Upset because he hurt me...a lot. (Please read, it's long.)?

Question

While with my friends, we all had this contest thing, and the guy I'm interested in (I'll call him C) was the judge. He scored us all and I got the highest at 9/10 but I wondered why I didn't get a complete 10. Jokingly, I complain to him, and he doesn't seem to understand what I'm saying so I speak louder so he can hear me. He gets mad and claims that he'll take it back and give me a lower score and how I am trying to argue with him and yelling. I say nothing until he asks me soon after, "What were you saying about the glue?" still mad, I mimic what he says in a silly voice and it highly offends him...he tells me to leave. So I tell him I was only joking, and he says it's mockery and such. Well I keep my mouth shut and seem all depressed for the reminder of the day. I'm usually always staring at him (he knows this) but this time I refused to even look at him. A few times during the time with my friends he'd say stuff like, "She's giving me a dirty look...that's not good." -Continued

"She's gonna kill me!" and stuff like that all while smiling. He also looked at me and said I must be bored as I looked at my watch...he then told me "You need to get over it...you need to get over things quickly." I ignore this and continue seeming mad/sad. Before he leaves, he says he apologizes for snapping at me, and that I must still want to kill him now...I give him a weak smile and then he says bye to everyone and leaves.

I'm afraid now that this means he isn't interested in me as I'm sure no man who loved a girl would be so strict. Tomorrow I'm thinking of still being all depressed, instead of just forgetting about it because I am afraid that he doesn't feel the same way about me (And I won't ask, 17 + 20 is not legal yet anyways, but I will be 18 in a few months) So I don't know what to do. A interesting tid bit is that he was sick with food poisoning the day after this...karma? Lol...

Answer 1

he gave you a nine out of ten and thats awesome! I'd be happy- and he prob thought so too- and maybe was embarassed that you werent happy with it...... i dont think it should have been a big deal...... try and let it go- think of what the point would be if you argued about it? it wouldnt really make sense.....

Answer 2

i though under 16 wasn't legal?

Anyways, you are acting like a 5 year old

get over yourself...u were being petty he didn't give you a 10 when he gave u a 9. I know u were joking but seriously.
U guys just aren't on the same page. Then u pouted the rest of the day??!! U say u normally stare at him?

U need to get your emotions more balanced and be more detached. Men will appreciate this and times will be spent more in laughter and happiness. You may be joking with your little games, but to some it is annoying. Humor is one thing when all involved laugh. But i knew a cynical man and he thought he was being humorous, but that kind of humor is annoying and I run from it.

Maybe you learned this pattern of behavior from your rents...chill out! Get some yoga or group meditation. Look up meetups.com for a place in your city.

Work out some of that tension in something you like (e.g. exercise or dance or tennis, etc)

You need to stop playing games and tell that boy, you apologize for being a brat. Learn to get angry less, joking or not, and make the most of them moment...if you one day scare someone good off, you might not ever meet someone that great again. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

I can only think of one way to break this to you - directly.

Honey, you are putty in this guy's hands. Wrapped around his little finger. Mooning after him! He SO knows you like him and he is SO letting you know he's watching you watching him! And he's enjoying the feeling of power it gives him.

So stop acting. Start doing. And start behaving like a grown-up. Playing games like this is childish, staring at him is childish - basically your behaviour in general is immature and it's no wonder he feels he can take the mickey the way he's doing. No pretending to be whatever emotion you think will get you what you want. Just say it outright, be direct and clear about what you want. If he says no, then he says no, and don't act all surprised if he does. But you might just surprise him into saying yes, if you do it right.

Oh, and he's not hurting you, love, he's calling your bluff. There's a difference.

Answer 4

Just get over it - what is being sad going to do....he might think that you are too senstitive, immature or an attention seeker....just be careful with your behaviour babe.
Just walk up to him say hi and sorry about the other day you were only kidding and didnt mean for him to snap at you but it did upset you. Remember he did apologise so don't go and make the situation difficult.

Good luck :-)