrs & Soldier !!!
2007-10-22 01:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Justice35 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You slapped him in the face for wanting to serve his country?! I understand that you feel like he left you out the decision, but it doesn't seem like you two have even been together very long by your description above. Maybe he had a good reason that you should have listened to rather than hitting the man. Geez!
2016-04-09 21:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the hard parts of being a young adult is realizing whose approval matters the most. Hint: It better be yours.
I will say one thing. Many, many, MANY bf/gf relationships break up when one joins the service. Distance plus youth plus not much leave time equals "why bother?"
This is the path you want your life to take, so simply inform him of your decision. If he makes nasty assumptions, he's not the right guy for you anyway.
Good luck to you as you take your first steps in the profession of arms.
MSgt, USAF (Retired)
2007-10-22 08:15:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋