I'm so heartbroken... feel like I wanna die =(?

Question

I'm 17... he was 21... we started dating 2 years ago... fell madly in love with each other and just last week he broke up with me and it hurts so bad. I cry every night cause I miss him and it hurts me I can't cuddle with him anymore or ever talk to him again. Everything I do reminds me of him cause we were best friends and everytime I was sad he would make me feel better and I could tell everything to him. Now I feel like I'm never gonna meet a guy like him again and I'm going to be lonely and sad. He was my first love and I was his...he left me cause he moved and hes like 2 hours away from me and the long distance relationship was too stressful for him but our plans were to move in together in 5 months... he couldn't wait for me anymore =( I can't eat I went from 110 pounds to 100, I can't sleep it's 3 am and I have been crying all night and I don't know what to do

Answer 1

remember: whats meant to be will always find its way & if its meant to be; it'll happen. and its never over for true love, have you not watched 'the notebook' i know life isnt like a movie; but in some ways..it is, everyone finds their happy ending - even if its not what you'd hoped for in the beginning, youll get it. i understand your super upset right now because you feel like you cant go on, but you can - it just *seems* hard right now. what you need to do is get in some comfortable jammies, get a big bowl of rocky road ice cream to heal the pain and put in the scariest movie you can think of (you'll be so scared you'll stop thinking about him, even if it is just for a little bit - it works!) and then take yourself to bed, get up in the morning - singing 'irreplacable' by Beyonce - call up one of your friends & do something like shopping or scope'n out hott guys, or both (hey, your allowed to look!) your single for the first time in two years, yeah you miss him terribly, but your lifes not over, enjoy it, and if hes the one, hes going to come back to you & if hes not, then you dont need him anyway, you'll find someone more amazing then him..

but dont ever plan on getting him off your mind, he was your first true love, you'll probably always have a love for him, but over time it'll turn into a different love. my true love was when i was 13 and we dated for three years , he broke up with me and i was devastated! but he came back & we dated on and off after that but ive met someone new, i still love him my ex - but not like i used to, its a different love.

dont be sad :( tomorrows a new day & a new start. if he loves you, he'll come back & hopefully when he does come back, you wont have already moved on like i had when my TL came back to me;

Answer 2

Is it 100% over? Because if he still has feelings for you, I'm sure this is not how he would want you to be reacting. As much as it hurts, like your heart is ripping slowly apart, stay strong. It really really hurts, i understand, but really, it's not the end of the world. If you can, think of the real pain other people are suffering around the world. It helps for some people. And if it's not 100% over, give it some time. Maybe after a couple of weeks or months, you guys will get back together. If he was stressful about it, he probably needed some time off to think about what he's doing, and how's he doing it. Maybe he'll realize that he can't live without you. There are a lot of maybes, but you don't know, so I suggest in the meanwhile you take care of yourself no matter how painful it gets. Do it as a chore. You HAVE to take care of yourself. Cry it out, do what u can to make yourself feel any better at all. It's good you're noticing your weight and all that, just make sure you don't lose anymore. Best of lucks.

Answer 3

I know just how you feel! It's no fun losing someone and we've all petty much been there. Try to distract yourself as much as possible. I known that things remind you of him. That will fade over time, although there will be some things that will remind you of him for the rest of your life. This sounds simplistic, but time will help heal your heart. Now, he will forever have a place in your heart because he was your first love so I'm not really saying that you'll "get over" him. A lot of people never get over their first loves, but time will hel your heart enough to move on. It will help you to learn to love again. It may take awhile and that's okay. You don't need to jump into another relationship right now anyway. I know you're miserable right now. Believe me, I know. I was this time about 2 weeks ago when my world collapsed when I had a loss of a relationship. I've been doing whatever I can to keep my mind off him and the loss. I was lucky in that I was able to go out of town to visit my sister and that helped more than I can describe. Being with other people helps. It's not a magic cure, but it helps. When it's all said and done, though, it's just going to take time to heal. I wish you well. I know how hard it is.

Answer 4

If a 2 hour drive is too stressful of a long distance relationship for him, then he's not the right guy for you. sounds a little immature of him to say that. If he really loved you then that shouldn't be a problem at all. Don't worry there's other people out there, just look up at the stars for a minute or two and you will realize that, somewhere out there, in this huge place that is existance, that there is still someone out there that can show you what true happiness is.

NEVER GIVE UP FAITH!! BECAUSE THAT'S ALL WE HAVE LEFT!!

Answer 5

You know, I feel the same way. I'm heartbroken over a relationship that really wasn't serious. In my head, I thought of that guy for five years. During those five years, I thought about him and felt he was always near me. But the image of him was in my head. In reality, I was not in his heart, as I wished it would be. It was fantasy. Time passed by. I seriously lost weight when he left me to be with his wife in Timbuktu. I could hate him, but I don't. It just wasn't in the cards.

Eleven years before I met him, I had another boyfriend I was head over heels with. He was a Brit from Liverpool, England. We went out for three years and it ended on a sad note as well. It killed me, but through the support of friends I made it through. I lost a total of 20 lbs. My weight fluctuated between 98lbs and 115lbs. It was a pain, but I recovered.

It's not easy when it comes to falling in Love. Sometimes it's a beyotch. But it doesn't mean you can't ever love again. Somebody out there is waiting for you and me and I believe we can pull through this. We need the support of friends and positive influences to decorate our lives with happiness again. Be rest assured that you are alive and that there is rhyme and reason for everything.

...Because every day is the first day of the rest of your life! Live it to it's fullest.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry- and I know its hard to hear this- but I promise you- this will pass. Every day it's going to hurt a little bit less. You'll get there. On really bad days- lock yourself in your bedroom- play slow music and force a cry- a hard one. It's healthy to grieve the loss of a relationship- and though it sounds weird- I swear it's what got me through my last hearbreak. I always felt a little bit stronger afterward, seriously>
Hang in there- I know you believe what you said about ever finding anyone- and I'm sure you've heard this before- so I'm sorry- but you're young- and you WILL find someone. While you think he wont be the same- you're right- he could be better..... or maybe just different- and thats not a bad thing.....
you'll believe it when you start to feel better..... you will:)
take care:)

Answer 7

I'm sorry to hear that your so sad, but it's not the end of the world. You sound like a girl with a good heart, and in time the hurting will go away. I broke my wife's heart in much the same way at one point in our relationship, and you didn't read that wrong "she is my wife". In the meantime spend time with your parents and friends and focuse on the things that you like to do. Don't let one bad event ruin the rest of your life or END IT!

Answer 8

For most of us this is a part of life. Like a passage into our next phase of our life. It hurts like hell, and you think you may not survive it, but one day you wake up and you hear a song on the radio and you actually smile! Then you remember your sadness and cry some more, but little by little every day the hole iin your heart starts to get smaller and smaller. For some of us it will never mend, And for most of us we will ALWAYS carry that scar on our hearts. But we do survive and learn to love again, And it usually is with someone who loves us 10 times more than the person who broke our heart! I'm sorry your hurting sweetie... but it does get better!

Answer 9

I'm sorry that this happened to you ..But this is the game of life and love it may seem like you will never be happy again but you will. Just find something to take your mind off of this situation. Try going out, listening to music,talking to friends,and watching movies.. Soon it will be over and in due time you might not even remember his name so stay strong ..Peace and Love

Answer 10

awww! unfortunately love takes us to this place on occasions. it absolutely sucks...its so painful and devastating. losing someone you love is actually like a little death. you cry, you grieve, you have good days and you have bad days....but you WILL heal, you WILL feel better and it WILL take some time. allow your tears to flow, pamper yourself, surround yourself with your closest girlfriends who will let you cry (lots of sleep overs and movies), rent some funny movies.... a funny book to read eventually when you're ready is "in between boyfriends" by cindy chupak (writer to sex and the city)
you'll be okay, hang in there, maybe buy a protein mix so you can have a healthy shake ( i know eating can be not very appealing...i'm about 118 and drop weight when stressed or depressed) ...maybe even get a kitten...something to love on and bond with. good luck