how am i supose to get a boyfriend if i can't be "easy"?

Answer 1

If you have to be "easy" to get a boyfriend with the people you know, you are hanging around with the WRONG crowd girl.
Stand firm, make new friends. You will be glad you did the RIGHT thing.........

Answer 2

Good answers so far.

First off though you need to ask yourself what YOU want to GET a boyfriend for?

Do you feel a need to be like everybody else? Or do you want a companion for life? Or are you just out for thrills? Or do you want to find someone rich to use as a money source or to show off and say, "see what I got and you didn't??"

In general, an "easy" girl gets used, and dumped repeatedly, and ends up with a reputation as being "easy" and so can be used and discarded.

And believe it or not, there are men who do not want to be "easy" themselves, and look for a true and lasting committed relationship! When you are known as "easy" you exclude these men pretty much from the available field, leaving you the guys who are out to exploit the "easy" girls for good times without commitment.

And a guy will always know you were easy and wonder if you will be faithful, which is a strain on a good future relationship.

You also greatly increase your risk of various diseases, some serious, some merely annoying for the rest of your life. Dunno if I would be looking for a diseased partner myself, if I could have one who had not gone and gotten a serious disease, by sleeping around.

Finally, your brain chemistry changes with sexual intercourse, and even with falling in love, and when you make those commitments, and break them, you become less and less able to make satisfying relationships, and have to take more chances, and it becomes a downward spiral in many cases. And I'd not bet myself that I would be the exception to the rule.

Answer 3

Being "easy" sends a message to guys:
1) I hop in bed quickly and don't think about it, so I'm likely to cheat on you.

2) I have bad judgement, so I'll be a bad partner.

3) I don't have respect for myself.

Please consider taking it slow. Remember the old 90's song "Don't go chasing waterfalls, please stick to the rivers and the lakes that you're used to. I know that you're gonna have it your way or nothing at all, but I think you're moving too fast".

Or Lauren Hill's song "That thing". Girl you know you better watch out/some guys some guys are only about that thing that thing that thing/

Keeping it in your pants lets the guy see the real you, the brain, the personality, the sensitivity, the style, the sense of humor.

If a guy is a good friend he will appreciate that, so if you're young (a teenager) please focus on developing friendships with guys. This is good advice, because when you eventually get married you will be best friends with a guy, so you better know what they're all about. The better you get to know guys the more you'll realize that they want a woman who's interested in them, not just "getting a boyfriend".

He is so much more than just a boyfriend.

Answer 4

It's not that you "can't" be easy. It's about having too much respect for yourself to be easy. I refused to be easy and I've been single since I left high school 5 years ago. Honestly, most guys are such knuckleheads sometimes that it takes a lady who's not easy to make them sit up and pay attention. If you're like most girls, you don't just want any old boyfriend. You want a guy that's worth your time and who will treat you with respect. It might take longer to find that one or he might just fall into your lap. Either way, he'll be worth the wait.

Just do things that show that you have respect for yourself (keep up your appearance, your behavior, etc). Guys notice stuff like that. That way, he'll know if you respect yourself that much, you'll respect him, too. Who could resist that? ;-)

Answer 5

It sounds like you may be going through the blues.

Let me assure you, I find some of the "not easy" women to be more attractive. They haven't been used up ad sit aside if you know what I mean.

Just be yourself and don't knock others. There is probably someone attracted to you but scared to say so. Usually somebody you wouldn't think is even paying attention.

Be aware of the type of people you try to attract by doing something you don't want to do. If you start being "easy", you will attract every dog that will sniff you out. If you stay "not easy", you usually attract people that like you for your personality, conversation, etc.

Good luck.

Answer 6

if a guy wants a girl just because they are "easy" then the guy isn't worth it. i wouldn't stress over having a bf. i use to then i realized there are more important things to stress about like myself and making sure I'm being me, not someone everyone else wants me to be. once you stop stressing bout having a bf then you'll find that love will actually find you. and if a guy wants you for you and doesn't pressure you into sex then that is the guy that you want. all these girls that think that having sex and pleasing the man is important are going to wake up one day and hate themselves for what they have done and think of themselves as dirty. also girls like this that are "easy" really do not know who they are themselves and are insecure in themselves you do not want to be this type of person do you. it doesn't matter if you don't have a bf it will happen one day. and you'll be so lucky and glad that you waited and/or didn't give yourself up as easily as some had.

Answer 7

Not every guy just wants a slutty girl. If you're easy, you will only attract easy guys- not a good formula for a relationship. Just- don't put out right away- if he sticks around, then move on to the next step- then I believe you have reached boyfriend status.

Answer 8

First, you must define in your own standards the word "easy." well,i believe, easy girls are those who agreed to get necked and laid on the first few dates.
Dating is the best way to know each other. When a cute guy seemed staring at you over the campus, and you even dont know each other, and then he asked you for a date, saying yes is not being easy. it means that the guy is worth seeing to and that you are interested to know him more.
That way you will meet more guy. the more, the better because there you would have comparison and choose the best.
its not being easy. its being picky.

Answer 9

you be your self and wait for the right guy to come around he will eventually and you may have to wait a little bit but itll happen----------- look at it this way if your "easy" to get him once hes there all he will want is sex all the time and if thats not you then why would you want to be with someone like that----if you wait and be your self and go out and have fun you will probably meet him when your doing something you like and if hes ther he must like that too and you already have something in common so just be yourself and give it time good things happen to those who wait

Answer 10

being easy is not not NOT the thing to do. I know that some guys like it when a girl plays hard to get. Just be yourself, and you will find the guy that wants you for who you are, not becuase you are easy, unless you want to be known as the **** or ***** of the school.