During my last year of college,I had a sexual relationship with this guy.It didn't end all too well because he claimed that he thought I was me who had been prank calling his phone.Anyhow, after he did accuse me of that we still continued to sleep with each other, I called him, he called me, there was no problem until suddenly I text message him about something I left at his house and he tells me to not call him anymore and threatens to tell people we mutually know about our relationship. And that he will put a restraning order against me and that He said he would'put my business out in the street" so the next day I get a call from one of his close friends whom never calls me inviting me to his event.This particular friend happens to be his best friend and who happens to be one of the members of the club I tried to join)so she invites me to his event, but I didn't go, and so everytime I see her school she ignored me, he ignores me, I'm feeling bad, feeling like I did something wrong
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I try to reach out to her to wish her happy birthday, and congratulations on her performance at a school event ad I get ignored, I see him at school he ignores me, then I see him again and he smiles and calls me over so we can talk, but I tell him I have to go to class, but wish him luck.The other members of the club speak to me , another member even gave me a hug, so i guess my question would be should I still try to join the club even though my reputation might have been ruined by me having a relationship with him
2007-10-21 17:15:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It sounds as though the girl was inviting you to that event in order to set you up for either a showdown with the man, or just to amuse herself while watching your mutual discomfort.
Stay away from these users, find another club to join, and move on.
2007-10-21 18:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by CGIV76 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever "recover" the "something" you left at his house? Was it important for you to recover, or can it be left behind?
Don't fall for that "restraining order" crap. Unless you have threatened him or embarked on a "course of action" of harassment and threats. The court would never grant him a restraining order if you have never posed a threat to him. He could FILE for one, which could make for a court appearance (the court might grant at least a temporary order if you "no show"), but if you're no threat, the court wouldn't grant one to him.
Frankly, HE'S been more of a threat to you than you have to him by what you say.
As for the lady friend, best to leave her be and put as much distance between her, him and yourself as possible. If you were REALLY eager to join that club, well, you'll just have to forfeit those dreams, as long as the "lady friend" is a member. I can't imagine what all the "inside politics" that is going on in that club, but it seems best for you to steer clear of it ALL.
Have a polite day.
2007-10-21 18:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by wyomugs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, why would you want to join a club in which the people you've made mention of here sound extremely dysfunctional, to say the very least??
the guy threatened to ruin your business, and to get a restraining order against you for wanting to pick up something from his place that belonged to you! and the girl you tried to reach out to who happens to be a friend of the guy, completely ignores you when you try to congratulate her and wish her a happy birthday!
I don't want to be rude, but you need to ask yourself why you'd want to be a member of a club where people have a habit of turning on you at the drop of a hat for no apparent reason.
and it's not a good idea to be talking to the guy who threatened you with a restraining order.
2007-10-21 17:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by atiana 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the only thing you can do is explain to your friend that you wanted to go to her birthday party, but you didn't because of some history between you and one of the other guests. Hopefully your friend will understand. In the future, I strongly encourage you to stay out of sexual relations until you are married. It just makes things easier. I'm sorry things have turned out so bad for you with this one boy and I hope you'll have a better future.
2007-10-21 19:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Claim insanity or basket-case syndrome and stay away from everyone connected to confusing mess.
2007-10-21 18:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lighthouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the divorce i'm going through
keep your head up, and keep on going
be glad you're rid of this control freak
2007-10-21 17:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by onceisenoughilearnedmylesson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of anyone that trys to control you
2007-10-21 17:57:21 · answer #7 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would put as much distance between me and him as possible. This sounds terribly unstable.
2007-10-21 17:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by Mercedes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Somthin' like this is happenin' to me, except i'm dating no one. Just forget that chump. i don't see why your so attached to that dude.
2007-10-21 17:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by confused! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Atiana said it all.
2007-10-22 02:46:49 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋