Okay this is Kinda hypothetical:
Say last year your freinds with somebody and think that he/she likes you.
Then at a dance you yell at him/her and his/her boyfreind/girlfreind after being stressed and feel embarrased afterwards.
Then you feel guilty, and realize you actually like him/her.Now you realize you made a really big mistake and they don't like u anymore (you think)
Next year, he/she and you are sorta freinds again but not as close.
She/He starts to like your best freinds and it becomes more obvious then black is darker then white.
You start to get jealous of your best freinds and know it's wrong but don't know what do. and you still like them.
What do you do next?
2007-10-21 16:02:23 · 34 answers · asked by Rydon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Umm....People, This is a hypothetical question...I'm just wondered what you would do in this situation.....thank for you answers though I guess.
2007-10-21 16:11:36 · update #1
Have an honest talk with your best friend about your feelings. But first explain that you friendship is important. Let the best friend know just how you feel and see what kind of reply you get. Make the difference between envy and jelousy. It's OK to envy her/him.
Stay calm. Life is not over regardless of the outcome. You may even be surprised by the anwser or by motives you uncover. For example, it's classic to go after the best friend as a form of revenge. Things are not always what they seem. Your best friend may also be just ready to dump that other person. Who knows. If you value your best friend, be honest, and explain your disconfort/envy.
In the end, you and the opportunity may have been two ships who passed each other and missed. Your obviously older than you were last year. So give yourself a break for having been that stressed out and missing "opportunity" last year. Dont be so black and white and keep your options open next time.
:-)
Hope this helps
P
2007-10-21 16:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by forest_bug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go get a make over.
Pamper yourself.
Get over it.
If you can't get over it. Do whatever it takes to get him to like you just a little bit or to go on one date with you. Then when he takes the bait give him the cold shoulder and pretend you don't want to have anything to do with him.
It'll make him go crazy wondering why he got jilted by someone that should be running after him.
You'll feel better. :) ha ha ha ha ha
2007-10-21 16:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would get over it, it was only a crush. And if they like my best friend and I have mixed feelings about it I would just let it be known that I used to like this guy but Im over it and if my BF likes him too then I would let them go for it. Not worth hurtin my feelings for. Too many guys out there!! Get Money!!
2007-10-21 16:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by Scooby 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it were me, I'd tell my friend what was going on and live with the fact that, unless I put in some serious time with the person I kinda like and then get reeeeally lucky, I don't stand a chance.
And I'd be happy for my friend. :P
2007-10-21 16:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by Bellicosa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let your mind do the talking; you have to voice what is being felt.
If you don't it'll eat you up. You have to ignore the possibilities of a bad outcome, and good, and just do what you need to do to get the feelings of of your shoulders.
2007-10-21 16:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by ZYQ9 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1) Find new friends
2) Wait a few years to give you time to mature
3) Find other interests and just go about your business. Basically ignore them/him/her. When you show you are not longer interested they will become interested.
4) Be patient
2007-10-21 16:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Considering that I like spam and not Lima beans, I would say that if they don't like you and you like them, then the next day you like them and they drop you off a three story building on your head and mom comes to visit you at the hospital and grandma brings Lima beans that would not go down with 6 quarts of milk on a bet,,,, then I would punt. = KEY is to punt.
2007-10-21 16:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'd say your best choice is to tell him/her how you feel or else it's gonna be hanging in your head forever. If it's not meant to be, you can move on with a clean start. If your friends are real friends, they'll support you.
2007-10-21 16:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by Deus Ex Machina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should first start to hang out with him more. eat lunch together. talk to him. he will probably like you again if you hang out with him. But don't make it to obviuos. Then he will know you like him. if he still dosen't like you after that. Whatever you do DON'T get made at your friend. she didn't do anything. If none of this works talk to you parent about it.
2007-10-21 16:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell he/she or him/her how you feel. and get this out in the open. it's obviously been on your mind for a while and bothering you - so why waste more time?? if he/she likes you - then you might as well know now and start having fun together. if he/she doesn't like you better to know now so you can move on!!
2007-10-21 16:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋