How do you get married when you your families hate each other??

Question

We come from two different worlds but we love each other. We both don't talk to our families often but I wanted to invite them to my wedding.

His family- are ghetto druggies and have a pot farm in the back of their house in a crackhead neighborhood

My family-are rich and loaded and could careless about anyone who makes at least 100,000 a year. Knowing someone who doesn't have more than 1 house makes them a joke in their eyes.


But what seems to be the problem is each side of the family wants to physical hurt each other's family and don't seem to care what me and his feeling towards it is. It's almost got to the point where it's has be physical between the families.


I really don't know how to deal???

Answer 1

Wow!! Congratulations to you on finding your soulmate.

I have NEVER told anyone to elope, but in your case I think it would be best. Well, you wouldn't have to runaway somewhere, just go to the courthouse with some close friends.

I seriously wonder about this Romeo/Juliet love affair. His family sounds like loosers and your family sounds like stuck up snotty rich folks.

My advice for you two would be to get married....not invite your families....and move away somewhere together that is away from BOTH families if you want this to work out.

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

If both families want to physically hurt each other, and you intend to definitely be together .. you need to get away from both families. Family violence can happen quickly .. and get out of control quickly. Something awful could happen.

Both of you need to make positively sure that you want each other.

If your families won't co-exist with each other .. then that is the way it is .. and nothing much will change them any time soon.

If you want to really get married .. you simply marry each other in a ceramony alone. Start a life away from both families .. and make it cyrstal clear to both families that you will not be taking part of the famly circle until they can behave safely, and properly.

It would probably be wise not to mix the families together .. ever. Visit each family, one at a time .. and only if they behave properly.

Please know, this will not be simple. It will not be without heartache. Your love for each other will have to be strong.

And know, this could cause problems between you at any time during your lives.

Answer 3

You and Romeo are going to have a difficult road ahead, (if you care about your family members at all, if you don't, then you can shrug it all off). BUT, marriage is hard enough, when there are extended family issues it can be nearly impossible to succeed in marriage. Eventually, you two will fight about it: (holidays, family events, having children related to both sides of the family tree, etc.) Also, something else to consider: in a "good" union, each spouse actually gains new family members!, but when families don't approve, and are dysfunctional, you will get a husband, but no "in-law" relationships, (big voids as part of the total package of marriage)- and, worse- often those people actually work against you, which causes even more pain. Best wishes, but please, don't rush- think about things beyond the wedding event.

Answer 4

Forget about it! It ain't gonna work. Chances are this guy is a GOLDIGGER and looking for someone to support his butt and he found someone like you (either real kindhearted or completely gullible) to leech onto. Chances are if you stay together, YOU will end up support his family and theior habits.Remember, you can take the BOY out of the ghetto, but you can't take the ghetto out of the boy. (And he's probably got some one on the side too- you'll probably find out after it's too late.)Dump him and move on, and stick to the same social class. Stay together, and you'll be miserable.

Answer 5

Wow...This is kinda like Romeo & Juliet. I say that you should have a small wedding and chose a select group of people from each of the families that are most important or will cause the least drama.

Answer 6

Why would you want them at your wedding unless you have a need to see drama? Just elope.

They live in a ghetto AND they have land to grow pot? A crack neighborhood with enough property to farm on? Unusual.

You're adults. You can live your entire lives without ever seeing anyone you don't want to see, even if they are your parents. Unless of course you like drama.
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Answer 7

I used to like my spouse's household, I had appreciate for and cherished my sweetheart's mother as my possess mom and my sister-in-legislation was once the equal. One day I overheard them and I learned that the affection I had for them was once one sided. I give up going round, staying to myself whilst compelled to move. I not often see them anymore in any respect. I not ever informed my spouse, even if I was once the SOB after they complained approximately me now not being the "equal". They despised me besides, why trouble. Never once more will I provide my love so freely and utterly. YES, my harm has grew to become from sour hatred, to indifference. And, I could upload, my spouse was once ALWAYS a witch with a capitol B to any and everybody in MY household, not ever even attempted to get alongside.

Answer 8

Hatfields and McCoys... I'd invite NEITHER side. It's a judgement the two of you will have to make together. Perhaps you should run off to vegas.

Answer 9

My friends family is not that bad but his brother and his sister inlaw got married and the the parents didnt like each other! and he said they just came together because of the baby!!! idk i know ur probably like WOHHHHHHHH!!! But tell your family that it hurts you that they treat them like that and NO u probably don't want to be seperated from your family BUT. . . . if you know ur parents well enough like i imageN threaten them! Meaning tell them you will completly seperate yourself from them if that can't learn to be nice to them! Also take it slow tell them they don't have to love them just be nice to them and don't talk about them when your around!

Answer 10

no other way..u both get married..love is not a business.