it sounds wierd but i am having a hard time with this. we have been together for over 3 years and are both going to the same college. we have talked about marrying each other and having kids with each other. i love him so much and would do anything for him. but alot of the time it seems like i am second, third, even fourth priority to his friends, school... anything! school i can definitely imagine but his friends are nothing special. his "best friend" went 6 months without calling hiim, answering his calls, lying to him and trying to avoid him, and now that there hanging out again it really bothers me because theres MANY times when this friends comes before me and he will only hang out with me when his friends cant or dont want to do anything with him. also it seems like he puts on an act for his friends and if they dont want him to bewith a girl girl then he puts me even lower on his list to make those friends happy. why would he do this and then want to marry me? am i crazy?!
2007-10-21 16:01:01 · 4 answers · asked by Lynne. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well i think you both need to sit down and talk about what he wants? sounds like he wants his space and time and i can totally understand it. you both are very young and I think instead of putting yourselves first, you should just enjoy the time you both have with each other and also have time for your friends.
You need to find your passion in life too. it sounds like you are pressuring him to be with you and make you his everything..hello you are just his gf! you should not be attached at his hips for crying out loud, woman..give him his space and don't bager him, nag him, complain to him..he is still young...if u stop this, you'll see ..he will come to you! trust me. If you act needy, you will only drive him away..Just give him his space. Find something to do for yourself too.
2007-10-21 16:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by mercedesgal63 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to grow up and get his riorities traight.He wants to be loved and accepted by toher people than you.You CANNOT be his everything.You are finding that out now.You need to have a serious talk with him and explain his loyalty should be to those who treat him best.not the other way around groveling for a pat on the head by people who mistreat him.Tell him he is BETTER than that and can find better friends.
2007-10-21 23:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why but the cow if the milk is free...is an ol saying..........it appears he's already letting you know his ways..and you thus far have accepted him being who he is............3 years is a lifetime to some...........if you are not at the top now..girl your never gonna be...............so bottle up the milk..........and put the cow out to pasture...............
2007-10-21 23:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by hghostinme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy. He is just not making you a priority.
2007-10-21 23:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by crasher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋